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Wonder how many have me as a sparkfriend that I've failed to notice?

Wednesday, December 05, 2012

Thought comes of inadvertently landing on someone's spark page and deciding to befriend them on musical tastes alone. Did let the person know I'd done so, and gave the option of reciprocating, or simply telling me to go away. But I suppose there's the third option, of being unaware of the request. After a year plus on spark, I've probably done the same at some point. So, I'm curious to know if there's a way to look at mutual friends versus the one way streets. Might also tell me how many true (reciprocating) friends I have on here, and who I should jettison for not being aware of my existence. OK, so that's overstating things by a quantum leap, but it's where my brain is.

As said brain really should be sleeping, I think I'll try to see if I can't make that my reality.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
IRONBLOSSOM 12/5/2012 6:08PM

    I think I always get a notification and I almost always add back. I don't remember/haven't correlated if others do though...I like Punky's info!

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3016DEBRA 12/5/2012 3:55PM

  You're worrying too much....take a rest emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 12/5/2012 2:13PM

    I think we've probably all done this!

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SEXBOBOMB 12/5/2012 9:55AM

    I've wondered this myself, Ahtrap -- and had that awkward moment when you discover, just by chance, that someone has friended you that you hadn't thought to friend.

Maybe it's because I, like you, tend to announce my friending to the friend-to-be as I'm doing it. I don't expect anyone to friend me back, but I just think it's polite to "let them know I'm there".

Let me explain: I'm an avid blog reader, and if I'm your friend, I've likely read all your latest blogs and made a good dent in your old ones. When I let someone know I'm friending them, it's to give them a heads-up that I'll soon be rifling through your closets and going through the medicine cabinets of your bloggity-blog life.

Now, I'm a writer-monkey-whore, so when I do happen upon people who have friended me without giving me the polite heads-up, I'm definitely not "mad" or anything. I just assume they like my words and want to "bookmark" me to read more. And I *do* like to be read, it's a damn compliment!

So, the way I see it, alerting someone that you are friending them is polite, but let's not quibble over formalities: you're welcome to have at my closets and cabinets, Dear Readers, and etiquette be damned!

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GOPINTOS 12/5/2012 7:22AM

    OH gosh, glad to see this post and the info provided by Punky, as I have been on Spark for about a year, and just recently learned how to set my email to receive such notifications!


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GARDENCHRIS 12/5/2012 7:18AM

    put that brain to bed!

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PUNKY100 12/5/2012 6:30AM

    Hahaha of course there is!! If you are looking at your full friend feed (on the bottom right of your start page) there is a little link hidden in that first paragraph. You can click on the words Click here which then takes you to a page where you can see 3 sets of friends: The ones who have added you but you haven't added back, your mutual friends, and then at the bottom, the ones you have added but haven't added you back.

It may be a real eye opener haha, I know I look at mine once in a while just to see what's up in my friend world. :-)

I hope you got some sleep!

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