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Anja is alright. And i am back home safely.

Monday, December 10, 2012

Thank you for all the messages and goodies since last time, much appreciated, and thank you for those who light a candle it is placed in a English church and i saw many there, i ask reverend who they were for many was for Aithley.

I went to Cape town to pick up my sister belongs, it was hard thing to do, because her bed had of her lively scent. She hand a tendency to always use aroma shampoos and things and that is how it smelt, almost like she was still there. I wish she was, and she was alive but it isn't so, i am finding it hard to deal the fact my sister is gone and i won't see her anymore, i feel like she is alive her spirit, and it glows bright around those that she meant a great deal to.

I went to cape town Wednesday the 5th. And came back yesterday. Anja awoke on Saturday. When i went there i held her hand and prayed. She looked better than what my sister did, but seeing someone in a coma is also not very nice to see. But i am glad that she came out alright, i spoke with her, we both cried as she did not know of Aithley's fate. She said that Aithley was trying to fight for the both of them, for their lives and if it wasn't for Aithley maybe she too be the same fate as my sister. I will keep contact with this girl, i feel like i owe it to Aithley. Anja was last one to see her alive. Sad part of it, Aithley was due to be home 16th of this month, and we would of had a great Christmas gathering. But now Christmas will be a dark side for us , having loosing someone so close to Christmas it is hard, we will not celebrate it as we usually do but we will have a small dinner together, there will probably be alot of silences due to my sister's passing.

Anja seemed to get stronger and eat normal by the time i left. David seems like a nice bloke too, i see why my sister had fancied him, he would of been a good husband to my sister i believe.

Krystle and I have planned a date 20 May 2014 for our wedding. We may use some of my sister ideas she had some ideas and plans for being our bridesmaid, we didn't replace her instead we just have the 2 bridesmaid and the maid of honor, Aithley was to be the 3rd bridesmaid.

Since Aithley had no man nor children, her items, house and such went to our parents. But Krystle and I will use her house, since we were living with my parents in their farm house in York and Aithley has a nice house in London, for work it is about same distance or maybe in future we can find something closer to London. So we have our own space, i feel her spirit at home though. And for sometime i probably will.

I believe Aithley is an Angel watching over us.
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    Your sister still inspires with her messages in her blogs! Amazing & creative! emoticon

    She gave me an orchid goodie from her sanctuary blog on 11/2/12. You can feel the love she has for her family
    1795 days ago
  • ANY010113
    condolences and hope all is well with you and the rest of family and Anja.
    1836 days ago
    Wishing you and your family blessings and condolences. God bless you. Joyce
    1876 days ago
  • JENIYE_707
    I am sorry to hear about your sister. I will keep your family in my prayers. emoticon
    1884 days ago
    Thinking of you and your family.
    1889 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    Dear Adrian,
    I am returning here to Aithley's (and your) page to see how you are doing, as well as your family. Tomorrow is Christmas Eve, a blessed and holy time. I feel that your sister is hovering over you and yours, sending you all feelings of her love and devotion.
    We Spark people will never forget her, a person who touched lives she would never have known otherwise. Please feel free to continue being here on her behalf or you and the new Mrs. Adrian.
    May He hold you all in His arms this week, wrapping you in His love and concern. We all know Aithley is walking with Him, being part of his new set of angels, to watch over you and all of her friends and family.
    Your sharings here are a highlight of my day, bless you for them. Please share love and hugs with Anja, telling her of Sparks concern for her too.
    1891 days ago
    1891 days ago

    I sent you a SparkMail through Aithley's page. Please read it. Aithley and I had become friends through SparkPeople. Reading this blog makes me cry. Especially the part about David making a good husband. She talked about that with me. Not David in particular, but about having a future husband that would be a good man. She was excited about the holidays, too. This breaks my heart. She was so sweet and funny, too. We had a lot of good talks together. I just found out a few minutes ago about her passing. I had been away in the hospital for several weeks and wasn't able to keep in contact. She was killed the day before my first surgery. I was anxious to get back to all of my Spark Friends. Aithley was especially on my list, because I wanted to catch up with how she was doing. I can't tell you the shock of reading of her death. So very sorry, Adrian! I can't seem to stop crying. Such a sweet caring human being just taken away like that. You and your family are in my prayers.
    1894 days ago
    Thanks for checking in with us. I still feel Aithley's bright spirit on Sparkpeople . I'm glad Anja is doing well. I'm so sorry for your loss. I will keep praying for you and your family.
    1895 days ago
    Thankyou so much for this up date.....I am so pleased that Anja is coming right...I am sure she will become apart of your family as the days tick by....
    Ah won't be Aithley but she will be someone special in your lives...
    My prayers continue for you all
    1896 days ago
  • STACYR31
    I am so very sorry for your loss! There is so much death and tragedy in our world that it just makes me want to cry on a daily basis. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.
    1896 days ago
    1897 days ago
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
    1900 days ago
    I'm still reeling from the news about your sister. She was a great SparkFriend and will be very missed. I'm glad Anja is going to be alright, at least physically. I hope that her memory can bring you and her parents some small measure of comfort over the holdiays. emoticon
    1900 days ago
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  • BEETH52
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    1900 days ago
  • -COURT-
    Thank you for the update on Anja. My prayers still go out to you and your family.
    Congratulatons on your upcomig marriage.
    1901 days ago
    I meant to tell you that our whole group on this site called the Peppy Party have a challenge to do random acts of kindness all this month in Aithley's honour. she was a kind, loving person who set the example.
    1901 days ago
    Thank you so much for updating us on what has been happening for you as you went to CapeTown to get your sister's things, mourn her loss and see and talk to Anja (thank God she is okay!) I am glad you can come here to write about Aithley and keep her memory alive, as many people loved her here. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers. It will be a very sad holiday for all of you. I wish you peace and love!
    1901 days ago
    Thank you so much for updating us on Anja. Glory to God for keeping her alive. I imagine she has a long road ahead, and might have some difficulty over the fact that she lived and Aithley died.
    emoticon on your upcoming wedding. I'm sure Aithley will be smiling down from heaven on that blessed day.
    My heart goes out to your family during this holiday season.
    1902 days ago
    emoticon My heart goes out to you
    1902 days ago
    I am sure your sister is watching over you now and she will also be with you in spirit for Christmas. I am glad that Anjay is awake and will be ok now.
    1902 days ago
  • LOSER05
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  • JUSTME29
    I'm so glad to hear that Anja is recovering. I know the news was hard for her, but I'm so glad that you were there when she found out. Having someone to grieve with and tell her story to may have made all the difference in the world for her. I'm so glad she woke while you were there.

    I'm glad you and your lady will be using Aithley's house. Her presence will be comforting and the memories you have of her will be kept alive there more than anywhere else.
    1902 days ago
    You are in my continued prayers......Aithley is an angel with you always. It doesn't surprise me that she was the one to fight! She was about putting others first. I'm thankful Anja is getting better but feel so sorry that Aithley is gone. Best of luck to you with your wedding and marriage. Your sister will always be with you. God bless you all!
    1902 days ago
    I am glad you are going to keep in contact with Anja and that she is doing better. I feel for your loss especially during the Christmas season. I am glad you are going to remember Aithley in your wedding plans. I am sure her spirit remains and that she will always be with you in your heart. I know I won't forget her. emoticon
    1902 days ago
    You're in my continued prayers!
    1902 days ago
  • BEFIT018
    I'm glad to hear Anja is awake & recovering. What a shock it must have been for her to hear of her friends' passing. I still can't belive her being gone, either. I miss her and never even met her.

    It could not have been an easy thing to have to pick up her things.

    I'm sure it won't be an easy Christmas with her being gone.But she would want you to go on, not to be sad.

    Aithley was so happy and excited for your upcoming wedding. Lots of good memories, I hope, with you living in her home. I'm sure she'll be looking down on you, smiling.

    My best wishes to you and your family during this holiday season.
    1902 days ago
    I still can not believe Aithley is gone either. Thank you for the update on her friend, Anja. Thanks to God for her recovery. Aithley is a hero, so brave in such a vicious situation. I will always remember her as the wonderful friend she was to me..

    Congratulations on your wedding.
    1902 days ago
    I'm glad that Anja will be OK. I wish the same for you and your family! Get on with life - Aithley would want that! And I believe she is watching out for you and the rest of her family!

    1902 days ago
    I am glad her fiend is doing well, Sorry again for you loss, so very sad.
    I lived in Yorkshire I walked as a child on the North Yorkshire moors and I tell EVERYONE to visit YORK if they go to England. Take care Pat in Maine USA.
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    1903 days ago
    I'm so glad that Anja is doing well and you were able to talk with her. I'm hoping you found some comfort in that connection despite your loss. Aithley will always be watching over your family - she will always be there in spirit and would want you all to be happy. I know this is a hard time to lose someone - we lost my dad five days before Christmas and buried him just two days was a time for reflection, loss, but a time to be thankful for the family we had together on that day.

    Thank you for the update again, and God bless you and your family.
    1903 days ago
    I am so very glad you had the chance to go back and feel Aithley's Spirit around you ..
    Glad you could also be there to be with Anja
    It is good to have closure and to know that one day you will all be together again .
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    1903 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/10/2012 10:20:58 PM
    I'm so glad to hear that Anja is awake and seems to be improving each day. I'm sure Aithley would be happy about that. I'm also glad to hear that you went there and came home safely. I'm sure it must have been very hard to go pick up her things. I'm glad to hear that you will be staying in touch with Anja. I think Aithley would be happy about that.

    I know that Christmas will be hard for you and your family. I know it will not be the same without Aithley there with you. Her spirit will always be with you though. I hope that all of your memories of Aithley will help you get through this difficult time and other difficult times that you may have.

    I think that's great that you and Krystle will be using some of Aithley's ideas in your wedding. I know that she was really excited about your wedding. I think it's really wonderful that the two of you will be living in her house. I think she would like that.

    That's so awesome that so many people lit a candle for Aithley. Aithley is definietly and angel watching over you and the rest of her loved ones. I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts!

    1903 days ago
  • BARBIE176
    Thank you for the update. I am truly thanking God for Anja doing better and seeming to improve each day. I know that would make Aithley happy.

    You are right that this holiday will be one where your family misses Aithley. Grief is a long and winding road, but each day will bring you more peace. I pray that your happy memories of Aithley will help you get through the tough times. My prayers will be continuing for all of your family, especially during the holidays.

    I think it is nice that you will be using some of your sister's ideas for your wedding and not replacing her as a bridesmaid. I pray peace for you and Krystle. I know how excited Aithley was for the two of you. I think she would like that you will be living in her house.

    How awesome that so many candles were lit for Aithley. I pray that it brought you some comfort to know how many people will miss her. She truly is an angel and I am sure you will feel her presence often. Send hugs and prayers for your family.
    1903 days ago
    I went to the church on the internet and lit a candle for your sister. I will pray for coomfort for you and your family as well as Anja, in your sorrow. May the light of the Perpetual shine upon her forever.
    1903 days ago
    Thanks again for this new update. I am happy that Anja is doing better and that you are going to watch over her...that would please Aithley, I am sure.

    Each day that goes by you will miss your sister and as time goes on your memories of her will help you get through other situations, both happy and sad.

    I know that Christmas will be a very sad time for you and your family and I will continue to say prayers that God will give you solace at this time. As a family you will give each other strength and grow closer together.

    God bless all of you.

    Best regards,
    Margo (Canada)
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    1903 days ago
    I very sorry for your loss. May you find peace in knowing that Aithley's love will live forever in your heart.

    1903 days ago
  • DBELLE39
    Yes, indeed Aithley was an angel & is watching over you & your family. Hugs & prayers for your family.
    1903 days ago
    1903 days ago
    You are so right, Aithley is an angel watching over all of her loved ones. emoticon emoticon
    1903 days ago
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