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"No rum balls for you.You are on a diet" and cookies in the disposal..Xmas maintenance

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Thursday, December 27, 2012

I have lost 117 pounds and am in one year and three months of maintenance. One of my tools to stay focused during the holidays is to get rid of the abundance of goodies that keep arriving.
I have dumped trays of cookies in the disposal. I might comment that in my addictive past, I would search for unfinished bags of cookies in the garbage!
I have gotten rid of 3 boxes of candy. As I was carrying a box of chocolate covered macadamia nuts out of the house, I had to laugh. I realized that I really have changed my life,. People might think my actions are crazy and wasteful, but staying healthy has become part of my life.

I have enjoyed Xmas celebrations. I did make xmas goodies that my family wanted. However, this Xmas, I have finally realized that I do not need to have a super huge meal of tons of appetizers, side dishes, deserts to celebrate. I am happier and healthier with simpler meals.

So people at work have watched me stay away from sweets for a year. Sometimes people are supportive and other times they are critical. One of my co-workers prides herself on making plates and plates of her mother's rum balls for everyone. This year after handing out plates to everyone, she walks over to me and says in an angry voice, "You are not getting any rum balls. You are on a diet." I was surprised at the hostility. I realized she sees me as being a grinch of Xmas because I have not been indulging in the office treats. She felt that I was personally ruining her Xmas gifts by not eating sugar.
My reaction is threefold. Once again I realize how alone this journey of health can be in today's world. Plus, once again someone is trying to tell me what I can or cannot eat. And finally, I want to say," excuse me I am not on a diet. Just because I am eating healthfully does not mean I am on a diet. I have been maintaining for a year."

To be a maintainer or succesful in weight loss you have to lose your fear of disappointing people. You need a very strong belief in what is important to you. You will often be alone in your journey.

I do not have a New Year's resolution. What I do have is a daily commitment to staying healthy. I will continue this throughout the year.

I am happy. I am in my goal range for the holiday season. I am working very hard to stay in that range throughout the holidays. I feel positive and stronger as I enter my second year of maintenance. I plan on being in that 50% of the 5 percent who keep it off for two years!

Happy Holidays to all of the wonderful Spark People.
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  • GRANDMASHUNGRY
    What a great blog.
    I have turned down all kinds of goodies over the past couple of weeks but I have to admit that I have eaten quite a few.
    I don't know how many times I have heard 'just a few won't hurt.'
    I'm glad all of you understand but I wish the people we are with daily would!
    Congratulations on maintaining your weight!
    1370 days ago
  • VICKI-BISHOP56
    Great blog and congrats on your resolve to stay healthy. emoticon
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  • MJREIMERS
    emoticon I didn't realize, but what you said about this being a lonely journey is true. I guess that's why I really appreciate YOU and your stops by my blogs. It doesn't feel so lonely with friends like you around!

    emoticon on your willpower and emoticon job on continuing to maintain through the holidays. I see a big celebration when you hit the 2 year mark! (I just realized my two years is coming up in the spring!) We can party together!!
    1370 days ago
  • BERTA6978
    VERY inspiring! I especially like your thought, quoted below. emoticon

    "To be a maintainer or succesful in weight loss you have to lose your fear of disappointing people. You need a very strong belief in what is important to you. You will often be alone in your journey"


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  • 2013VICTORY

    Yep. One more thing that contributes to the whole of dealing with the "weight thing" Good for you for throwing out stuff you don't want to eat! My friend once told me that food is more "wasted" when you overeat than when you throw it away.
    1370 days ago
  • VOLLEYGIRL77
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  • HHB4181
    Great job! Forget those other people, you do what's best for you!
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  • REENIE131
    Awesome job! And phooey on your coworker and her controlling ways!
    1371 days ago
  • KRHEMMER
    What helps me to throw away those treats is that I don't consider them to be "food". This year I threw all my excess in the fire! I derived a great deal of pleasure from hearing those sinful treats burning/boiling away! Sadistic, but I can live with that emoticon Congratulations on all your successes and have a wonderful New Year!
    1371 days ago
  • SHIRE33
    Good for you. You got some great comments, too. Rum ball nazi! :D I also agree with Karren. If you were lactose intolerant, people wouldn't berate you for not guzzling a glass of milk. If you were diabetic, they wouldn't snort and mock you for not eating a plate of candy. If you had a peanut allergy, they wouldn't be leaving peanut butter cookies on your desk. They just don't get it. It feels liberating to realize you don't have to give a flip about what other people think of your eating.


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  • LAWANDMUSIC
    Excellent. I am truly peeved that others need to demean you and your lifestyle. BAD!
    1371 days ago
  • FITFOODIE806
    Daily commitment to being healthy! Yes!!! That's exactly what maintenance is. T is hard hard work. And you are doing the work. Congrats!
    1371 days ago
  • BLUEJEAN99
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  • 1GODISMYROCK1
    Man, I can SO relate! I got called "anorexic" by my brother, because he thinks I'm obsessed. Yes, I'll admit, I'm obsessed. I've lost 95lbs. I'm obsessed with staying that way. I want to STAY healthy. I NEVER go back, so although I may have an occasional bite or two, of goodies, I don't eat that stuff. I made 2 YUMMY side dishes to go with the ham we had for Christmas dinner. Everyone liked them. I get upset if I put on a few pounds. My brother doesn't understand this. I'm NOT anorexic! I will NOT starve myself to achieve my goals. I'd LIKE to loose another 5-10lbd, because according to weight charts, I'm still about 20lbs overweight. I may never make it. I'm okay with that. I'm NOT okay with gaining weight though. I've put on about 4-5lbs over the holidays. I'm determined to get it back off. emoticon
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  • SUSIEMT
    Yea you! Keep up the good work! Happy New year!
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  • ROCKYCPA
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  • ILIKETOZUMBA
    I am maintaining my weight and my healthy lifestyle these days, and I fight the same battle when it comes to super-cheesy or high-sodium foods with my family. They don't understand that I just don't want to eat a lot of that stuff; it makes me feel bad physically and I prefer eating healthier. Maybe you can donate the food somewhere, to a church maybe? Or give it away instead of throwing it out? It seems a shame to throw out food.
    1371 days ago
  • CAKEMAKERMOM
    Gotta love how people assume things about the person they say dumb things to. I wonder when she'll figure out you're not "on a diet" and just eating properly to maintain health.
    1371 days ago
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  • JAMER123
    You are never alone when you are with our Spark friends! And, even though you met with hostility, (which I have as well) I think they are "jealous" of our success. They haven't found good health as of yet. I do feel sorry for those other people.
    SP are wonderful and very understanding!! Happy New Year of 2013!!!
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  • PROVERBS31JULIA
    *giggle*
    It's s bit late now, but my first reaction to your description of Ms Grouchy Rum Balls Lady after her telling you aren't getting any becsuse you are on a diet ... Surprise her by giving her a hug or two and thanking her profusely for honoring your new lifestyle!!

    Bet she would be surprised!!

    Guess a note mailed to her now would be effective too??

    Hugs!
    Julia
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  • GOOSIEMOON
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  • PHOENIX1949
    emoticon What an inspirational blog. Reminded of me of ages ago when I had been maintaining a loss achieved through WW's. My mom asked which of my favorite treats I wanted for my birthday and I said just make it a piece of fruit. She served cake and/or pie to the others (several in family have birthdays close together & were doing group celebration) and on my plate with a birthday napkin she had an orange with a candle in it. She seemed embarrassed as she explained to the others that the fruit was my special request. I appreciated her not trying to push me to enjoy my favorite sweets on a special occasion. Working toward regaining that attitude on my part and I would love to have an orange but unfortunately my body rejects citrus. Now my favorite fruit is frozen blueberries in my coconut milk smoothie. emoticon
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    Comment edited on: 12/28/2012 5:35:08 PM
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  • NILLAPEPSI
    Stick to your guns!! You worked hard to lose that weight. I know when I get to my goal, I surely don't want the weight to come back. Good for you!!!
    1371 days ago
  • KARRENLYNN
    I've never understood this attitude people have that you are required to indulge in food that is not good for you or that you don't want to eat.

    My question is this: If I was an alcoholic or drug addict you would not force me to partake. if I had a medical condition that kept me from partaking you would not force me or make me feel bad or guilty for not eating bad food.
    Then why would you force me to eat or make me feel guilty for not eating food I don't want or isn't good for me?

    Stay strong Kanoe! You have to feel good about your decisions at the end of the day.

    Karen
    1371 days ago
  • MJZHERE
    emoticon Good job! It is so nice to know what one wants and sticks to it. Not always easy, not always understood, but still a reward in itself. Good for you - you have gotten there through hard work and determination.
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  • JLLOVETT
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  • DALID414
    Ugh! When will people stop calling it a diet? That's SO annoying!
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  • DMSGLASS
    emoticon Thanks for writing this blog that obviously resonates with so many of us. Congratulations on your maintenance success for a healthy life.
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  • CHARTHESTAR
    I REALLY hate to waste food. I love rum balls. I just do in moderation. and NOT have them in the house. If they are not here- I can't eat them. Makes it easier. I try not to make life harder than it already is. Everyone is different and you must do what is best for you. I am still in the getting healthy part of my journey- and maybe I will not have to even have things in moderation in the future. I just am honest with people- respect their decision and not force my choices on them.

    Sorry she was so hostile to you. She is probably mad at herself for not having the willpower to refuse like you do. It doesn't sound like you took it personally- which is good because I don't think it was. However if it was you can't change others- you just have to do what is best for you and your health.
    1371 days ago
  • JUSGETTENBY42
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  • LIVELYGIRL2
    It is amazing how people get bugged someone's choices or will power.

    Sometimes, if one eats a few bites they are ok, other times not.

    1371 days ago
  • BELDONDOG1
    You should be very proud of yourself. You are an inspiration and I do admire your willpower!! Too bad that you had to take "Christ" out of Christmas--as in "Xmas" cookies.
    1372 days ago
  • LELERS
    Thanks for this posting! I always feel so guilty for not eating a lot of things brought to the office, but you give me support that my decision is justified. I just try to bring in more healthier options so they at least have something to think about for the next time others want to bring snacks in too.
    1372 days ago
  • SUGARSMOM2
    you have to do what you know you have to do . if its tossing the food away then that is the way . I have found that to eat all of them make to much of me . everyone says oh, just one is not going to kill you . but it might . keep up your guard . good job .
    1372 days ago
  • PATRICIAANN46
    Your comment, "I am happy." says it all. That is what is important. You are living life as you choose and that is what matters. emoticon
    1372 days ago
  • CICELY360
    Good blog. The funny thing about your coworker is that if you did decide to eat a rum ball, she'd probably say something about it.
    1372 days ago
  • MARZIPAN22
    A friend gave my husband a pound box of chocolates as a family gift and DH's comment was that he knew HE would be eating the whole boxfull. Not only do I not like chocolate but he knows I will not eat any food that I can not track or that is not on my program. Even if something has healthy ingredients but I don't know the nutritional makeup I pass it by every time. Sometimes this leads to uncomfortable moments and we have even left restaurants before if there is nothing appropriate. This is really hard for me because I don't like to be the center of commotion (especially concerning food) but I am willing to do it and blogs like yours inspire and encourage me to stay strong.
    1372 days ago
  • WALLINMW
    Keep Sparkin'!!
    1372 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor to have a million and a half people seeing it.
    1372 days ago
  • JOANNHUNT
    emoticon People like your co worker don't get it. Just because we turn down the sweets doesn't mean we aren't celebrating. We are happy with ourselves that we did and can move on and feel good about our success. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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  • WILLOWBROOK5
    You SHOULD feel happy! You have accomplished so much and are such a kind, encouraging source of inspiration to others. I'm sorry your coworker was so nasty about the rum balls.

    One of my friends was lamenting that her neighbor gave her a bag of homemade cookies and she felt obligated to eat them, even though she has been trying to lose weight. When I suggested "Throw them out," she was appalled because these were good cookies and that would be wasteful. I asked her if cookies were more important than her health. She said she hadn't thought of that. Don't get me wrong. I adore cookies and am no big fan of wastefulness, but we need to have our priorities straight. I've thown out more food than I care to think about. Anyway, not sure what my friend decided to do but food sure can be an explosive issue, especially around the holidays.

    Thanks for the great post and wishing you the happiest, healthiest New Year possible.
    1372 days ago
  • MJKRESS
    So many traditions! So many holiday specialties! One of the most challenging aspects of our "global society" is that ALL of these cultures want EVERYONE to share. And then there's the just-plain-junky stuff that also proliferates in the name of "holiday". It's just way too much stuff!

    Good for you for making YOUR holiday "indulgence" the luxury of NOT indulging in every bite/lick/taste that appeared before your eyes.
    1372 days ago
  • MARYELLEN301
    Your own personal "Rum Ball Nazi"! Would she feel thew same way if you were an alcoholic who couldn't partake for that reason? I do bake TONS over the Holidays and give it all away as gifts, however for those I know are diabetic or have nut allergies or something, I tailor their tin to fit their lifestyle or needs. Why make a recipient a target of wrath? Certainly not in the Holiday spirit. Happy New Year!
    1372 days ago
  • CLAYARTIST
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  • MARYJEANSL
    Congratulations on your willpower! One always has to make the choices that are best for him or herself.
    1372 days ago
  • FIT4MEIN2013
    I actually have a 37 yo stepdaughter who says she doesn't like me because "I eat funny". I don't know why there are those who take personal offense at what I put in MY body! emoticon
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  • NEWTINK
    I hate when people try to make me feel guilty because i am taking care of me .. The fact of the matter is whether you eat the rum balls or not she would still have something to say this way it was just to your face and not behind your back ... Congrats on your year and keep it up .. emoticon
    1372 days ago
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