Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Ok - I think I have a point to make. It might take a bit of a journey to get there - but bare with me.
So, on the weekend I got all my hair cut off. All off. There is not a single hair on my head that is longer than an inch. Great for summer - we will be at the beach for the next couple of weeks, and I intend to do lots of sweaty bike rides . . .and swimming multiple times a day. I just don't want to be thinking - Nah, I wont put my head under, don't want to wash & blow dry my hair again. Pah!
Anyway - yesterday I caught up with a friend who has a similar haircut. After all the usual gushing 'It looks great. It really suits you' (well, she is hardly going to say that she liked it better before) we got to talking about details. She started to point out all the little bits that she wants the hairdresser to get perfect. The sideburns, the neck line, the crown, the koala ears (is that just an Australian expression? - imagine getting fluffy bits behind your ears).
Now this got me thinking.
My friend's haircut really suits her - I have never noticed the minute little adjustments she might get the hairdresser to make. As a whole package, the haircut is great - and that is all we (other people) see. The detail is something that only bothers the bearer (and maybe the hairdresser).
I caught up with another friend who said 'Your hair looks terrific. You just look so young and so skinny'.
Now I have plenty of grey hair, I have wrinkles, I think I have possibly gained a few pounds since I have relaxed on the tracking & got off the scale. I am still learning how to style my spikey bits.
What she is commenting on is the whole package.
I might look at myself and focus on the minute detail. Am I the exact weight that I want to be? Do I have the exact body fat % that I would like? Do I have the smooth skin of my youth?
I have a choice. I can beat myself up by striving to achieve a perfection that just does not exist, and nit pick every little detail . . . or I can know that the whole package is what most people notice. And the whole package suits me fine.