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Saturday, December 22, 2012

I went online and found my brother's obituary and his guest book. He had only one entry which I found strange as he had many friends.
I signed the guest book and someone else I knew also signed afterwards.
His name is Henry Joseph Chipman and lived in Santa Maria California.

I find many things odd as his wife's niece told me I didn't need to call or e-mail her anymore. It is like I was dismissed from his life. They had no children either.

He was cremated at his request, the niece said, and she didn't know what they would do with the ashes.

I do know he will have a new body and a new home. His last words to me which he could hardly utter were "I love you too, Irene". These words I will always treasure in my heart.

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    1876 days ago
    Irene, you hold tight to those last sweet words from your dear brother. As for the niece, I know you'll be praying for them both.
    1883 days ago
    It sounds like you and your brother had a close relationship and his last words were his confirmation of that. People grieve differently and some need to close a door to move on. It's hard to understand. emoticon

    You have many people that love you and I know I feel very close to you and appreciate all you do for me as a Maintainer. Your devotionals "hit home" so many times. It's like the Lord is speaking to me through your words.

    So thank you for who you are, what you do and the light that you share!
    1883 days ago
    Irene - you have the best memories of your brother, and were blessed to be able to be with him before he past. Keep those thoughts and words close to your heart!

    1884 days ago
    Irene, that has to really hurt to be dismissed just like you have no feelings or say so in the matter....it sure does sound strange to me too.

    I am so glad you have the last words he said to you to remember as your special treasure he gave to you alone.

    He is waiting for you and all pain is gone and he is strong and younger and in full health and strength.

    I am so sorry she had no respect for your feelings. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1885 days ago
    Hugs to you Irene, and sometimes people say things that we don't understand. Remember the good times growing up, etc with your Brother.
    1885 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    I'm glad you have Good momories of Your Brother and His Parting Words toYou. God Bless You and Have an Enjoyable Day. Stay Safe and Warm. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    1885 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/23/2012 6:09:39 PM
    Hugs to you Dear Irene!
    So sorry she feels that way! It is her loss! Glad you can move on and have The Hope that will bring you together in Heaven! Such sweet words for him to leave you with!!
    Hugs and if you ever need to chat please know I am here. Hope you still have my phone number! You are welcome to call too!
    Love in Christ,
    1885 days ago
    I'm glad you have good memories of your brother and the loving parting words.
    1885 days ago
    Thank you so much everyone for y our lovely comments. His wife has alzheimers and is 90 years old. The niece is the niece of the wife and of course I never met her.
    When I read Mary's comment on the guest book I saw it going across the page before I read the comment. It brought tears to my eyes, but good tears.
    So unless the niece of his wife contacts me that page of my life is closed until we meet in heaven.
    1885 days ago
    Irene, your treasure is the love between you and your brother. No one can every change that. Sadness for that niece of his wife as she will probably never experience true love and compassion for others. emoticon
    1885 days ago
    Sending hugs to you.....There are a lot of people who are not computer savvy or know how to find a funeral home website to leave condolences. I'm sure his many friends will miss and pray for him.

    He left this world and was able to convey his love to you at the end. That is the very most important thing. I have a sibling that has not talked to me or his daughter, grandkids for over 6 years because of a messy divorce and a penchant for trying to blame everyone but himself for his shortcomings. Considering how your brother's spouse and her relatives are acting now, you are better rid of such bitter people. May God bless and hold you close in your time of sadness...
    1885 days ago
  • GLORYB83
    Your brother's last words to you are all that's really important Irene.
    Sadly, when one of my brothers was dying, his mate told us that SHE was the only one allowed to see him! We should have known better and just gone to the hospital! We never got to hear any last words.

    Your brothers to you are priceless, treasure them!
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    1885 days ago
  • CAROLYN0107
    Your brothers last words to you are precious and something to be cherished!! I'm glad you got to contact him before he passed away.
    1885 days ago
    1885 days ago
    Irene I'm so sorry to hear of your brothers passing. May God comfort you and bring you peace.
    1885 days ago
    Irene, a dear friend passed on, in August and I, too found it strange that not many visited his online obituary and posted in the guest book. He was well loved, by many.
    I am hoping that more, actually signed the book at the funeral home.
    He was buried, in another state, so I am not sure.

    Sadly, I have heard the story of dismissal, far too often, from even siblings, at the loss of their parents! An inexplicable thing. Even if it were to be a natural progression of less involvement, some people do not have the social decency to do it with any amount of tact.

    You had a wonderful last conversation and you have memories. Best of all, you know where he is. emoticon
    1885 days ago
  • AMR6665
    1886 days ago
    So sorry to hear about your brother. Sending prayers and a big hug for you too. I agree you now have to live through the memories you have. It's been 25 yrs. that I lost my husband and my sons and I remember the good times. It's very hard but as you know this is the heathly way to do it.

    Don't know how close you were to your sister-in-law and neice,could it be this is how they are grieving? Maybe things will change with them but know your brother will be watching over you from heaven now. Love you, Judy
    1886 days ago
    1886 days ago
  • SUNSET09
    Live through his memories as we all have to pass this way as well. Some people can move on however, it seems like you may need to talk to the wife as you're getting second hand info. She may be suffering as well. It's difficult losing a love one however, he understood and left you a real sweet message and know that your living has not been in vain. Don't sweat the small stuff and keep on doing, what you're doing. My condolences! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1886 days ago
    So sorry to hear of your brother's passing. It's too bad his family don't want to keep in touch, but at least you know that he loved you and that he is with The One who loves him dearly.
    1886 days ago
    It is sad what people do to "move on." She is not the only one to cut ties. It seems that some people do that in this world. I do not believe in cutting ties, since I cherish those people I know.
    1886 days ago
    I read and signed a note to you, Irene.

    Strange about the niece but so be it, your brother is gone to his eternal life now and you can be happy that you got to talk to him before he passed.

    Love Mary
    1886 days ago
    It is very hard losing someone you love. But when we know they feel no more pain or sorrow and are in a place of blessed peace, it is not hard to wish we were in that place also. But one day we will meet those loved ones again and experience the same blessed peace. I am glad he had the opportunity to express his love for you.
    1886 days ago
    My sympathies on the loss of your brother.
    1886 days ago
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