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Not Too Happy with Myself

Monday, December 10, 2012

I was doing well. I could jog a mile. I worked out twice a week. I ate healthier. I drank lots of water. I lost 50 pounds. I bought smaller clothes. I got compliments. Then, it all fell apart.

I haven't jogged in a while. I work out once a week, on a good week. I make poor food choices. I drink about half the amount of water I should. I've gained back about 10 pounds. My smaller clothes are a bit more snug. The compliments have stopped. I'm not happy about any of this.

Why? I've had a lot going on. Between the pregnancy, November birthdays, holiday festivities, and more. But that should NOT be an excuse. I want working out to be a priority. I don't want everything else to get in the way, but it does. I no longer have a workout partner, so I'm on my own. My wife isn't as supportive of my efforts as I wish she was. She sometimes gives me grief about going the gym because I'm busy and she wants or needs me for other things instead.

I know people with larger families and busier lives than me, yet they spend many hours a week running and working out. I just don't understand how it's possible. I don't think I will ever be at that level, and I'm not sure that I would want to. At least they're consistent. I think that's the key. As soon as I slack off for a week or two, it easily becomes a pattern. I feel like no one understands that. Hearing "we've got a lot going on, just come home tonight" more than a couple of times in a row really throws me off.

I don't mean to blame others, but when you're married and working two jobs to support a family, you really need support. I wish I could do it all by myself, but it just doesn't seem to happen that way.

So, what do I do now? Do I enjoy the holidays and get a fresh start in the new year? Or do I try to be good, get busy and eat the holiday goodies, then get disappointed that I'm still not getting anywhere?

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  • WINNIE1978
    I can completely relate to just about all of this, except for the pregnant wife part! I do ok one week, then not even close to good the next or the next two weeks... I'm hopeful that once our house is built and we get settled into it that I'll be able to re-establish a good workout routine and that I'll make use of my new kitchen with making healthy food again.

    Good luck figuring out a way to balance everything so that you can devote some time to your health and fitness.
    1924 days ago
    I definitely think you have ways to work on things now - eating healthier, drinking your water, and getting adequate sleep are ways of getting back on track. Although I am not married nor do I have kids, but it's busy for me too right now with the holidays here. If you can, just get in 10-15 minutes a day - a quick walk or SP video will help. Maybe leave the gym until after the holidays are over, but there are always ways to get in movement.

    Once the holidays are over, try talking with your wife. Reminder her that while she is important, so is your health. You need to be healthy for this sweet little one that will be here soon. Agree on a time for you to work out. Communication is key!
    1928 days ago
    1929 days ago
    chin up! it happens. pick yourself up and out of the slump... i wish my husband were more supportive as well. that's what spark friends are for emoticon it's important that you put yourself at the top of your list. a happier, healthier you benefits EVERYONE in the family!
    don't wait until the new year.... start at breakfast tomorrow. if you start now you could be down 10lbs by january already.
    good luck! emoticon
    1929 days ago
  • JO88BAKO
    One step at a time. One good choice at a time. You can do it!!
    1929 days ago
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