Thursday, December 20, 2012
More than once we’ve all had our buttons pushed to the point where we feel we can’t take it any more, but chances are, we’ve all pushed somebody else’s buttons, with or without knowing it. The button pusher may not be conscious of what they’re doing, In the end however, the buttons belong to you and I, and we are the ones who must deal with the consequences. The truth, the more we take responsibility for our own feelings and reactions, the less tender these buttons will be.
We’ve all had the experience of having someone snap at us, seemingly out of nowhere. This happens when we unconsciously push a button in someone else we didn’t even know was there. This can happen with a complete stranger and sometimes with a person we’ve known and been close to for years. And be honest, we ourselves may have a relationship with someone whose buttons we secretly like to push. Buttons are just soft spots that have been touched one too many times, and they symbolize some pain that needs to be acknowledged and healed. This may be a wound from childhood, or some recent trauma, that we haven’t adequately tended to. Whatever the case, when our buttons get pushed, the person who most needs our attention and caring is us, and in the end, blaming the button pusher only distracts us from finding a true resolution to our suffering.
At the same time, if that specific someone purposely continually opens my wounds so that they never have time to heal, believe me I am well within my rights to set a boundary with that person. Those compulsive button pushers, who seem to find pleasure or satisfaction in hurting me, are not welcome in my personal space. Because in the end, knowing where my buttons are enables me to do the work necessary to heal. Freedom only comes when we deal with the pain behind the button, thus disconnecting our automatic reaction to being pushed.
And that means any time of year, day or night.
So don't let these button pushers, and you know who yours are, effect your life any longer. You have the empowerment and control. Use it.