"You don't know what you're missing!"
How many times have we heard that phrase? It is usually uttered by one person, as a way to get another person to do or try something. It's usually used to tempt or entice the other person. Subtle pressure applied, sing-song voice taunting, "You don't know what you're missing!" "Look what I have that you don't have!" Harrumph.
There are several problems with buying into that sort of thinking, when it comes to unhealthy food. Call it what you will: "comfort food", "goodies", "special occasions", junk food or empty calories. The fact is that when we strive for a healthy lifestyle, we DO know what we're missing when we pass up those foods, thanks. Most of us would not be here on Sparkpeople if we had not had many encounters with snacks, sweets, general overeating or all-out binging.
We DO know what that homemade chocolate chip cookies tastes like.
We DO know what salty pretzels or chips taste like.
We DO know what candy, chocolate and golden dinner rolls taste like.
I'll speak for myself: They Taste Good! They provide a release of sorts, like endorphins rushing into the body. In the moment, they make it better. Throw in an uncertain stretch of life, maybe life turned upside-down, and they are there, like old friends, waiting to welcome me back! Waiting to "make me feel better".
The trouble is that unhealthy food begets unhealthy food, in larger and larger quantities, if you are anything like me. In my life, that comforting feeling becomes a need for more. Wanting to feel that rush, it leads to eating when I am no longer hungry - feeding the craving, wanting the tastes moving across my tongue, needing the salty fix, ingesting more and more sweets. Needing to feel full, needing more. I do know what I'm missing, I know what it tastes like and I know what it does to me.
Here's the next problem with "You don't know what you're missing!" thinking. It follows shortly after an overindulgence and we ALL know those feelings. Slightly sickened, very uncomfortable and extremely disappointed. Yes, we know what we're missing all right. A quick trip to the land of recriminations, mental tear-downs and defeated thoughts to go along with the sick belly. Ugly Land. Personal Hell.
Missing it? Not once I arrive.... No way am missing those feelings when I embark on the descent.
Perhaps worst of all, after achieving my weight loss, and living and working hard in the healthy place of maintenance for over a year, once again I DO KNOW WHAT I'M MISSING!!
I miss feeling slender.
I miss having a clear head instead of the sugar hangover.
I miss feeling light on my feet.
I miss feeling comfortable in my clothes.
I miss knowing that I am DOING IT!
My dear Sparkfriends, I am on Day Three once again. I have not successfully made it to Day Four in a long, long time. My status updates have been stuck on repeat. My weight has crept up and up. I left my low weight, stepped into the next bracket and three days ago made it into the next. Am I really going to let go completely?
It's decision time, Melly.
Living at my healthiest is HARD. Living in self-disgust, out of control and overweight, is HARD.
It's time to Pick My HARD! I have done it before and I can get there again. I am almost to Day Four.
Yes, I DO know what I'm missing, thanks. I am going to continue to turn toward what I miss the most!