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Wednesday, December 19, 2012

I just finished up a few Christmas cards & I think I was too sticker happy. Now they are overly decorated but we can just go ahead and call that "festive." How are you doing with your Christmas/holiday cards & other things on your holiday to-do list? (If you celebrate, that is.)

Can you believe how fast Christmas is approaching? I am still thinking about the goals I want to set for next year. They will probably be small, manageable goals & only a few. I don't want to get ahead of myself.

One thing that I definitely need to do is surround myself with people who have healthy mindsets. It's not easy. Most of my friends have some form of an eating disorder. I pass no judgment on them & I understand how hard it is for them and I even understand the why (the triggers) to most of their issues but it can be extremely difficult to be around people who are always talking about weight and all things related in the worst way possible. (Not that I am perfect..obviously...)
In other words, I don't want to hear someone bashing their size or how much of a "cow" they are. I do realize that that is how people feel about themselves & not me but there are times when it can feel like a slap in the face. Mostly because I ask certain people to please refrain from doing that but they still continue to do it. I know it's a sickness but I am trying to get healthy in the healthiest way possible. That doesn't include bashing myself. That's not the easiest thing for someone who is very self critical but it's necessary. Bashing & self hate doesn't get you anywhere. It's useless. Don't get me wrong, my friends are great, fun people & I want to be there for them. I also just want to focus on getting healthy for myself and it's easier to do that around people who have a solid perception of what healthy is. I just wish the world wasn't so sick with perfectionism and standards that most people will never meet. Isn't it funny that we try to follow the standards but in reality, we are the ones enforcing them upon ourselves? Of course, the media reinforces it and maybe irritating family members! (you know who I am talking about. Your mom or sister or brother is obsessed with appearance. The one who picks at everyone's weight or their nose or whatever it may be.) My goal isn't to meet any standards. My goal is just to get healthy for myself. Nobody else. Not to please anyone or meet any kind of ridiculous criteria.
I just want to feel good & today, even though I still have a very long, long way to go, I am proud of myself because I have maintained my weight really well for over 2 years! Even though that doesn't seem like much, for someone with endocrine disorders
that is a big deal! :) My next goal is to get the weight off. It won't be easy at all but who needs easy? Bring on the challenge! :)

I wish all of you a very healthy mind for 2013. Hopefully, a healthy mind will translate into a healthy body. :)

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JINLYNN 12/21/2012 4:03PM

    It is hard to maintain a positive attitude, especially when surrounded by folks who are anything but positive. Good for you to focus on getting healthier and feeling better physically, mentally, and emotionally!
Best wishes for a wonderful Christmas and a happy and healthier New Year!
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1STATEOFDENIAL 12/20/2012 4:02AM

    When you hear someone bashing themselves, ask them if they would say that out loud about someone else - if not, then why are they doing it to themselves? You could also contradict their statements by saying: "You are beautiful (handsome, smart, kind, generous, etc), as am I. If you choose not to believe that, then please keep it to yourself because I choose to see the positive." If none of that works, you could say "If you truly believe that you're (fat, ugly, stupid, etc), then what are you doing to change for the better? Using your energy to put goals into action is so much more efficient than talking yourself out of who you wish to be." There's also the "Talking like that sounds like you're trying to convince me you're not good enough to be my friend. Are you sure that's what you want to convey?"

Sometimes people don't realize when they're saying something really negative. So many comedians use self-depreciating humor to reach the audience, and that seems to translate to 'if I say something negative about myself people will laugh with me', whereas the opposite is true. By saying something that catches them off guard, sometimes you can get them to really hear you saying that they're being too negative.

For your goals, don't forget to set long term, medium term, and short term goals. This will help you know where you want to go (having a goal on paper tends to make it feel 'more real') and will give you the steps to get there. What goals do you hope to accomplish in all of 2013? If you don't reach them, that's okay because the goal can be modified and extended if need be. What goals do you have for the next 6 months? How about the next month? What about for the next week?

Lastly, don't worry about having too many stickers - unless every inch of paper is covered then it's not too much. hehe You're just adding a little extra beauty and holiday cheer!

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REFFIE1 12/20/2012 12:02AM

    If I hear someone beating themselves up about being fat. I usually tell them to stop beating themselves up and point out that I never made any progress weight wise until I started to accept and love myself at any weight. For those relatives etc. pointing out flaws I would be tempted to quote "beauty walks with kindness". Also, to mention that looks are fleeting but character and intelligence are the things that last. I might also say that it rather shallow to always look at the outside of a person instead of what is within. I still haven't formulated my goals for 2013 but I plan to look over that thread again for some more inspiration. Your stickers sound very cute and you can never have enough cute in my book! emoticon

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BLUEFAIRYTALE 12/19/2012 10:33PM

  I agree, self bashing does nothing. It reminds me of a book I'm reading right now called "When women stop hating their bodies." Very insightful book. And your cards sound nice, it's pretty when there are lots of stickers! Have a great 2013, I'm excited about the new year! We can support each other on this journey! Sounds like you have the right attitude. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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