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Button Pushers. We all have them.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

More than once we’ve all had our buttons pushed to the point where we feel we can’t take it any more, but chances are, we’ve all pushed somebody else’s buttons, with or without knowing it. The button pusher may not be conscious of what they’re doing, In the end however, the buttons belong to you and I, and we are the ones who must deal with the consequences. The truth, the more we take responsibility for our own feelings and reactions, the less tender these buttons will be.

We’ve all had the experience of having someone snap at us, seemingly out of nowhere. This happens when we unconsciously push a button in someone else we didn’t even know was there. This can happen with a complete stranger and sometimes with a person we’ve known and been close to for years. And be honest, we ourselves may have a relationship with someone whose buttons we secretly like to push. Buttons are just soft spots that have been touched one too many times, and they symbolize some pain that needs to be acknowledged and healed. This may be a wound from childhood, or some recent trauma, that we haven’t adequately tended to. Whatever the case, when our buttons get pushed, the person who most needs our attention and caring is us, and in the end, blaming the button pusher only distracts us from finding a true resolution to our suffering.

At the same time, if that specific someone purposely continually opens my wounds so that they never have time to heal, believe me I am well within my rights to set a boundary with that person. Those compulsive button pushers, who seem to find pleasure or satisfaction in hurting me, are not welcome in my personal space. Because in the end, knowing where my buttons are enables me to do the work necessary to heal. Freedom only comes when we deal with the pain behind the button, thus disconnecting our automatic reaction to being pushed.
And that means any time of year, day or night.
So don't let these button pushers, and you know who yours are, effect your life any longer. You have the empowerment and control. Use it.
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    I sure have been dealing with button pushers lately and what I have found is that I have to make the decision whether I will react to them or not. If I decide to react, how will I do it? It is up to me whether I react positively or negatively. I have seen recently that I have been reacting negatively and that I am not only hurting that person but I am hurting myself in the process. Sometimes it is just best if I walk away from the situation and evaluate before I react. In the last few situations, the person that pushed my buttons came to me and apologized before I even got through thinking it through. Now if I can only stop blowing up about the situation after the apology!
    1761 days ago
  • 1EMMA2011
    Yes I do have those button pushers for sure. I appreciate you acknowledging that we all have them because that is so true! I spend a lot of time looking inward to make sure I'm acknowledging that kind of pain so I can deal with it. I agree as you do that we all have the power to control our lives.

    Thanks for another great post!!

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    1763 days ago
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