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I reached goal weight 42 years ago!


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Monday, December 24, 2012

I am not quite sure of the exact date, it was really a long time ago, but it was about Christmastime 1970. My goal has dropped since then; as I've gotten older I can't carry the same amount of weight. I weigh about 10 pounds less now than my original 21 year old goal. I sure can't eat as much as I did back then. If I ate today what I ate to lose when I was 21, I'd GAIN weight. I remember gaining 10 pounds over menopause, but that was about accepting a radical change in how my body worked, and once I accepted the new limitations (arrgghh!) that weight came off.

Is it easy? Well, it's easy-ER, but not always easy. A goal doesn't need to be easy in order to be achieved. I remember the events of the last 42 years vividly, but not so much the food that accompanied them. There's a lesson in that. I eat to my Plan and enjoy the events. That's how I have a life worth remembering.

Some people tell me that I must be very strong to be able to stay at goal weight, but it isn't true. People with physical limitations learn to live with them because they have no choice and it's obvious. I have food limitations and I DO have a choice, but I accept them and live within them. It's not always easy, but limitations are limitations even when they are invisible to others.

And today I will be prepping the big dinner here tomorrow. I am now Grandma. The big dinners we had every year at my mother's are now here. Most of the older generation is gone, just Mom now, but lots of new family members in the newest generation. I get to feed them, which gives me the opportunity to cook mounds of food. They are all of normal weight, so they'll eat and drink moderately (how did I manage to have moderate kids???) and they take all the rest home. I'll be left with a safe, warm house with lots of happy memories in the very air. Memories are calorie free and I feast on them.

Have a glorious Christmas everyone!!
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SUPERSYLPH 7/14/2013 11:58AM

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AMANDEES76 1/2/2013 4:17PM

    Inspirational!

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LLAY10 1/2/2013 11:21AM

    Amazing!

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CAM2438 12/31/2012 7:23AM

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CHRISTINASP 12/30/2012 3:47PM

    Thank you for sharing. Reading your blog I wondered how much it was you lost. Found out on your sparkpage that it's 33 pounds?

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DESERTFLOWERG 12/28/2012 9:35PM

    Wow! Great message.

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PEACEHOPE1 12/28/2012 8:51PM

    Beautiful blog, thank you!

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MARELLAJ 12/28/2012 11:52AM

    Thank you sooooo much for this post! It was very inspiring to me, especially the part about accepting limitations. Just what I needed to hear! God bless you!

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DOTTIEJANE1 12/28/2012 10:32AM

    Awesome, thanks for sharing . Now i just gottta get this all working together, So glad that you shared with us .

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KRISKECK 12/28/2012 9:47AM

    Nell, I have a question: what was the radical change in the way your body works after menopause? Do you mean metabolism slowing down or is it something else, or something more than that? I am curious, because the same thing happened to me.

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PENOWOK 12/28/2012 8:37AM

    Wonderful!

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PURPLEDRAGONM 12/28/2012 1:42AM

    "Memories are calorie free..." I will remember this gem of wisdom, thank you. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience, and for a smile before I sleep tonight.

Blessings,
--Beth.

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J2740LOU 12/27/2012 4:48PM

    Great Blog! Thanks for sharing. emoticon Your attitude is so positive it's contagious!

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IAMAGEMLOVER 12/27/2012 12:28PM

    emoticon post. Thanks for sharing.

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INTHEGAP 12/27/2012 12:27PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon Keep up the wonderful, positive attitude. :)

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RICHARJ 12/27/2012 12:12PM

    I get it,but can I do it? emoticon

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WALLINMW 12/27/2012 11:15AM

  Thanks for sharing!

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RASIRE 12/27/2012 10:59AM

  Beautiful post. Thank you!

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FIRECOM 12/27/2012 10:59AM

    Great thoughts. people with some bad habits can go cold turkey. When I was a smoker (5 packs a day) I just quit one day. Now my bad eating habits, that are still lurking out there, cannot be cured by simply stopping eating.

One thing for sure. Getting old aint for sissies.


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LYNAND62 12/27/2012 10:02AM

    Thank you for the reminder! I loved this post!

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PINKIE78 12/27/2012 9:41AM

    I love this! :) Thanks for sharing. Your wisdom in the words "memories are calorie free" is something I need to write on my heart. I was thinking just this morning that what I love most about going out to eat with my friends is simply the fellowship. Yes, I also love the food, but I wouldn't enjoy the food as much without the fellowship. So that's where I need to focus at the next outing. Thanks for your inspiration today!

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TEDYBEAR2838 12/27/2012 8:51AM

    What a beautiful post. THANK YOU!

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KATHIC2 12/27/2012 7:58AM

  You are so inspiring! I admire your wisdom and down to earth praticality.

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NANFACEMIRE1 12/27/2012 6:47AM

    emoticon I know you will keep up the good work......

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THEIS58 12/27/2012 6:11AM

    Inspiring!

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SLFGOLF 12/27/2012 1:03AM

    Great job! Maintaining for so long. That is something many people are unable to do. It is an aspiration I am trying for.

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PIRATELASS 12/27/2012 12:27AM

    I really enjoyed this blog posting. Thank you so much for sharing. You are an inspiration to me! I am not losing or maintaining what I already lost. I need inspiration from posts and folks like you to help me get my mindset back in the groove. I too loved your comment about memories being calorie free and that you feast on them. Such a beautiful thought!

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CM_GARDNER78 12/26/2012 11:56PM

    Fantastic! Great job...and have a Happy New Year!!

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NPARAKH 12/26/2012 10:30PM

  Very cool!!!!!

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LELERS 12/26/2012 10:28PM

    Nice job! Congrats! emoticon

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SPAQUEEN2012 12/26/2012 9:27PM

    Thank you for reminding me that being "normal" for some of us is a life-long mission -- and worth the work.

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PAM_COOPER 12/26/2012 8:09PM

    Your post reminded me that some of the 'normal' weight people may just have been where I have been and are now 'maintaining' -- even when it has been almost a lifetime of maintenance. I am so proud of you for maintaining all those years--you are stronger than I.

At 14 I was healthy and had finally acquired a normal weight (after being a very overweight child) but I didn't keep it off more than for a few years. I gained it all back after my second child was born. Then I tried again in my 30's and this weight (all 112 lbs) came back faster than it left. After that I gave up for 20 years, reasoning that yo yo-ing was also bad for my health.

Last year I had an epiphany when my overweight adult daughter decided to have weight loss surgery. Suddenly, I realized my failure--not just about my own weight issue but my failure as a parent setting my children up for lifelong weight problems. I felt SO bad and decided if I get on board again, maybe just maybe, I can influence my children who thought being 'fat' was their inherited destiny. I honestly didn't realize how I was affecting my children and their mindset.

Well, even though I had lost 1/2 my weight goal by March of this year, my daughter went through with her surgery decision (and has done well), I was able to influence my other daughter who is now working to do it the old fashion way.

I totally regret not being able to MAINTAIN for 40 plus years, but glad I NOW know HOW to maintain and realize it is NEVER to late to get a grip on it if you can! I have punished myself enough with being fat and it is now time to enjoy my new life with NO MORE REGRETS--yesterday is past and I can't get it back!!!! BUT, the good news is I now have tomorrow and a new thin family. My daughters and I are making new non-food traditions and healthier food dishes that promote health and not heart attacks.

I have now lost 140 lbs. and working on maintaining--which, for me, is harder that losing. It's learning to live life as a NORMAL thin person. I am STILL an addict (as I have discovered on 'free' days . . . such as Christmas) No day is really free, because I am an addict! I must be mindful even when I want or allow myself to indulge a little more than usual.

I hope your message reaches those who are working on and reaching their weight loss goals and helps them to always be mindful so that they don't have to revisit obesity again in their lifetime. And, that the example THEY are setting could be helping not only themselves, but those who are watching -- their children and others.

Thank you for your post and congratulations on maintaining for all these years. I commend you!!!!

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SUSANK16 12/26/2012 7:45PM

  well written&nice to hear

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NLYR20 12/26/2012 3:57PM

  Wonderful to see that your choice to lead your life in healthy way for decades. It reminds me to commit on my own journey. emoticon emoticon

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YA_YAYA 12/26/2012 3:09PM

    Great post. Thank you for sharing and happy holidays. emoticon

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