Sunday, December 23, 2012
I recently got married; Dec 12,12. Yes, I was part of the hype of the year. Though, I want you all to know, I put a lot of prayer and consideration into this choice before I made it. Being a child of divorce, I vowed I would only marry once in my life and that I would not say "I do" till I was 150% sure I did. I also vowed to not make this step till I felt in my heart that it was 200% God's will for me.
This being said, I have always strived to be the type of women and someday wife Solomon spoke of in Proverbs 30:10-31. I truly believe this is the framework God intended a Christian woman live by. So my intent is to break this group of scripture into smaller groups over the next couple weeks and tell you what they mean to me. I don't proclaim to be a teacher or preacher, just a new wife learning to love and care for her husband as God intended.
~10. Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.~
~11. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.~
~12. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.~
Virtue is often referring to the physical attribute of being a virgin. For this day and age I like to think it meaning more about a spiritual and moral aspect of character. Moral virtue is a rare find in our society. Finding a morally virtuous woman is no easy task. It take a daily walk with God to maintain spiritual and moral virtue. And as the scripture states, a virtuous woman is to be highly sought after and valued.
We must maintain our virtue. Being true to God, our husband and ourselves in all that we do and say. This is true not only in the presence of others but when we are alone with our thoughts and action. Sin starts as a thought. Virtue starts as a thought. EVERY action starts as a thought! We have to guard our thoughts.
It goes on to say that by maintaining our virtue, Our husbands heart can safely trust in us. Trust is the very foundation of love and marriage. Proving ourselves true in our thoughts and actions, allows us to build that trust with our spouse. Trust is the foundation that will carry you through the hard times and though temptation. Every relationship will face both.
The second part, "so that he will have no need for spoils" refers to the financial state and way that we run our household. In biblical times, men would go to war for the spoils of war. Theses spoils would supplement their income and provide for their families.
Traditionally, women would over-see the household. I understand that this is 2012, So I won't say much on this. Only that I BELIEVE, God still expect us to be responsible stewards of our finances. Part of lovely and caring for your family is not putting more financial strain on the household then needed. I also believe that in our economy this is more important then ever.
The last scripture is the one that has been running through my head so much the last couple days. "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life."
I love Zac with all my heart and even though we are a new couple, its not all rainbows and roses. We disagree. We get mad at each other and we snap at each other from time to time. In those moments of anger, God speaks to me and this scripture comes to mind.
Zac doesn't have a relationship with God yet. That's my miracle in waiting. So for now, I'm the Christian leader of the family. My personal walk with God leaves much to be desired as well. But in the moments when I want to strike out in anger and say or do things to hurt Zac because I'm hurt, that's when I think of this scripture and my commitment as his wife and as a Christian. Words spoken in anger can be forgive but they are never fully forgotten. Its my duty as a Christian and as his wife, to do him good; to not knowingly hurt him, and to love him, even when I'm hurt and angry.
God made Eve to be a helpmate to Adam; to assist him and aide him in the role God gave him. A wife is meant to uplift her husband, not tear him down. The kind word and actions of a loving wife can make all the difference.
We Woman have a hard job loving and caring for our families, but I wouldn't trade it for all the world. If God is the head of your household, then I think you'll be alright!