Wednesday, December 05, 2012
All feelings and actions come from our thoughts. We think something, then we feel a certain emotion, then we act. If I am planning on buying a certain house, waiting to be approved for the loan, and I get a call that says "sorry, we didn't approve you for the loan," I might think "I really wanted that house. Now I won't get it. All those dreams right down the drain," and I will feel disappointed. You kick the dog. Wait! Another call comes in. "I made a mistake. You did get the loan." Yahoo! I think "all my dreams are coming true" and I feel elation. You kiss your spouse and hoot and holler.
With emotional eating, there are thoughts that come first before the emotion. Realizing what those thoughts are (often self talk) and replacing them with truth can make all the difference (the same as the above scenario). The work is often in sorting out those thoughts. What is it you say to yourself? I was reading a post about emotional eating and the replies about eating from boredom. What thoughts cause that boredom? For me, it can be "I don't know what to do with myself. (boredom) Hmmm, eating sounds good. Maybe I"ll look in the pantry and see what I have." If I deal with this thinking, I realize that not knowing what to do with myself is definitely not a truth. I always have lots that needs done. The truth is that eating sounds like one of the best options. Yet more self talk is needed. Eating out of boredom is not one of my best options - it leads to more eating and feelings of defeat. So I need the "truth" call - Right now, I'm not sure what to do with myself. There are many options I can pick from. Eating might feel good right now, but in the long run it won't. There are other activities that will end in better results so I am going to choose one of those." All right, the immediate emotion might be resignation, feeling of deprivation, but as that task, run, exercise is accomplished, those emotions will be replaced with feelings of confidence and a higher self esteem.