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What to do?

Tuesday, December 04, 2012

Ok so I have decided that this month we are going to do IUI and hope for the best possible results right about Christmas, a bun in the oven!

Exciting yes of course, stressful well I would have thought I would just lay back and roll with this one but boy was I wrong! Taking the meds as prescribed gearing up for the procedure and then everything else just went plfffffff.

DH was on forced vacation last week and now they are saying that they will work this week but not next week, work the week after and then be off until Jan 2. Now he is thinking it isn't a good idea. I say WTH???? I am already taking these pills that are making me crazy and I hate taking meds! We are only a few days away from ovulation and then it's a go for the procedure. Why stop now?????

Ok so having a sketchy job is scary but it can be fixed with a little looking around. Welders don't usually have much trouble finding work if they have experience right? Anyways on to my next issue.

I am stuck wondering if I should be exercising as normal or taking it easy to get my body ready for the procedure. Lately I have been feeling like I need to get out and move but have lacked the motivation. Yesterday I went out and walked my long route (2.33 miles) in 38 minutes and then I could have done the same today but I ended up just walking to the bank and pharmacy instead. (I should track that right? guess I will do that once I'm done here.)

Anyways what am I supposed to do with this? I don't want to be taking these pills for nothing but I'm not sure I can get DH on board which is stupid since we are in this together right?

Sorry if this is hard to follow but you should try being in my head!

Everyone keep sparking and thanks for stopping by. Any suggestions? Feel free to leave them here. :)

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MANDA2828 12/8/2012 6:19PM

    Sorry to hear that he's still not 100%, but that's exciting that you're going ahead with the procedure. My husband and a few others of people on here have gone through the same thing. Hopefully it was just fear that he will work on understanding and maybe he'll change his mind like mine did. :)

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AMANDEES76 12/7/2012 11:12AM

    We spoke the other night and he says that we will do the procedure because he thinks that I deserve to be happy and this is what will make me happy. Now all I can do is cross my fingers that it will work this first time and I won't have to convince him to do it again later. He is not 100% and says that he doesn't think he is ready to be a father but that is a complete flip from what he has said in the past so I think it is just being scared. He would never admit that though so who knows what he is really thinking.

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MANDA2828 12/7/2012 9:10AM

    I agree that 9 months is a long time to figure things out. I understand that at 22 lots of people have different attitudes about being a parent.. but he understands why it's important for you to start trying at your age, right? Sorry that he's suddenly not on board 100%.... did you guys decide to go ahead with the procedure?

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AMANDEES76 12/5/2012 1:06PM

    Thank you all for your comments and suggestions. I am having a really hard time with this. I understand his reluctance but then we already started and there will never be a perfect time to do this. A few months ago when my Dr gave me Chlomid to enhance ovulation he asked me to wait until next year when we were able to move into a bigger place. I then told him that I didn't want to wait anymore after a few months of giving in. Now I have taken the Chlomid and not gotten pregnant and we are on to the next stage. It takes 9 months to grow a baby and that is plenty of time to get everything figured out. I just don't know what his hang up is on this.

He is only 22 and I am 36 so I am feeling like he is asking me to give up the dream of becoming a mother when he will be able to have kids later in life if we don't stay together and he moves on. It just isn't fair of him to ask that of me. He has known how old I am since the day we met and he has no excuse to change what he has said. He wants to be a father but he still has a lot of life ahead of him so it isn't affecting him the way it is me.

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MANDA2828 12/5/2012 12:56PM

    I forgot to say you should probably keep exercising, but nothing too strenuous or stressful. Walking's fine :)
So I guess you should talk to your hubby about what he's scared of and what the plan would be if you did skip this. He might realize that it isn't a better option really.

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MANDA2828 12/5/2012 12:53PM

    Since you are already on the medication and you are worried about your age to start with, I would try and convince him your plans shouldn't change. Do you work? Do you guys have savings? How long would he want to wait, until he has another job? Does it usually get slow for him in the winter anyway? Because maybe not many other people are hiring in the winter, and then you'd have to wait until the spring or summer....
Those are the things I think it would depend on....

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KIMPY225 12/5/2012 12:45PM

    I agree- there is no perfect time! I would talk to your hubby again & figure everything out again. Good luck!

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JENNASGONNADOIT 12/5/2012 6:34AM

  I think that since you've already started you should keep with it. If you wait for 'the perfect time' or 'the right circumstances' it may never happen. There is always going to be SOMEthing that comes up or gets in the way but that is just how life works. I admit it may be difficult if hubby isn't fully on board but just the fact that he (and you too) is worried about the financial aspects is a really good sign that you're looking at the big picture overall and because he is, he sounds like a responsible enough person to do what it takes to support his family no matter what happens :)
As far as the exercise goes I would just suggest to keep up with light and easy activity ... you don't need to be out running a 5K but walking here and there shouldn't hurt anything, I wouldn't think. Have you asked your doctor what he thinks about the exercise?

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MOMMY2MADILYN 12/4/2012 11:52PM

    The only advice I can offer is to remember, there is no perfect time to have a baby. Life always throws curveballs but you find a way and get through the good and the tough stuff. Madilyn is my world! She's the reason I wake up each morning and being her mom makes me want to be a better person every day. I hope you and your DH continue with the process and things work out. Good Luck!!

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