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Saturday, December 29, 2012

So, I meet this guy 3 weeks ago. With in those 3 weeks I have hung out with him twice. Each time we hang out he treats me as if hes interested in me. He will kiss me in front of people "grls" he will sit inbetween my legs on the floor when im sitting on the couch everyone we chill with people think we are dating even his mom!!!! But within those 3 weeks we dont text or talk much. So I really only talk to him 2-3x a week if that... and its always him texing me. Their was one time I texted him good morning but never got a text back so that kinda made me feel rejected. I really really like this guy.. but im giving him space. I dont want to seem clingy.. he just got out of a 12 year relationship with his ex girlfriend "its been 1year" but 12 years is along time.. im thinking he still wants to be with her.. he tells me hes done with her but who knows.. or hes taking things slow.. or hes worried to get his heart broken again.. idk what to think.. im over analyzing everything and everytime i posted a blog on sp it always made me feel better! But while im sitting here confused.. its just making me work that much harder at losing weight. Because when I workout I dont think about him...
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LANEYTHEGIRL 1/6/2013 6:51PM

    In my experience, when a guy is REALLY into you and wants to pursue something, he will. Period. But if he doesn't, don't take it as personal rejection. There are many reasons a man may not purse a relationship or make the effort. He could feel not ready for financial reasons or other life circumstances. He could, as you suspect here, not be emotionally ready. He could also not see any long-term potential.

I would say to forget about this guy in any real way for now. Spend time with him but continue to pursue other opportunities. Try to relax and be yourself when you are with him. If you are all twisted up, he'll feel that. Confidence and a relaxed demeanor are more sexy than weight or any other physical attribute. When he's ready, he'll do something and if he doesn't, you won't care because you were already moving on.

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WOUBBIE 12/30/2012 10:02AM

    Sounds like you're doing the right things - showing you're interested without being too needy or clingy. It's so hard to be patient, though, when you always want to see him NOWWWWWW!!!

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Proceed with caution but proceed!

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LAURIE160IN2013 12/30/2012 3:57AM

    Sounds like he just isn't a very chatty person. Nothing wrong with that--unless you really want a communicative guy who will answer all your texts, etc. I suspect that he isn't really looking for a relationship now--he's just hanging out and enjoying your company. As for the ex factor, lots of men never get over their exes. So be careful there. If he seems to want you to be someone other than your own wonderful self (e.g., "How come you never do X?" or "I like my girlfriend to do Y"), he might be wishing you would do things HER way. In which case, run away!
Good luck,
Laurie

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