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restaurant receipt says "fat" customer

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

My wallet will thank me, I think I will stop eating out for a long, long while. I read an article about a restaurant that identified customers as fat people to help them find what table the order goes to. I always wondered how waitstaff can find me at places where they do not ask you for your name when taking an order. I'll bet that had I paid close attention to my receipts, I would have seen something similar on mine! I would faint with mortification and maybe get a head injury. I wonder how many times I have been identified as the "fat lady".
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JENNAAW 9/28/2013 10:01PM

    My daughter worked as a waitress through her college years. It was the hardest work she ever did, and she worked for a harsh manager. I think a decent manager would look right into disrespecting customers and have rude behavior stopped. The majority of restaurants I go to (went to one today) have well-mannered servers. My husband and I have lifetimes of hard work behind us and are generous tippers because we know how hard work is. If someone ID's me as fat, however, I would not leave a tip and would be so ashamed I would not return to that establishment. It is just me I guess.

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DOPAMINEJUNKIE 9/28/2013 9:52PM

    If avoiding restaurants helps you in this journey, please do! As a waitress though, I hate thinking that so many people believe that sort of identifying is usual. I can't speak for everyone but where I work we number tables, take orders in a certain sequence so we know right where the food goes, once in a while we'll use shirt color if we really need to 'point someone out'.

In all honesty, we rely on tips and very few would risk losing them by offending a customer. We also know that by calling people names, most would be fired on the spot so it's unlikely staff would leave a rude identifier on paper. Where I work I'd guess that 40-75% of our customers are obese. You're more likely to be 'noticed' for being rude, loud or not tipping.

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HOTMAMA241 12/11/2012 9:46AM

    Thank you I didnt even think about it that way. Good call

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JENNAAW 12/11/2012 9:39AM

    Good for you HOTMAMA, that you have now changed your name to something a lot more appropriate than the nickname you were given once. YOU GO GIRL emoticon

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HOTMAMA241 12/11/2012 9:33AM

    When I was inn high school on a basketball team. The coach use to call me big mama. lol Like im the owl off of The movie the fox and the hound. It use to piss me off so much. And all the other skinny girls thought it was so funny. Use to hurt my feelings so bad.

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JENNAAW 12/11/2012 9:23AM

    I have been mistaken for being pregnant in the past too, NELLJONES. Yikes, were my feelings ever hurt because the comments were made in pure innocence (unlike the restaurant one). I wish I had Jean N's self-confidence. Even when people tell me out of kindness that I need to lose weight, I tend to feel very depressed and it actually makes it harder for me to stay on track. Working hard to overcome this before I run out of time.

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NELLJONES 12/11/2012 9:15AM

    Jean Nidetch, the founder of WW, said in her book that a woman she knew said to her one day, "You look marvelous! When are you due?" Jean said she didn't like that woman then and didn't like her later, but has been grateful to her ever since. That was the push she needed to get serious. The rest is history.

I was identified as the "fat girl" in high school. That was over 45 years ago and I have never forgotten it. I lost my weight shortly thereafter, and those memories help me stay on track to this day. Where the mirror and the tight jeans fail to get our notice, humiliation can. Use it. That way we all, too, can be grateful ever since.

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BOOKWORM27S 12/11/2012 9:09AM

    I saw this story on the news! I was so shocked and embarrassed for those 2 women. So sad that our society can get away with labeling like that.

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MILPAM3 12/11/2012 8:46AM

  Thankfully for some, they are not identified by their inner problems, be they physical or emotional or mental. Can you imagine:
ADD applicant
Constipated client
Cantankerous customer
Bulimic business associate
...and the like?

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