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How to SHUT UP??

Saturday, December 08, 2012

I know it is kind of stupid question but I really need to know how to shut up / shut my mouth saying something. I have really bad problem that I can not see anything wrong and can't keep my mouth shut for saying anything about it.

Now a days my problem is getting more and more problem. I speak up because there is something wrong going on around and in return I have to hear stuff from people. Now is the situation that I can't even keep my mind focus and I feel stress all the time with small issues and I end up saying something (bitter truth some times / say something at wrong time)

Is anyone has this problem? Did anyone has come over to it or any advise

Thank you in advance for helping me out
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SLENDERELLA61 12/8/2012 2:09PM

    At times in my life I have been too passive and have not spoken out. That is not a good way to be either.

Perhaps you could write out your concerns, clarify them, maybe even practice delivering your concerns tactfully. Then consciously choose a good time to express your concerns.

That you are aware of this issue means there is great hope!

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CHRISTINASP 12/8/2012 2:03PM

    I think it's important to ask why you are speaking up.
Is it because you really need to be assertive and speak your mind? Or is it thoughtless words that just pop out? What situations does this happen?
One thing that helped me was to sort of 'save up' issues and moments that I wanted to say something, say nothing, and then adress the things that I REALLY wanted to talk about LATER, when the person I talked to was relaxed and when I had had the time to weigh my words.

Comment edited on: 12/8/2012 2:04:25 PM

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4KWALK 12/8/2012 1:39PM

    I understand exactly what you mean. Sometimes I talk first then think and by then it is too late.
One trick I have tried that does work is to to count to 10 before I say a word. This gives me time to cool off, think and try to rearrange my words so they don't hurt the other person so much.
Lately I have been thinking to myself "how would I feel if someone just said that to me"
I guess it is something that needs to be learned same as a new lifestyle needs to be learned.
All the best as you try and figure out the best way to change this behaviour.

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