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Koala ears or the whole package

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Ok - I think I have a point to make. It might take a bit of a journey to get there - but bare with me.

So, on the weekend I got all my hair cut off. All off. There is not a single hair on my head that is longer than an inch. Great for summer - we will be at the beach for the next couple of weeks, and I intend to do lots of sweaty bike rides . . .and swimming multiple times a day. I just don't want to be thinking - Nah, I wont put my head under, don't want to wash & blow dry my hair again. Pah!

Anyway - yesterday I caught up with a friend who has a similar haircut. After all the usual gushing 'It looks great. It really suits you' (well, she is hardly going to say that she liked it better before) we got to talking about details. She started to point out all the little bits that she wants the hairdresser to get perfect. The sideburns, the neck line, the crown, the koala ears (is that just an Australian expression? - imagine getting fluffy bits behind your ears).

Now this got me thinking.
My friend's haircut really suits her - I have never noticed the minute little adjustments she might get the hairdresser to make. As a whole package, the haircut is great - and that is all we (other people) see. The detail is something that only bothers the bearer (and maybe the hairdresser).

I caught up with another friend who said 'Your hair looks terrific. You just look so young and so skinny'.
Now I have plenty of grey hair, I have wrinkles, I think I have possibly gained a few pounds since I have relaxed on the tracking & got off the scale. I am still learning how to style my spikey bits.
What she is commenting on is the whole package.

I might look at myself and focus on the minute detail. Am I the exact weight that I want to be? Do I have the exact body fat % that I would like? Do I have the smooth skin of my youth?

I have a choice. I can beat myself up by striving to achieve a perfection that just does not exist, and nit pick every little detail . . . or I can know that the whole package is what most people notice. And the whole package suits me fine.

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    Your photos are awesome! Congratulations on your your determination and your stunning results. I agree that we focus so much attention on the few small details that then eat away at our self-esteem and confidence.

    Thank you for reminding us that we are the whole package and we are amazing.

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    1920 days ago
    Love the "whole package" idea and yes--I have the focus but should just look at "the whole package" cause I have come SUCH a long way!! Thanks!! And good luck on your maintaining!!
    1920 days ago
    What a great way to look at things! The style will be great for all your summer activities.
    1922 days ago
    Fabulous attitude - congratulations for writing a great blog - so true!
    1922 days ago
    Thanks for sharing!
    1922 days ago
    Great blog! I'm guilty of picking the details too!

    I wish short hair suited me, I think short hair on women looks great and highlight facial features nicely.
    1922 days ago
    Most certainly the whole package. What's a Christmas present without wrapping paper and what is wrapping paper without a present. Enjoy your holidays.

    1922 days ago
  • SHEILA1505
    1922 days ago
    this is great. Like the whole package theory
    1923 days ago
    Awesome blog! You're absolutely right about the whole package vs. nitpicking details.

    LOL, you're also right about the "koala ears" phrase, I think - that's gotta be an Australian thing. :) I can't think of an equivalent word or expression for that kind of hair that we use in the US...we should adopt "koala ears" as a phrase. It's too cute not to use!
    1923 days ago
    Brilliant blog!! The whole package suits you for sure. So glad you realized it. Sometimes I over scrutinize. I'll think about your words. Thanks.
    1923 days ago
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