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Middle of the night - not sleeping

Saturday, December 08, 2012

I've been up for a couple of hours now in the middle of the night so I'm just spending a little time sparking.

Some of you know from my last blog that I have a friend in the hospital with cancer. The very worst of news came yesterday that there is nothing the doctors can do this time. The cancer has spread and the tumors cannot be removed. Depending on recovery from this surgery there is weeks to possibly 9 months to live. He will be leaving behind a wife and three kids - a 12 year old, a senior in highschool and a college student.

I'll be going to the hospital on Sunday to visit them. They actually live in another city and just here because of the doctor. I just don't have any words to know what to say at this point.

I continue to be grateful that my husband got out of his cancer scare through surgery with no need for chemo or radiation but things like this for my friend scare me that something might come back in the future. I think cancer is a scary thing that never really leaves your mind once it's been there for any reason. My husband had prostate cancer that was all removed and my friend had pancreatic cancer. They thought they had removed it all but that kind of cancer is so bad. Well all kinds of cancer are bad. I hope that one day they find a complete cure for this dreadful disease.

Anyway - I was awake for a number of reasons one of which was a cramp in my hip. We are doing major overhaul at my house and I spent the day moving some furniture and on my feet much of the day. I absolutely love my TP Therapy Grid which is a type of foam roller. I used that for about 20 minutes and I feel much better. Just spending a few minutes sparking and drinking some water before I try and go back to bed.

When I get up in a few hours it will be grocery shopping and then a little baking. We are having a family time this afternoon to decorate both of our trees. They have been up for a few weeks with no ornaments so the cats could play in them without jeopardizing all our ornaments. Hopefully they have that out of their system!
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_MOBII_ 12/8/2012 10:56AM

    I am very sorry to hear about your friend. You don't have to know what to say, just go sit and be with him. Conversation will come or not, both are alright, just let him and his family know that you are there.
(((big hugs)))

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MZZCHIEF 12/8/2012 10:35AM

    Saw your blog and just wanted to express my condolences.
Lost my youngest sister to cancer.

You never think its going to happen to the ones you love.
Or to you.
When it does, it hits hard.


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JUNEAU2010 12/8/2012 9:27AM

    I am so sorry for your friend and his family. Damn cancer! The only tiny silver lining is that they have some time to spend together. Those children will look back on this time with a mix of sorrow and gratitude. Sending cyberhugs and prayers.

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VALYNN26 12/8/2012 8:04AM

    So sorry to hear about your friend.Sending prayers to the family during this difficult time. Hope you hip feels better soon. Enjoy your family time & your weekend.

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ARCHIMEDESII 12/8/2012 6:37AM

    I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. Pancreatic cancer is the worst. My uncle passed away from it a couple of years ago. having a loved one with cancer isn't easy. it is an extremely stressful time for everyone. Try to get a nap later today if you can.


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PICKIE98 12/8/2012 6:16AM

    the Bib "C" is a bite in our butts, nothing can diminish the pain, the fear and the ultimate outcome of it when it is untreatable at some point.
I want to send you a cyber hug for being there, just being there, for your dear friend. I know that is not why you are doing it, but I used to work on an oncology floor, and we nurses spent long hours just listening and holding hands of people whose family either could not be there, or were afraid of what to say or not say.
Mostly they talked about the practical side of their situation,ie, how it feels to die, the pain, wanting to talk to their spouse about stuff, but afraid to hurt them,etc.

If only everybody could really believe the definition of two little words :mortal and immortal, it would be so much easier,, I had one guy tell me that an hour before he died.
You go be with your friend, give him your time, and know that it is the best gift you could tie a bow on for him.

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