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Respect Your Limitations

Friday, December 28, 2012

I so admire the people who can keep weight off without logging food. How much more convenient life must be without having to write it all down! But I'm not one of them.

Rarely can I let junk food in the house. It's just to hard for me to keep my mitts (and tongue) off of it.

I've had people question and challenge me on both of these issues. In years gone by I have let others bully me into bringing foods that were not in my best interest into my home when I knew I wasn't strong enough to resist them. I've also felt ashamed that I planned to log my food even after I lost my weight, despite knowing it would help me to maintain, because someone told me that wasn't a realistic way to live.

But not anymore: These are two limitations I've had to acknowledge and respect about myself.

I have a friend who finds it necessary to does better when she pays a trainer/coach to help her get and stay fit. It's something she has to work into her budget to stay successful. She's not weaker than anyone else. Quite the opposite: She is strong enough to recognize and respect her own unique needs and then implement them.

Another person I know finds it necessary to attend Weight Watchers meetings and weigh-in on a weekly basis in order to stay in maintenance mode.

Some do best avoiding restaurants; others can't stay home because they eat out of boredom. Some have superior results t if they plan their meals ahead, while others will rebel and overeat if their foods are strictly dictated: These folks see more success with a little (or a lot) more give in their eating plan. Still others do better if they avoid things like white flour or sugar all together, while some reach their goals better when they can indulge a little from time to time.

Your picture of success will not look like that of anyone else. This is a good thing and as it should be. You have to be true to your personality and respect your own limitations. Maybe these boundaries will change with time. Maybe they won't. But for lasting success in the weight loss and fitness game, you are going to have to be honest and true with yourself about what works for you.

If someone else doesn't like it? Well....... Let them eat cake........

Or not......
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  • KARENE10
    Great Blog! So true! I was a WW lifetime member and as soon as I stopped going to the meetings I gained the weight back. You HAVE to do what works for you.
    1828 days ago
  • IRP1114
    Great blog! I am still learning what works for me.
    1864 days ago
    Your blog is illuminating. What do I need to do to keep me on the good track? The "whatever it takes" for me needs me to tailor it for me. Seems like a very self focused statement, but I am not a marathoner (wanna' be), I am not lean by nature, I am a senior citizen (can't do the 30 something things that work for 30 somethings). Thank you for the encouragement!
    1866 days ago
    Great blog.
    1876 days ago
    LOVED this blog!! Weight management is such a personal thing yet people get so passionate about it that they feel they must advise you on what you should and shouldn't do. Not good. Everyone is different and needs different things to be successful. Everyone should find the things that work best for them. emoticon
    1877 days ago
    Once again you have words of wisdom. I have set January 2nd as my D-Day for a kitchen and pantry clean-out day. So many "taboo" food items have entered onto the premises over the past 3 months, to many trips for fast-food, and not logging in my foods. When I get off of my routine of logging all foods and exercise my weight creeps up.
    Looking for a healthier and fit 2013. Good luck to you and your goals.
    1877 days ago
    I lost my weight 5 years ago and I still log my food most days! If I don't, I tend not to pay attention to what I eat... that is my shortcoming. We didn't lose the weight the same way as others and we won't maintain the weight the same way as others! Knowing your own weakness is definitely a strength.
    1877 days ago
    emoticon blog!!
    1878 days ago
    What a great subject. I feel the need to log my food as well. I do tend to forget the little tastes that I have. But I am trying to do better. I need to look at food as fuel for my body.
    1878 days ago
    GREAT post!!
    1878 days ago
    Great blog NancyAnne!
    1878 days ago
    Dealing with interference, criticism and sabotage has been my biggest challenge. I try to be a strong person and brush it off but it's so common that it makes me wonder what the heck is wrong with people in general?
    1878 days ago

    You can do it! We can do it!

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    1878 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/29/2012 8:44:07 AM
    Damn Straight.

    It just kills me when I'm told that "intuitive eating" should be my goal.

    My intuition? Is to eat, and eat, and eat, and eat...

    A couple of things factor into this, I think.

    First, people who have lost half their own body weight tend to need more assistance keeping it off. Our food "off" switches are especially broken; otherwise we would never have gained all that weight in the first place.

    Second, people who are trying to stay very very fit for aesthetic or athletic reasons tend to need more assistance because they're asking their bodies to go to places that the "average" person does not.

    It was a big eye-opener to me when I happened to browse the Army height/weight tables yesterday, and found out that what I consider unacceptably overweight for me is well within the tolerances for their standards of my gender, age, and height. Plus I have 25% denser bones than average (according to DXA) and probably at least 10 lbs of extra skin.

    It appears I'm more demanding of my own fitness than the US Military is of their soldiers.

    So, yeah. When I see someone telling the world (or me) to put down the food tracker or "lighten up and have just one" I consider the source. If he or she has lost 30 lbs max and is not trying to get lean, then I understand that s/he has no idea what I'm attempting, and I ignore it. The advice is worthless to me. And generally it's people in that category, or people who could stand to lose a few themselves, who seem to say things like that.
    1878 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/29/2012 8:46:48 AM
    Knowing our limitations is so important. I will not run in a cold rain. Not out of lack of discipline, but because I went seriously hypothermic on a run last year and I was in real jeopardy if I hadn't gotten home soon enough.

    I also mad the decision to ditch the upright bicycle. Last year I fell twice. Once caused a torn rotator cuff serious enough that I am still recovering from the surgery 11 months later. The other fall was a concussion. Since that second fall in April I have been on the bike about 6 times. I lack confidence. I turn 60 in 2013 and my balance is not going to improve as I get older. So I am switching over to a recumbent trike. Three points make a plane, right?

    But knowing our limitations doesn't mean we have to give up. Just do it differently.
    1879 days ago
  • ROCKMAN6797
    Somebody was busy getting their thoughts out there! :)
    Love the blogs, they ring so true. As you so eloquently stated, you have to find something that works, do it, and keep at it. Thank you for driving these points home!

    1879 days ago
    I don't mind logging the food but HATE looking it up to find it - would rather just write it down. But the exercise I have no problem logging :-) Thanks for the inspiration.
    1879 days ago
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