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2013 - It's still 365 days no matter what you do.

Friday, December 28, 2012

This week I have been considering 2013 and the making of resolutions, goals, things like that. To me it seems to be an interchange of words for the same thing. We often talk about being realistic for both when setting them and to be sure not to set ourselves up for failure. That is likely to become an end result when we get too eager or enthusiastic in our plans for a new year.

How often have you or perhaps someone you know, said or thought, if something isn't done now it will never be done. So, a time limit it placed on it no matter if it can be done or not. Even not allotting time for the unexpected can be a deal breaker plunging one into the failure part. Or at least convincing the one trying, to give up or become really depressed because there is a feeling of "can't" do or accomplish. Rather than to say or write, I want to reach my goal by the end of the year, wouldn't it be easier to think/say/write I want to reach half or one quarter of my goal by the end of the year? That is so much more realistic and doable, plus it gives time for the unexpected that may draw you away from accomplishment. Things like, a twisted ankle, unexpected crop losses sending up produce prices to make them unaffordable, unexpected severe weather that damages your garden, etc.

We can all do as much as we can and no more. And we can all do too little or nothing at all. The end of the year still arrives in 365 days. Whether or not we stay the same or challenge ourselves in making life long commitments to a healthier life style changes, the end appears on December 31 at midnight each year. We live through the same amount of time. It seems we would be not only healthier, but also happier, if we became proactive rather than sticking to the status quo which may possibly shorten how many of those years we are around to see come and go.

Nothing good is ever easy, so the saying goes. I believe at least the first few times of doing anything is rarely easy. I tend to compare the exercise and eating changes to a new job. When first starting out, it is never all that easy. Even if you have done the work for years, you must learn new expectations, additions, subtractions, to what you have always done. It takes time and practice. Rarely do you succeed the very first day. Same way with changing from bad eating habits. You have always eaten. But now you need to change to learn all you can about what your body needs and the best way to get it to be successful in getting the biggest body value for what enters your system. No one else can do that, but you. When i first came to SparkPeople I didn't think i would ever be able to exercise in any of the ways normally thought of because most of my time was spent in a motorized wheelchair. Then I discovered the Chair Exercise Team. The leaders there have done so much of the work for all who have the same issues. There are reviews of books, videos, newsletters, dedicated web pages, it's all good. The sharing and support of fellow members is wonderful. How good it is to know others in the same position have improved so much, some to the point of not having to use their chair with some even participating in runs! I am out of my chair for the most part. Running still is a ways off. I keep aiming for it, but I don't include it in goals or resolutions anymore as I realize it may never happen for me because of my health issues.

Learning so much on my Spark journey and cancer journeys since joining the site, I have decided to be different in 2013. No more resolutions, I'm not even thinking goals this time around. I reached my goal in August of this year. Yes, it is 150 pounds gone since April 2010 when I got serious, but i intend to stay with everything I have done in those 2.5 years to accomplishment of the final goal. I still intend to reward myself for maintaining what I am over time. However, this year - 2013 - I intend to make a year of weekly challenges to achieve. It is something that I can accomplish in those 365 days that I haven't thus far. My plan is to challenge myself to do something new every week. That will be 52 new things by next year at this time. It might be trying a new fruit or veggie or exercise or even a food. But whatever it is, it will be new to me. While I'm at it, I'm going to also challenge myself to blog about what I have done each week. That should do well to make myself accountable. I learned to do web pages in Front Page, which is no longer supported by our host. I know so little HTML and have no knowledge of the other programs that are supported. Because of that, I have been totally dependent on Bob to keep my pages updated and sadly that hasn't been working too well because I can't seem to explain exactly what I want. So it is possible one of those new things i try will be to learn to take care of my own web sites/pages. As of now I haven't decided exactly what I'll do or when. But I do know it will be different and a learning experience.

Should I decided I want to make goals, they will be monthly rather than yearly. They will also be realistic and doable. This is another blog entry to show them at the end of one month and a blog entry at the beginning of the next month to show how much I have accomplished. It's all just another way to keep myself accountable! The blog challenges i do, also count in those goals. I have really enjoyed the ones I participated in this past year. I'm thinking my followers have, too, by comments and notes I receive.

If anyone likes my idea of a new weekly challenge of trying something new rather than making resolutions for 2013, won't you join me? LEt me know you are interested in the comments, on my Spark page or Spark mail, and if there is anything at all I can to to help you be accountable for this. Perhaps some of those who wish to join me will want a team. All you need do is let me know and we can see who else wants it and who would like to be a team leader and simply go for it.

No matter what is decided, those 365 days will still go by no matter if you do your best or sit on your hands. So you might as well be the best you of all!! What do you think? Do YOU have any ideas or thoughts? Everyone already knows how I feel about wanting to learn new ideas and thoughts from my Spark Buddies. Step right up and post your thoughts in the comments!

Love Peace Hope
Ev








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HICKOK-HALEY 12/30/2012 12:47AM

    I agree with you. Shorter term goals are probably more realistic. Funny, I was just thinking about this the other day. Here's to 2013! emoticon

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CHERIRIDDELL 12/30/2012 12:23AM

    I really like the idea of trying something new I think I will join you!

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LINDA! 12/29/2012 9:01PM

    My biggest accomplishment in 2012 was exercising everyday. Some days it was 2 hours...somedays it was 10 minutes. But it all added up. Now I am contemplating 2013!!

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DRUIDPRINCESS 12/29/2012 4:46PM

    What a thought-provoking blog! Thank you for sharing this with us. Count me in on your team of short-term/monthly goals! I am spending a quiet morning this morning gathering my thoughts about my game plan, and I certainly want to attack 2013 with your mindset!

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PMFISH 12/29/2012 2:21PM

    My biggest accomplishment this past year has been in eliminating the physical disabilities. Look forward to see if I can make equal or more progress in 2013!

Always enjoy your blogs.

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VONBLACKBIRD 12/29/2012 2:06PM

    I love the idea of a weekly challenge..I'm keeping an online blog of my weekly challenges for 2013..blogspot is free and easy to learn really so maybe try there. you can even put paypal links on if you want to try to sell things..good luck..know you can do it as you have already proven yourself by losing so much. Maintenance is much much harder I've learned. good luck.

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NEW-CAZ 12/29/2012 3:11AM

    Brilliant blog Ev, have a healthy and happy 2013.
I look forward to reading more of your writings, they're emoticon

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BLUE42DOWN 12/29/2012 1:11AM

    What a neat plan for 2013! I look forward to your blogs.

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KARIDIAN1 12/28/2012 11:25PM

    Great Blog Ev.

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IAM_HIS2 12/28/2012 11:18PM

    You did a wonderful blog...Have a healthy, happy New Year!

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1STATEOFDENIAL 12/28/2012 8:09PM

    I think that instead of saying I'll accomplish XX goal in the next year, or saying you'll accomplish half or a quarter of a goal, it's much more important to know short term, medium term, and long term goals. The long term doesn't necessarily need an end date, whereas the short term goals tend to work better with one. Still, I think part of what I read in your blog is the need for acceptance: we need to accept our limitations and work with them, not against them. You know you can't run right now, but you can hope that as a long term goal you might be able to jog for any distance and to get there you're working on short term goals of exercising and walking when you can. If there comes a time that it becomes apparent that having a goal of jogging/running has become harmful (you're pushing yourself too hard, become depressed about it, etc) then it's time for acceptance that it might not be possible but your short term goals and medium term goals are still possible.

Too often I've seen people who cut back their goals to make them easier and when they meet those goals they say 'I'm done' and never reach further. By setting multiple levels of goals it helps us feel accomplishment with the short term goals but still have something to strive for.

Just my two cents. I've had to face a lot of acceptance moments in the last 2-3 years, and I know when it comes to goals it's just as important to accept when a goal has become impossible as it is to still be willing to set goals to replace the ones you've reached or had to give up.

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BARBANNA 12/28/2012 6:36PM

    Thanks and happy new year!

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JOYCECAIN 12/28/2012 6:22PM

    I am game, let me know if you are going to start a team. Loved this blog.

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DIBANANA 12/28/2012 6:20PM

  Great blog. We should watch what we plan on accomplishing so we will be pleasantly surprised!

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