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Life after marriage

Sunday, December 16, 2012

So after 15 years of marriage, I find myself alone again. Although this was a mutual decision and I honestly believe this is the best thing for both of us, I am at a loss.

As a person who grew up in a large family and have always been surrounded by people, I now have an overwhelming sense of loneliness. My husband and I did not have children, so I am alone.

What does this have to do with this site, you may ask??? Well, in thinking about how I got to this weight, at times when I am really sad, I tend not to eat. I can go a day or 2 and not even desire a snack. When I am happy, I eat...but it's all the wrong stuff.

Life goes on. There are so many new experiences and adventures waiting for me. This is a time for personal development and growth I do not know what the future holds, but I am excited to see what lies ahead. I want to be happy, healthy and have something positive to contribute to this world.


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SHORTNSASSY0305 12/22/2012 12:21AM

    Thank you all for reading my blog and your comments. I am so looking forward to see what's in store. emoticon

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SHERRYGAYL 12/16/2012 8:49PM

    emoticon emoticon to the emoticon !

I am also recently single again. We were also married well over a decade. In fact, our 19th anniversary is later this month. We aren't divorced yet but I took the kids and left his drunk, cheating ass over a year ago. I understand his latest whore is knocked up.

The first year was really hard. I put on nearly 20lbs and lacked any form of motivation for anything. I was basically just surviving every day, doing what I had to do to get through until bedtime.

But then I kind of came back. I've lost 40lbs so far and have really started pulling myself together! Pretty much the only thing I'm lacking right now is an income. I like money! I miss money. Other than that, my life is just getting better and better!

I know it's trite but, for me anyway, it's absolutely true. Life DOES begin at 40! emoticon

But let yourself go through the grieving process. They say a divorce is like a death and has a similar recovery. I stayed at denial for a really long time. It really did take me about a year to get through everything and accept the reality that we are not getting back together. Just give yourself time and make sure you've really moved on before trying to get involved in another relationship. You are worth it!


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BASKETLADY13 12/16/2012 8:42PM

    You can only go up from here. emoticon

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VAPIDWENCH 12/16/2012 8:24PM

    Sorry to hear that things are so rough, but onwards and upwards buddy!

All the clichés about how time helps... well, annoying though they are, they are also true. Give yourself time to be blue, but also make a list of all the dreams you have for yourself and start making them happen. This is your time.

Carol494 is right, things will get better, keep your chin up.

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SHORTNSASSY0305 12/16/2012 7:45PM

    Thank you very much.

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CAROL494 12/16/2012 7:32PM

  Continue to be positive. Things will get better than they are now.! emoticon emoticon

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