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"No rum balls for you.You are on a diet" and cookies in the disposal..Xmas maintenance

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Thursday, December 27, 2012

I have lost 117 pounds and am in one year and three months of maintenance. One of my tools to stay focused during the holidays is to get rid of the abundance of goodies that keep arriving.
I have dumped trays of cookies in the disposal. I might comment that in my addictive past, I would search for unfinished bags of cookies in the garbage!
I have gotten rid of 3 boxes of candy. As I was carrying a box of chocolate covered macadamia nuts out of the house, I had to laugh. I realized that I really have changed my life,. People might think my actions are crazy and wasteful, but staying healthy has become part of my life.

I have enjoyed Xmas celebrations. I did make xmas goodies that my family wanted. However, this Xmas, I have finally realized that I do not need to have a super huge meal of tons of appetizers, side dishes, deserts to celebrate. I am happier and healthier with simpler meals.

So people at work have watched me stay away from sweets for a year. Sometimes people are supportive and other times they are critical. One of my co-workers prides herself on making plates and plates of her mother's rum balls for everyone. This year after handing out plates to everyone, she walks over to me and says in an angry voice, "You are not getting any rum balls. You are on a diet." I was surprised at the hostility. I realized she sees me as being a grinch of Xmas because I have not been indulging in the office treats. She felt that I was personally ruining her Xmas gifts by not eating sugar.
My reaction is threefold. Once again I realize how alone this journey of health can be in today's world. Plus, once again someone is trying to tell me what I can or cannot eat. And finally, I want to say," excuse me I am not on a diet. Just because I am eating healthfully does not mean I am on a diet. I have been maintaining for a year."

To be a maintainer or succesful in weight loss you have to lose your fear of disappointing people. You need a very strong belief in what is important to you. You will often be alone in your journey.

I do not have a New Year's resolution. What I do have is a daily commitment to staying healthy. I will continue this throughout the year.

I am happy. I am in my goal range for the holiday season. I am working very hard to stay in that range throughout the holidays. I feel positive and stronger as I enter my second year of maintenance. I plan on being in that 50% of the 5 percent who keep it off for two years!

Happy Holidays to all of the wonderful Spark People.
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PATRISNA 1/23/2013 4:13PM

    emoticon Loved this blog!

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LOSINIT87 1/15/2013 5:28PM

    Wow, she sounds like a total witch. Who in their right mind would do that? Sometimes the lack of civility and politeness in people is staggering. However, you are doing your thing and obviously doing it right. So good on you!

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EFFRAYECHILDE 1/9/2013 8:05AM

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LIBBYL1 1/5/2013 12:17AM

  well done! I have eaten quite a few of the goodies (from others and made by me) this holiday period and think it is amazing to maintain like you have done

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FRANCIEVW 1/4/2013 9:43PM

    I like what 2013VICTORY is saying about food is more wasted when we overeat. So true. Congrats on your accomplishment and it takes a lot of rum balls to stand up to coworkers like that :) emoticon

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FARFROMASAINT 1/4/2013 4:32PM

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WALKINGGIRL6 1/4/2013 3:01AM

    It always amazes me what people say when one says no to food. I have had friends and family get mad at me but isn't my health more important. Congratulations on maintaining, way to go.

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EMILYDOODLE 1/3/2013 3:25PM

  Great job! emoticon

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LIFETIMER54 1/3/2013 12:17PM

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FIRECOM 1/3/2013 7:03AM

    Now that I am at goal weight, I have many more fears that I had when I started with SP. Thanks for a great blog

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FITMARTI 1/2/2013 9:28PM

    Awesome

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GRACEISENUF 1/2/2013 9:03PM

    emoticon for standing firm and taking control of your health!




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LOOLEE12 1/2/2013 7:08PM

    Wow! I'm inspired by you! Thank you for writing and sharing your experiences. emoticon

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JOANIE69 1/2/2013 2:55PM

    I am so glad I read this post...I felt sorry for you and then sorry for the co-worker who obviously just doesn't get it. I like that one reaction you had was not to let others tell you what to eat. Bravo! And recently I was reading somewhere where sugar is a terrible "food" for humans to consume anyway....especially the white stuff.

Keep up the good work and thanks for your encouraging words. emoticon From a Canuck.

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LLAY10 1/2/2013 11:19AM

    I love this blog! So incredibly inspiring.

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WALKINGWOMAN07 1/1/2013 2:15PM

    Great blog. And congratulations on your achievement.

Temptation in the staff room is a biggie for me. I have a wonderful staff member (not like your hostile rum ball lady) who does bake frequently. She is going through a hard time, and baking raises her spirits.Then she brings in her baked goods to share with us - a kindly gesture. I usually do partake - I feel like I am letting her down if I do not somehow. So this is something that I really need to deal with. I work in a small work place where we are very supportive of each other, but we often show this support with food. Somehow I have to figure out how to stop feeling guilty if I don't share in the food.

Congrats again, and great blog.



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PENOWOK 1/1/2013 11:58AM

    Great!! No new resolutions, but daily commitment!!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 1/1/2013 10:19AM

    A wonderful blog and just what I needed to read this morning!

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FROMNDTOGA 1/1/2013 9:11AM

    We ARE creating a new life style - not just indulging in another DIET. Thanks for reminding me. I hope to be where you are soon - maintaining for a year - that's great! clm

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CM_GARDNER78 12/31/2012 10:18PM

    It's a good/bad thing to know that sometimes we are "alone" on this journey...I can't believe the reaction you had from your co-worker! :-( But, I am glad to know that as long as we keep our "eyes on the prize" we can get through it - knowing that WE are worth it!! Keep up the great work, and Happy New Year!!

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MANILUS 12/31/2012 12:01AM

    You are amazing, keep it up!!

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ROXTRY 12/30/2012 11:46PM

    Good Grief! What the heck!?!!??! emoticon SORRY!!! emoticon
Have a happy new year anyway! K? emoticon

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ROXTRY 12/30/2012 11:43PM

    LOVE your blog! Love your commitment! Way to be!!! GREAT goin'!!
Here's wishing you continued success and happiness.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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ROXTRY 12/30/2012 11:43PM

    LOVE your blog! Love your commitment! Way to be!!! GREAT goin'!!
Here's wishing you continued success and happiness.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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ROXTRY 12/30/2012 11:43PM

    LOVE your blog! Love your commitment! Way to be!!! GREAT goin'!!
Here's wishing you continued success and happiness.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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CROWLEY123 12/30/2012 10:33PM

    Good for you for having and standing by your healthy lifestyle choices! A true inspiration.

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LIVINHEALTHY9 12/30/2012 9:42PM

    Good for you!

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TENOR4COUNTS 12/30/2012 9:16PM

    Great work!! Keep up the good work.

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MAIZEY 12/30/2012 7:56PM

    Great work on staying healthy and great blog! Happy New Year!

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SPIETZY1960 12/30/2012 7:16PM

    Thank you! I have just begun my weight loss journey and already have people telling me what I can and cannot eat.

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2TIGRE 12/30/2012 5:36PM

    Good for you!!! I love reading posts like this one. This is just what I needed to read. After a year and 60lbs on my weight loss program, I am only a few lbs away from my goal weight and the start of my maintenance program.

I too have learned to turn off the negative noise of those who apparently have an issue with my journey and program. It's my life, my body and I'll do whatever I want with it. I'm not hurting anyone with the way that I have chosen to live. Hopefully, I have possibly encouraged some along my way.

Keep up the good work. You're an inspiration. emoticon

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DESERTFLOWERG 12/30/2012 5:33PM

    It's unfortunate that some individuals take our healthy eating choices as a personal affront. It's also, as you pointed out, "controlling." Yeah, crazy world it is.

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LINNAKAH 12/30/2012 4:57PM

    Awesome job on becoming more healthy and sticking to your guns! I can't throw out my leftovers - I recycle everything. I put my leftover sweets in Ziploc bags and froze them.

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PMFISH 12/30/2012 4:32PM

    emoticon Amazing how many people hate to see others succeed. Also great that you spoke up, hopefully she learned just how out of line she was. Keep up the good work!!

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DOGLADY13 12/30/2012 2:58PM

    I have this image of Mommie Dearest, but instead of "no wire hangers", it's No Rum Balls for You!

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FIRECOM 12/30/2012 12:23PM

    You are living proof that simple is super. Thanks. I don't make resolutions just because it is New Years rather I make them along the way in the form of short term goals.

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SWEDE_SU 12/30/2012 10:05AM

    wonderful blog. here is my take home:

I do not have a New Year's resolution. What I do have is a daily commitment to staying healthy.

me too!

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LILLYPILLY24 12/30/2012 9:01AM

    Yay you! Great, great blog. Great attitude, great lifestyle. I am SO very impressed an encouraged reading this. Have a wonderful day!

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TUBLADY 12/30/2012 8:56AM

    Great blog and congratulations for your success and resolve.
I think some people are jealous that you or others who has lost weight and are working hard to keep it off. They might not admit that , but the deep feeling that come through in the attitudes say otherwise.
I struggle with the goodies of others too. i try to keep in the one or 2 bite rule, but it's not easy this time of year when it seems everyone is offering you food of some sort. And they have that pleading look, "It's only a bite, it won't hurt, please I made it, it's so good.". Quote, unquote.
I don't think I could have thrown away the macadamia nuts. they are my favorite and so expensive. I would have tried to dole one out ever so often. Oh well, I am going to toss any left over treats once I get home. Out with the old, it's another year and I am going to be in the percentage that make it past five years too.
have a wonderful New Year.
Stay strong, be positive,
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JSTETSER 12/30/2012 7:08AM

    Go girl, go!
Read my blog!
http://www.sparkpeople.com
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YESCURLYCAN 12/30/2012 3:43AM

  emoticon blog! It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you are handling maintenance mode wonderfully. Your co-workers reaction was silly but people rarely handle change well. Good for you on sticking to your guns and putting your health first this season emoticon

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ERIECANALGAL 12/30/2012 1:01AM

    Great Blog and great advice. Now I need to do more of that. Thank you for posting it.

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GRACIEC 12/30/2012 1:00AM

    Thanks for the insights!

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MAKINACHANGE4ME 12/30/2012 12:18AM

    emoticon Congrats on your achievment and maintaining it. Your determination will help you keep it off! emoticon

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PEACEHOPE1 12/29/2012 10:33PM

    I totally agree this can be a lonely journey, and I'm still in the weight loss stage. So grateful for this community of others who understand and empathize with our experiences. Great blog, thank you!

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IMEMINE1 12/29/2012 6:43PM

    emoticon emoticon Great blog. emoticon

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 12/29/2012 6:23PM

    Sometimes it IS lonely as we work not just to lose weight, but to maintain the loss. And throwing away good food goes against my nature but I have done it before and need to do it again with the Christmas leftovers. It's a battle , but like you, I aim to be in that small percentage of people who maintain long-term!! Thanks for reminding me of some stuff I had forgotten all about--like throwing food away. We have to do whatever it takes!!

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