Saturday, December 22, 2012
So much has been going on past week or two, and I can't begin to cover lt all. Some family drama is in the mix now. But after an surgery to attempt to place stents in thr lines going between kidneys and bladder, which failed, doctors discovered the cancer(s) are pretty much eating him up from inside out. Doubtless the toxins are what is affecting his mind. He only has Medicare part A, no part B coverage at all. It's complex why not, and yet simple why it is the case, but no point in going there.
My brother and his wife drove up from Katy and visited with Dad like 20-30 minutes, with Dad railing on about some conspiracy. Finally he asked Dad if Dad knew who he was. Dad said he was tne doctor. My brother said "No, I'm your son..(name)". He said Dad kinda looked startled and said "Thank you for coming up to see me!" and he said he might have seen Dad for about two minutes before Dad slipped back into his mental haze.
So we're planning to go down there. Gotta stop by my mother-in-law's house in SE Okla on the way, to make sure gas heat is still on, and then head on down to Abilene, TX.
Oh and I've never met this gal he married four years ago, who separated two years ago...
I hope she is nice, but we've had some friction, over the phone lines. I think part of this is from hospital staff having mistaken identity and talking to a woman erroneously believed to be his wife. So they sald I was in charge. Then they found her, and she is in charge... But she doesn't really know him! She has only lived with him two of the four or maybe five years that they met, "dated" and married. I've known him 50+ years... Thankfully, after I stated my piece, she seems to be a bit more inclusive on the phone. We'll see how she is when I meet her. I understand she has some health issues of her own. So we'll just have to stay with it and work with what we have...
I'm on phone typing and tired, so hope to write more later. They are trying to get him to a hospice type place, but no one wants to accept him now - they are all short-staffed for the next week or so.