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Taking responsibility

Wednesday, December 05, 2012

All feelings and actions come from our thoughts. We think something, then we feel a certain emotion, then we act. If I am planning on buying a certain house, waiting to be approved for the loan, and I get a call that says "sorry, we didn't approve you for the loan," I might think "I really wanted that house. Now I won't get it. All those dreams right down the drain," and I will feel disappointed. You kick the dog. Wait! Another call comes in. "I made a mistake. You did get the loan." Yahoo! I think "all my dreams are coming true" and I feel elation. You kiss your spouse and hoot and holler.
With emotional eating, there are thoughts that come first before the emotion. Realizing what those thoughts are (often self talk) and replacing them with truth can make all the difference (the same as the above scenario). The work is often in sorting out those thoughts. What is it you say to yourself? I was reading a post about emotional eating and the replies about eating from boredom. What thoughts cause that boredom? For me, it can be "I don't know what to do with myself. (boredom) Hmmm, eating sounds good. Maybe I"ll look in the pantry and see what I have." If I deal with this thinking, I realize that not knowing what to do with myself is definitely not a truth. I always have lots that needs done. The truth is that eating sounds like one of the best options. Yet more self talk is needed. Eating out of boredom is not one of my best options - it leads to more eating and feelings of defeat. So I need the "truth" call - Right now, I'm not sure what to do with myself. There are many options I can pick from. Eating might feel good right now, but in the long run it won't. There are other activities that will end in better results so I am going to choose one of those." All right, the immediate emotion might be resignation, feeling of deprivation, but as that task, run, exercise is accomplished, those emotions will be replaced with feelings of confidence and a higher self esteem.
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  • LTATE7
    I find that I do much better (in every area of my life) when I have a plan. I have not always been a planner but the older I get the more I realize that I need this in order to be effective. When I plan for work, chores, and fun I find that I actually do things that I enjoy rather than sitting around eating and thinking about what I can do with my time.
    1934 days ago
    Sometimes it's not exactly boredom, but wanting to put off the stuff that I don't really want to do. Then as you say, eating sounds like the best option, at least in the short term. Long term, absolutely not.
    1934 days ago
    This post hits home. I often describe feeling bored, trapped and stressed at work. I think it goes to a sense of powerlessness that I don't usually experience when my time is my own and I can usually structure my day just as I like (go figure, LOL). You are so right, "talking it out" in our heads a bit more can be helpful. Right now I could easily eat my lunch. I'm a little hungry, but mostly I am restless. Instead, I'll wait until it is noon and then not be desperately hungry at the end of the day. Certainly eating over my calories for the day isn't going to make me feel less stressed! I agree that every time we make the healthier or more logical choice, we do build confidence and I think contentment in the lifestyle we are building or maintaining. Thanks!
    1934 days ago
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