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another day has passed

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

so here it is another day has passed and what have i done to make changes. nothing. i need help. im begging for help. my boyfriend calls me and preaches at me to loose the weight or he will leave me come summer time. I dont want that to happen. i get so damn depressed that when we discuss the issue over the phone i end up crying because i know i cant blame him for the opinion he has. Hes a tall muscular man and im a tall obese woman, that doesnt quite match now does it. i wish someone lived close to me so they could literally walk with me everyday, help me create a low caloric diet plan etc... i hate to look in the mirror right now because i dont want to see what i look like. i am not happy with myself and how i have let myself get into the shape it is now. my boyfriend says i move like im a 80 yr old woman. If it werent for him id probably give up and hide in my bed in my apt .... sorry everyone this is just a very hard fight for me and i need help and love and or support
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    I agree with everyone else....what is your boyfriend doing to help? I had a boyfriend that constantly complained about my weight although I was overweight when I met him. I am no longer with him because I didn't need the negative feedback, especially when I suggested we do stuff like walk or bicycle, and he always refused. Life is so much better without him. You can lose the weight but it will be a whole lot easier if you have his support vice threats. Do it for you and if need be, know that you can be happy without him threatening you about your weight.
    1911 days ago
    Hate to say it but I agree with NEWCYNSATION. Your boyfriend might not be the right guy for you OR he is just approaching this whole thing the wrong way. You will find tons of support and encouragement on SP. Find a team for your state and introduce yourself. It's likely that you'll be able to connect with someone local who might be able to partner with you for workouts. If not, try some of the SP videos and just do them at home. Regardless, this is a tough journey and you don't need threats to add pressure. Set some goals and start small. You didn't gain weight overnight and you won't lose it overnight. In the meantime, plan your exit strategy because chances are you will have a decision to make come Summer. It should be your decision and not his. Good luck!!!
    1911 days ago
    Wow, he's supportive isn't he! It should be HIM that's walking with you every day, helping you work out a sensible eating plan, encorouging you to start taking up new interests, sports, swimming with you perhaps, not making you feel worse. Destroying your confidence. If he can't love you for what's within, he's not the man for you. Call his bluff, tell him youre not interested in a bully, he can clear off, you're better off on your own. We may not be able to stand beside you, but we're with you every step of the way.

    Remember those baby steps? Tomorrow, eat just a little less than you did today, try and take 50 steps more. Walk on the spot in front of the TV every time the adverts come on! Next week, eat a little less again, and walk a little bit more. And make a new years resolution to find a new boyfriend!
    1911 days ago
    Dump the ass who is being critical and NOT helping. Then realize you lost 180 pounds of bad news and take a walk!

    I'm not trying to be flip, but I really mean it--you don't need threats, you need support. While it is not 'live', you can find support here at SparkPeople. good luck and happy new year....
    1911 days ago
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