Wednesday, December 05, 2012
I am the happiest I have ever been.
I have the most amazing man in my life. When I met him, I was happy with myself and my life, and he has made it even better. I have that unexplainable connection and chemistry with him that people look for. It is my real life fairy tale. He is my prince charming and treats me like a princess.
A "friend" was not excited for my engagement. I also just so happened to go into work the day after I became engaged. A week later she told me she just thinks its too soon and she is very concerned for me because she hasnt met him before.
Ive only worked a few months with this girl and hung out outside of work, only once.
She is now mad at me because I was hurt by what she said, and she said she just had to say it because she needed to get it off her chest.
While I value honesty, isnt there such a thing as keeping things to yourself? I dont really want to fix this relationship with her, but I dont feel as if I am in the wrong here. Am I? How should I have handled this situation better?
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She should have kept that too herself I think.
A friend of mine got. Engaged after a week of dating a man, and got married 3 months together, and now after 7 months will have a baby... I did make sure she was SURE she knew what she was doing but I didn't approach it in the way your friend did. Plus I've got a bad marriage under my belt, so I was trying to look out for her. But I had a lot of thoughts I kept to myself.
1913 days ago
I think when you know you know...dont sweat her concern. She's probably just jealous!
1928 days ago
If you don't want to fix the relationship, don't worry about it.
I had a friend who was in an abusive relationship and got engaged. Even though I didn't agree with her decision to marry him, I supported her. And when she went through the resulting divorce and battles that ensued from that, I was there for her then. Because that's what fiends do. I may not have agreed with what she did, but because she was a friend, I kept my opinions to myself and let her know I was there for her.
That's what friends do. The girl you're talking about isn't acting like a friend. She's just someone you work with.
That being said, I can tell from your posts and your huge grin in every picture that you are HAPPY. And that is what matters. Screw what everyone else thinks.
1928 days ago
Your "so called friend" should have given you and said
Be cordial with her when you have to but don't go out of your way. Let her come to you and then you decide what will be.
An engagement is between you and your future husband. You decide when the time is right for what you feel is right in your/his life i.e. setting the date, a place to live, jobs, financial situation and babies, too.
to you from me.
Sincere , too
1929 days ago
A few things could be going on here...1. she could be jealous in general of your engagement and happiness (Big congrats by the way, not everyone can say they are the happiest they have ever been!)...2. she could be hurt because she thought you guys were (closer) friends and she wanted to meet him and "approve" him and so she lashed out, i think, inappropriately, or 3. she could honestly be concerned but yes, there IS such a thing as keeping things to yourself, if she thinks its too soon, to each their own, she should keep that to herself. Unless someone has legitimate reason to warn you about whatever, pay them no mind, and be happy
If you don't want to fix your relationship and you don't feel it would add value and support to your life, than it's not worth it, it may be hard, but it sounds like you wouldn't miss her lack of support!
1929 days ago
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