Mixed Feelings About Menopause
Thursday, December 06, 2012
I'll be 55 years old in March of 2013 which is just 3 months away as I write this, and I haven't reached menopause yet. The average age of menopause in the US is 51 so I'm wondering why I haven't "stopped" yet. I asked my mother, who is 81 now, how old she was when she reached menopause and she said she really couldn't remember. Apparently the event was so "non-eventful" for her that she didn't even notice. That's a good thing. Maybe I won't have any symptoms that I hear so much about - the hot flashes, night sweats, mood swings, vaginal dryness, etc. Which brings me to my mixed feelings about reaching menopause. It would be very nice not to have to bother every month with my "period" but yet I don't want to lose all that estrogen that keeps me looking and feeling young. I'm wondering if I'll lose interest in sex and get dry skin and wrinkles. My husband is ten years younger than me so that would be a very bad thing if I didn't feel like making love anymore. My parents were married for 53 years until my father passed away 7 years ago but my mother admitted to me that they didn't "sleep together" for the last 20 years of their marriage. I remember when I was a little girl that my mother mentioned that the "crazy woman" down the street was going through the "change". It seemed like a scary and mysterious time. Now there is so much information out there about menopause; I know it is just a normal stage in a woman's life; there is hormone replacement therapy if necessary; and it is no longer a terrible thing to be feared. But still I don't want to become an "older" woman. A year ago, I missed a period and really felt pregnant. That was a big scare and I bought a couple pregnancy tests to make sure I wasn't pregnant. For now I'll just keep eating a healthy diet and exercising and see what happens. Hopefully I'll just stop menstruating and I will hardly notice and my husband and I will stay happily married. Happy Menopause Ladies !