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Update on my dad...

Saturday, December 22, 2012

So much has been going on past week or two, and I can't begin to cover lt all. Some family drama is in the mix now. But after an surgery to attempt to place stents in thr lines going between kidneys and bladder, which failed, doctors discovered the cancer(s) are pretty much eating him up from inside out. Doubtless the toxins are what is affecting his mind. He only has Medicare part A, no part B coverage at all. It's complex why not, and yet simple why it is the case, but no point in going there.

My brother and his wife drove up from Katy and visited with Dad like 20-30 minutes, with Dad railing on about some conspiracy. Finally he asked Dad if Dad knew who he was. Dad said he was tne doctor. My brother said "No, I'm your son..(name)". He said Dad kinda looked startled and said "Thank you for coming up to see me!" and he said he might have seen Dad for about two minutes before Dad slipped back into his mental haze.

So we're planning to go down there. Gotta stop by my mother-in-law's house in SE Okla on the way, to make sure gas heat is still on, and then head on down to Abilene, TX.

Oh and I've never met this gal he married four years ago, who separated two years ago...

I hope she is nice, but we've had some friction, over the phone lines. I think part of this is from hospital staff having mistaken identity and talking to a woman erroneously believed to be his wife. So they sald I was in charge. Then they found her, and she is in charge... But she doesn't really know him! She has only lived with him two of the four or maybe five years that they met, "dated" and married. I've known him 50+ years... Thankfully, after I stated my piece, she seems to be a bit more inclusive on the phone. We'll see how she is when I meet her. I understand she has some health issues of her own. So we'll just have to stay with it and work with what we have...

I'm on phone typing and tired, so hope to write more later. They are trying to get him to a hospice type place, but no one wants to accept him now - they are all short-staffed for the next week or so.
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  • AWOOD1973
    Wish I had some magic wand to wave and make everything all better. I am praying for you and your family. Please keep us posted... emoticon
    1906 days ago
    Sending you wishes for continued inner strength.
    1909 days ago
    Wow, that's a lot all at once! Take care of yourself too, and I hope things aren't too stressful. They won't be easy - but keep taking long deep breaths.
    1909 days ago
    I am so sorry to hear about what your family is going through.
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  • GLORYB83
    emoticon Julia, you've got more than your share to contend with right now. I hope they'll be able to place your dad in a hospice as they take such good care of those in their final days/weeks of life. Praying for you to have a safe journey and a better outcome with your dad's wife. Keep the faith!
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    1910 days ago
    Hugs, sugar. It's so hard to deal with parents' health issues long distance, let alone have an obstacle like someone not wanting to share information about YOUR FATHER! HUGS.

    You're in my thoughts and prayers.
    1910 days ago
    Julia, so sorry for the health/family issues for your dad and family. Any time of year is difficult for that. Especially when you don't live close by. Your dad is fortunate to have a smart, good-hearted advocate in you, working for his best. Hang in there. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • M77355
    Aw Julia, I'm sad for what you and the rest of your family is going through. I'll pray for strength, wisdom and faith to see you through all of this.
    1910 days ago
  • MRE1956
    Why, oh WHY must there be *drama* of ANY kind when dealing with such sad issues as you have? This disturbs and saddens me no end - especially during holiday seasons!

    I hope you get some sense of peace while you're working through all this......I will keep you, your dad and the rest of your family in my best thoughts! Please be gentle with yourself and take care!

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