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Forgiving myself

Friday, December 21, 2012

I've been thinking a lot about how loving ourselves is key to changing habits around food and eating. And lately, as my world has crumbled in major ways (marriage, my husband's health), instead of self love, I've felt a lot of self-loathing.

Today I listened to a podcast about this topic. And Renee Stephens suggests that if self love seems too hard, to start with forgiveness. That it's a step by step process and we can start with forgiveness as a way to get closer to self love.

I'm writing today to give it a try.

I forgive myself for...

Being imperfect
Binging during a time of extreme stress, pain and insecurity
Being a wife who made many mistakes
Being a mother who sometimes is distracted, impatient, and disappointing
Being a daughter sometimes still needs help
Not seeing the signs of marital strife
Not knowing my husband's illness was so far along
Not following through on speaking with loving kindness all the time
Not always being optimistic or grateful or positive, though I know there is so much for which I have to be optimistic, grateful and positive...

I'm hoping that as I can open up to forgiving myself, I'll start to accept myself, then hopefully will come self love. One step at a time...
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CANDOSUE52 12/23/2012 9:16PM

This is wonderful. Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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CAREN_BLUEJEANS 12/22/2012 4:16PM

    Please don't beat yourself up! Don't hold yourself up to an unrealistic ideal. You're only human, and make mistakes, like everyone. Think about all the things you're grateful for. Shift your focus away from your faults & toward your successes.

Love & Hugs!

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LE7_1234 12/22/2012 10:31AM


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WILLOWBROOK5 12/21/2012 9:47PM


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DIANESAV1 12/21/2012 7:36PM

    I think we all experience the same self doubt. I also know that I am not the loving wife that I should have been. Just do the best you can and forgive yourself. I'm sure you are being harder on yourself.

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TINAJANE76 12/21/2012 5:23PM

    This is really touching and beautiful. You've got so many wonderful qualities to share with the people around you and you deserve to treat yourself with the same loving compassion that you hope to impart on others.

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ROSEWAND 12/21/2012 2:27PM

    That is beautiful. Your writing brings tears to my
eyes. If you only knew that we all share these
same feelings of doubt about ourselves. That you
would openly share these feelings and forgiveness
with us is a true gift.

Why is it that we are so afraid that we each is not
enough? I see the light in you. It shows through
your avatar pix. I am sure you would see it in me
as well. Why is it that we are blinded by our own
light emoticon the one that shines deeply
in the heart of every soul?

Comment edited on: 12/21/2012 2:28:27 PM

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RUNNERRACHEL 12/21/2012 1:17PM

    You have taken an important step. Forgiveness is powerful. You are releasing yourself from the burden of self-inflicted guilt. No one is perfect. Realizing your strengths and all the positive things you have done would be an important step as well! Praying for peace and comfort and healing for you and your family in this time. emoticon

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 12/21/2012 10:29AM


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    Forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give yourself... to open up to the self-love you need to welcome into your life.

Please also realize the 'positives' in your life and all the good qualities you have as the flip side in practicing daily gratitude.


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