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Thursday, December 06, 2012

I have been mainting goal weight for a couple weeks. I was very excited to get there. I am teaching 4 zumba classes a week and have a great group of girls that look at me for inspiration and tips on how to lose weight and be healthy. I started a weight loss challenge with my girls in class to help keep them motivated, sometimes though even though they see me as this strong girl who has lost over 60lbs i just need someone to help me out too. I have been working alot and really had no time for hanging out with friends or my old fitness classes i use to go to. I still work out at least 5x a week but not with my friends all the time. I have noticed i eat great during the day at work but have been coming home and binge eating. Not extreme but a couple low fat cookies, a fruit snack some crackers. I know this doesn't sound that bad but i have been doing it when bored. I know all the ways to avoid this but right now i just need someone to help me be accountable. I plan on hiring a personal trainer after the holidays so i hope that keeps me on track. I am afraid of everyone thinking i am perfect (which far from) and forgetting i am human too and need sometimes someone to check how i am doing. I know this is a pity party post sorry but just need to get it out. I will be praying about this today and i hope god can help give me some strength too.
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KANOE10 12/18/2012 9:03AM

    Maintenance is hard work, You are wise to nip that gain in the bud and to control your snacking. Good for you posting and staying accountable.

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LOVEMYBODY2012 12/12/2012 11:37PM

    You are okay! You are aware of where you are and this will pass. Hang in there!

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 12/11/2012 12:14PM

    I know EXACTLY where you are coming from. People look at you as perfect, as inspiration, as KNOWING how to lose weight and KEEP it off. It sounds like you are doing all the rights things, with your Zumba classes, etc. But I know how that snacking can start to get way too easy. Sure, we're eating healthier snacks than before, but we are eating way too many of them. Maintenance is a day to day, sometimes moment to moment struggle. It's making one bad choice, but then realizing, that was just ONE bad choice, you can get right back to making GOOD choices. It's all up to us. We have the power.

I have bragged about my 178-lb. weight loss, been in the local press, both national (Huffington Post) and international (Gr. Britain) on-line newspapers, and on national TV (Today Show's Joy Fit Club inductee), so there's really no going back now. I put myself out there, and the humiliation if I regain would be just too much to bear. But surprisingly, that motivates me even more to keep the weight off. Sure, my health is 100% better, my doctor says I have added years to my life, I look better, and can wear pretty clothes, but more importantly, people will talk about me if I gain weight! emoticon
I take motivation wherever I can get it!

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FIRECOM 12/11/2012 9:07AM

    Please keep in touch. There are a lot of folks out here that care, so take care.

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CRYSTALJEM 12/10/2012 9:13AM

    You'll do it! Just call on your spark friends if the going gets too tough.

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CM_GARDNER78 12/9/2012 1:18AM

    You can do this!! Sometimes I think maintenance is harder than actually losing the weight! Keep at it - and now that you've identified your binges, you can make an action plan to work on changing it!!! You are awesome - and you look fantastic!!!

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ACTIONHEROFOX 12/9/2012 12:28AM

    Each day is a new day to do something different! emoticon emoticon

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MARYHENNIG 12/9/2012 12:21AM

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MARYHENNIG 12/9/2012 12:21AM

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MSMOSTIMPROVED 12/8/2012 10:57PM

    You just need to focus on motivating us!!!!!! Fire ain't the only one hot!!!

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FIT4MEIN2013 12/8/2012 10:47PM

    You aren't perfect. Let these 'girls' be your new support team. Let then know that it is still hard and you need help sometimes, too. That will help ALL of you!

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NOTSOFLUFFYDAD 12/8/2012 10:41PM

    You have come so far!! You are a true inspiration for me who still needs to lose at least 120 pounds. If you need someone to help you stay accountable or to just talk to, just ask.

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JENNIK2 12/8/2012 10:40PM

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LAWANDMUSIC 12/8/2012 9:06PM

    I so admire your honesty. I am rooting for you!!

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AJB121299 12/8/2012 8:59PM

    Good luck

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KRISTEN_SAYS 12/8/2012 8:30PM

    maintenance is hard!! stay positive, you've done a great job :)

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MARYJEANSL 12/8/2012 7:49PM

  Maintenance is tough - congratulations on getting there - and keep up the good work! It's tough - but you can do it!!!

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AMARILYNH 12/8/2012 5:59PM

    The change from weight loss mode to maintenance mode is just that - a change! And change is a little scary!! You did the right thing in blogging about your feelings - we are here for you!!

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SCHOPPEK 12/8/2012 4:41PM

    You have done a wonderful job! There are so many people here rooting for you! Be blessed! emoticon

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FIRECOM 12/8/2012 2:23PM

    One thing I like about SP is that we can (and should) share our ups and downs and not be in fear of sarcastic or downing comments. Huzza to SP

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BARBANNA 12/8/2012 2:11PM

    emoticon We all need to share our ups and downs! That what makes this site so great! emoticon

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DIITUP 12/8/2012 8:04AM

  We are right here for you. It's FINE and TRUE that you are not perfect but you work hard and that is inspiring! Remember that no one wants you to be perfect, an if anyone expects that of you... well it really absolutely does not matter! What makes a person awesome is action - daily - which is another way of saying work. If you were a person who didn't work hard at being the best she could be, well... I probably wouldn't be inspired right now - which I am!

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SHANNONY84 12/8/2012 3:44AM

    We all need help sometimes! The first step is to admit it! Then to get it. It's ok for others to see you as a strong person, but even therapist have a therapist. We all need outlets and someone to help keep us motivated!

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MISSCUS 12/8/2012 2:31AM

    WE ALL NEED HELP SOMETIMES. YOU'RE SMART FOR LOOKING FOR HELP. SLIM HEALTHY PEOPLE NEED HELP TOO. I HAVE GAINED AND LOST MANY POUNDS OVER THE LAST FORTY YEARS. YOU DON'T WANT TO DO THAT. LEARN HOW NOT TO WHILE YOU ARE YOUNG. THAT'S ABOUT IT FROM THIS OLDER LADY. JUST KEEP PUTTING ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER. DANCE AWAY AND LAUGH A LOT. THAT WILL HELP KEEP YOU YOUNG.

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LINOTTE314 12/8/2012 12:31AM

    When I get to that bored and/or emotional eating moment, I jump right on the computer & read blogs for inspiration!!!! It's a habit we've got to break, and you can do it - you've done incredible so far.

Keep it up!!

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 12/7/2012 8:51PM

    Congrats on reaching your goal

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JACKIE542 12/7/2012 8:00PM

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LJOYCE55 12/7/2012 7:32PM

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OHMEMEME 12/7/2012 6:24PM

    Hear you loud and clear! It sounds like emotional eating. I battle the same. We can "do" only so much. Find the comfort you need in as healthy a way possible. Rest physically and emotionally. Doing anything consistently is tiring. This is a daily battle in which sometimes we need a rest. Then Pick up and move forward. Research and learn. Arm yourself with knowledge. Spark and search for ideas. Remember you are human and emotions will always be there. All very general statements but somehow apply to all of us. Just know that it is normal to feel and react. You have done this, you are doing this, keep pushing, Keep Sparking! emoticon

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ROMEOSMOM27 12/7/2012 4:11PM

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I enjoyed reading your story, you should feel that way. From your blog yoy seem like a very sweet person. Some people my not understand but don't forget that you have Spark friends who think your great. Keep up the good work.


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DLANGLOIS14 12/7/2012 2:45PM

    I know how you feel. Sometimes it is hard for other people to understand what you are trying to accomplish when it comes to loosing weight. I find other people are always encouraging me to eat more and skip the gym on some days which is really frustrating. I work in a stressful industry and my work takes up a lot of my time too so I understand that it felts like you have no life outside of your routine. You have come so far and you should just try to remember how proud you are of yourself when you get bored. Sparkpeople is an amazing community and always here to listen! You may even meet some new friends. =)

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BRIGHTSIDEOFME 12/7/2012 12:39PM

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Nobody's perfect =]
I know how hard it can be... Some people just think that once you hit your goal, everything's easy. You figured it all out and you don't need any help. I also eat when I am bored so I try to keep myself busy. Do crafts, go to the dollar store, watch videos, knit, clean, play games.
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TINAJANE76 12/7/2012 12:37PM

    Congratulations on reaching your goal! That's fantastic. I see that you've already joined our 'At Goal & Maintaining + Transition to Maintenance' team. I welcome and encourage you to get involved on the team for some extra support on maintenance. It doesn't have to be a lonely place and we're working to change that. We have lots of interesting discussions, a daily accountability thread and regularly hold maintenance challenges (the challenge is to see who can maintain their weight the best over the course of the challenge period). Come on over and join in the discussion. We've got a pretty active and extremely supportive bunch who can help you stay on track. Hope to see you there!

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RIVERNANNA 12/7/2012 12:12PM

    First, congrats on your weight loss! Second, if you are teaching 4 zumba classes per week your exercise levels have increased. If you can do these 2 things, you can get your mind back on track.

It is also encouraging to know that Spark People is here for us even after we reach out weight-loss goals.

Stay active and talk to you classes about this. They could benefit from this, and you will gain some supporters too.

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TJCADDO 12/7/2012 12:06PM

    Ah... There is a group for that. TinaJane is the leader and she is always recruiting others who have reached this phase in their weightloss journey.

Her SparkGroup is called At Goal & Maintaining + Transistion To Maintenance. I really like this woman. She is so inspiring, but since I am not at goal nor even maintaining what I have already lost I am not ready for such a Group.

Please check it out!

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KRYSTALGEM85 12/7/2012 11:38AM

    Thank you all for your kind responses. I am going to talk to the class about it so they know they never have to feel embarassed or ashamed of things because in a way i guess that is what i did. I noticed it happens more nights my husband works third shift so i am going to be on spark more than in front of the tv when kids are asleep and i am not ready to go to bed:) I love my sparkfamily

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KHK218 12/7/2012 10:43AM

    I agree with SunnyLife-- maybe you can find something to do during that time you've been snacking-- maybe call a friend or something. Honestly, I think it might be good to mention to your class that you still struggle sometimes too. Often it seems that people trying to lose weight see thin people as having it easy or just naturally being able to control their issues-- it might be helpful for them to know that that isn't true.

Anyway, hugs and good luck! I suck at eating healthy so I just exercise more instead. :)

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SDLEE514 12/7/2012 9:23AM

    congrats on your weight loss and maintenance! I respect you for still acknowledging areas you need to work on and seeking help. Maintenance feels like "now what?" or "where do i begin again?" It makes SENSE to still need support. emoticon

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NEVERGIVEUP 12/7/2012 9:17AM

    I can relate. Achieving goal is just the beginning. I can't tell you how many times I slid back into old habits in my journey. I am convinced it is a life long battle, but one we can definitely win! You've made some changes in your life, and change can be especially difficult for those of us who struggle with weight. Even if they are positive changes! Keep on doing all the wonderful things you've been doing and feel free to reach out when you need help! emoticon

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NEWMOM20121 12/7/2012 8:29AM

    Congratulations on the weight lost and well done on maintenance. You see the signs that is what is important. Recognizing the signs.

Best wishes to you

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GOTTAPLAN4U 12/7/2012 8:16AM

  You are reminding us that maintainence is just as hard or harder than weightloss. No matter how much time passes all of us will have to continue the good fight with occasional set backs and frustrations.

You know how to be successful as you have shown....what an accomplishment!
Go back to your motivational roots, only now the perspective is not "I know where I want to go/be". Instead it is "look where I am, I did this, I refuse to loose this wonderful accomplishment".

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SMITHHUS 12/7/2012 7:13AM

    I LOVE THE HONESTY... We are not perfect but stride to be that sometimes. Please handle your business. For me I have been up and down and just decided to take it one day at a time. I realize that "one is too many... and a thousand is never enough" so I have decided to use this other program that I associated with principles to guide me. If I do not pick it up... I cannot put it down... this is how I stop and now I am back to square one. ..Prayer is also a major factor for me when I need to be strengthen. So chin up... get back to basics... and throw the cookies in the garbage. emoticon emoticon Start today...

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SUNNYLIFE72 12/7/2012 4:59AM

  Congratulations on your weight loss and maintenance. =)

Thanks for being human and sharing your struggles. We all have them.

What do you usually do at night? It sounds like this wasn't a past behavior and now you mentioned you are snacking when you are bored. Can you switch up your routine at home? Find something of interest to do? Keep healthier snacks in reach? Call a friend when you get the munchies or log onto sparkpeople?

Best wishes to you!

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JAMIEG 12/6/2012 10:43AM

    I am a weight management coach who has lost 50 pounds and kept it off. I would love to help you problem-solve and help you set some doable goals for yourself for the next few weeks. I understand the part about being the one who is suppose to have it all together, especially as a fitness instructor/motivator . I really admire your willingness to reach out and ask for support, especially as you see how it benefits others when you help them. When we are always giving, we have to get filled in somehow. Get back to me and we can get started. I will have some time tomorrow for us to communicate. Meanwhile, take a deep breath and look at all that you have accomplished!

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70LBSTOGO2 12/6/2012 10:25AM

    we are all here to listen!! Kepp your chin up you have done very well!!

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