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Trying to normalize

Monday, December 03, 2012

It's weird trying to normalize when things can never be the same again. My brother and sister haven't left my mom's home yet, but that will happen soon. I plan to spend some nights there when they leave. I've been being busy. Baking, orchid-ing, doing. Back to work today Anything but dealing.

So, my December goals include not gaining any weight; drinking my waters; tea if feeling snacky. I had a good food management day today.

But all is not sad. The Boy asked his Sweetheart to marry him. We are all happy, and Dad is, too.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/4/2012 11:10AM

    Don't know if it ever gets "normal", but it does get better over time. My brother has been gone for 30 yrs. and there's not a day I don't think of him. NOt one day. But the things I tend to think of now are the fun, happy times we spent together. That helps.

CONGRATULATIONS to your son and his fiancee on their engagement! How wonderful to have such sweet news.

HUGS and prayers.

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KKKAREN 12/4/2012 8:47AM

    good luck to you keeping your goals under this sadness and congrats on the future wedding!

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THE_SHAKESHAFT 12/4/2012 6:23AM

    Good luck with your goals at this most challenging time of year,

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WILLOWBROOK5 12/4/2012 6:15AM

    It is always horrible to lose someone you love but at the holidays, the disconnect between your loss and the rest of the world going on seems especially huge. Your goals sound very supportive and nurturing, which is what you need as you navigate through your grief. Take good care of yourself.

That is wonderful about your son's engagement!

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DSJB9999 12/4/2012 5:50AM

    Sending you love and kind thoughts at this 'challenging' time.]

Good targets/goals, nothing too difficult.

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EBONYSOL 12/4/2012 12:56AM

    Sorry to read about your Dad's death. I remember when my dad died in 2000. You are right when you say that it is weird trying to be normal when things will never be the same again. The loss of a parent leaves a big gap and it takes time to come to terms with that loss. My mother still misses my dad so I am reminded to this day. However, it was his time and one cannot live forever just to be there for others. Life does not work that way. I know my father is always with me in memory and in turns of phrase that I use and every time I look at mom I see dad. I see glimpses of him in my brothers and nephews, my son.
His gentleness is in all his grandchildren and great grandchildren as well as his intelligence.
I have learnt that my Dad is dead but his legacy continues. I hope that in time you will see your dad's legacy.

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