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My body or my face?

Saturday, December 08, 2012

I think it's Catherine Deneuve who is credited with the comment that at a certain age a woman has to choose between her body and her face.

I am thin now, and at my age (over 60) thin means a gaunt face. I have just had a facelift to try to even out the creases, and the surgeon sucked some fat out of my hips and injected it into my face to try to plump it up, to fill in the big creases. With age my skin has gotten thinner, and gravity has done it's inexorable work on pulling it all down. I don't want to gain weight to fill out my face, but that is the choice. I look at older faces now much more than I used to. Thin older women look younger than their heavier counterparts, but the faces of heavier women do look better.

Of course, we older women are much rounder around the middle. Left the face and migrated to my middle. I remember my grandmothers both patting under their chins, which was supposed to "break up the fat". I remember these chin straps they wore to bed in hopes of getting rid of the sags of age. I am eternally grateful for modern surgical techniques to restore some semblance of youth. But as the doc said when he removed the stitches, gravity picks up right where it left off.

I am sure that when the swelling goes down and I can see my cheekbones again I'll be thrilled, but oh to have that dewy, plump skin again! More fat would fill it out, but I'm not willing to have the round body (like Catherine Deneuve now has) in order to improve my face.

It IS a choice: my body or my face? I'm choosing my body.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SHARON10002 12/21/2012 11:12PM

    I do believe we each know what we want or need for our bodies. I also believe in the aging process. I feel that our it's designed that way for a reason . . .

I do use EVOO exclusively in my cooking and in food. I guess it must help. I don't have any proof, but you can look at my picture.

I do hope that once your stitches are out and all is healed that you are happy with the results. I know it's probably hard to tell anything right now. We'd love to see before and after photos.

I'm too chicken to go under the knife for anything that is not life threatening! emoticon If it were painless and they could take fat from one area to plump up my face, I'd let them take it from my mid-esction. emoticon Why not kill two birds with one stone?!

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BELLAMEMAW 12/10/2012 5:27AM

    I say if a woman.....or man.... wants to have plastic surgery of any kind, that is their choice and their business. I hope you're happy with the end result. We all know our bodies and our private thoughts, you have to do what's right for you. If I could afford when the "time" comes, I would definitely consider it as well.

I'll have to check out the coconut oil suggestion from singinfatlady as well.

Best of luck; I'll be watching for before and after's as well! Pat

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ILOVEMALI 12/10/2012 2:22AM

    Have a speedy recovery!

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SUZYMOBILE 12/9/2012 9:25PM

    At this point, Nell, I know that I look far better with clothes on than not, yet I have no desire to tuck or trim or suck parts of my body away. I just want my clothes to fit and to feel good. Hope you end up feeling the same! I think you're fine just the way you are.

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CELIAMINER 12/9/2012 3:34PM

    Really looking forward to your before and after pix. Still trying to work up the nerve to get the surgical help.

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GABY1948 12/9/2012 8:00AM

    I wish you the best and hope you are happy with it. It doesn't matter what others think.

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ZUCCHINIQUEEN 12/9/2012 6:24AM

    Good choice!

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KAYYVAUGHN 12/9/2012 6:03AM

    I agree with the comment below. When I was younger, I didn't take good care of my skin. Although, I didn't lay out in the sun, I didn't use creams. etc to keep it soft.
As we age we learn what we should have done years ago. Now I buy anti-aging creams for my face/eyes.

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MEDDYPEDDY 12/9/2012 2:31AM

    My wish is that I would have appreciated that youth and skin when I had it! But I did not so I wonder what it is that I have now and does not appreciate...

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FISHINGLADY66 12/8/2012 9:38PM

    emoticon Wishing you the best.

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WATERMELLEN 12/8/2012 8:52PM

    All best as those stitches come out! Fashions change in bodies (students of art history can't help but know that . . . ) but it seems to me with a little surgical intervention you ARE getting the best of both worlds: thin fit body AND rejuvenated face. Who knew that a surgeon could inject a little fat from where we don't want it to where we do? (Not me!!). Gotta say, at pretty much the same age as you and "somewhat" thin (5'9", generally a size 6-8) I'm too "chicken" to go for a face lift (have had enought "other" surgeries): but my MIL had several!!

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SLIMMERJESSE 12/8/2012 8:34PM

    As Popeye said, I yam what I yam. I like my body and face, no matter the imperfections. Always have, and
hopefully always will.

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SINGINFATLADY 12/8/2012 8:21PM

    I've been reading that adding healthy coconut oil--unrefined, extra virgin, cold-pressed organic--to your diet is not only healthy for your heart, teeth, and metabolism, but it also helps to fill out a gaunt face.

My mum is 80 and has been taking it for about 5 months, just a tablespoon or two a day. There is a visible difference in the roundness of her cheeks, and she says it's been helping her sleep better too.

From what I've been reading, it's pretty much a miracle drug (except it isn't a drug).

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