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Willy Wonka

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

While I was making gumdrops today I decided I want to be Willy Wonka. I love making candy during the holidays. Sea foam, peanut brittle, chocolate covered cherries, I'm open to trying anything. My first year making sea foam it took me three tries to get it just right. This year I'm thinking of making a double batch simply because I have a new pot just for candy and I may need to double the recipe just so the candy thermometer will sit far enough. That's my excuse anyway.

Usually I take a whole weekend to get my baking and candy done. This year I decided to make one thing every night. Less stress I am hoping and tonight I used it as an excuse to not talk with the mother-in-law. Tomorrow I'm trying a new peanut brittle recipe. It makes a lot more than the old recipe, which is good because that's one of the favorites.

Yes, the holiday spirit is coming back. I got to my room this morning and found a loaf of banana bread with a note saying it was from a special gluten free batch so I could enjoy it. My co-worker's father has celiac and she and I have talked about it a lot. She made banana bread for her holiday baking and didn't want me to be left out.

I am prepared to give my mother-in-law a piece of my mind as soon as she mentions Christmas. My husband invited his parents to our place for Christmas. I don't know if he was invited to their house for Christmas Eve or not, but I wasn't. The human part of me wants to inform her that she is not welcome here because as she likes to say "Christmas is for family," and she isn't part of my family like I'm not part of hers. However, she is my husband's mom. When he learned that I wasn't invited to his parent's house he decided on his own to stay with me. Of course, I love him for that. Anyway, if she thanks me for having her over for Christmas I'm simply going to remind her that it's the right thing to do. That there have been instances where I am not welcome somewhere and I know how it feels and I would never intentionally do that to someone else. I also plan on informing her that if for some reason this is our last Christmas I want it to be a good memory. So, no, it may not be how I want to spend Christmas, but I am not selfish enough to tell her she's not invited. Besides, it's only for a few hours.
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SHERRYGAYL 12/12/2012 1:01PM

    OMG! She actually said that to you??? Ouch! That was rude and cruel and completely unnecessary! My ex's mom is mentally ill (not diagnosed but she has 20+ dogs in her trailer... the stories I could tell!) and she wouldn't go that far! You're a good person to invite her over after that! And kudos to hubby or choosing to stay with you! I kind of hope he told her why but would totally understand if he didn't.

And how sweet that your co-worker made you a GF bread! That was so thoughtful!

Enjoy making the candy! Just taste with caution... those calories count, too! emoticon

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1STATEOFDENIAL 12/11/2012 10:23PM

    Good work on the candies. I used to love making candies and cookies. One year I even made my own saltwater taffy, pulling and all. Sometimes it's a process to put the holiday spirit in the heart, and if that means providing others with some yummy treats then that's what you do. Doing for others is often a good way to feel warm and fuzzy inside.

I believe it's a good idea to talk with your MIL. She's been a real source of frustration to you and there's no need for her to have power over your emotions. Find where your relationship stands and make your feelings known. You have just as much right to having peace in your house as she does in hers, and as much as you want to put your husband first if it is detrimental to you then is it worth it? Get your husband in the conversation too. Is it possible that he will not have a problem if his family doesn't come to your house, if it means you will not be treated badly in your own home? Perhaps he sees that you're being treated unfairly and will want to say something himself. No matter what, choosing to stick up for yourself then making choices that is best for the most people is what being an adult is all about, no matter how much it hurts us sometimes.

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