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It has been a week!!!

Monday, December 03, 2012

I blogged just over a week ago, and what a week it has been since then!
I started Day #1 of a 28-day work streak – consisting of my two regular jobs that total 50-60 hours per week and adding five hours on Saturday and three hours on Sunday taking pictures of children and pets with Santa at our local mall.

Work Monday through Friday went well – accomplished a lot at both jobs, kept up with the regular household chores and was able to spend some quality time with my youngest son. Saturday was quiet at the mall which I believe was in part to the foggy, damp weather (which in Minnesota can mean icy road conditions). The time dragged and I was pretty tired by the time I left, but still needed to pick up a few groceries and other supplies before going home. A simple supper for my son and me, a nap, a little TV and computer, a couple phone conversations and it was off to bed. Sunday was a bit busier but then Santa and I did have the football game to keep us occupied. Like me, he is a Vikings fan so we were not too happy with the outcome of the game. My son came with me and afterwards we went out to eat, stopped to buy him a video game, finished decorating my office and the lobby area at one of my offices and once again crashed when I got home.
Last week I received some bad news about two friends who have been battling cancer (I wrote about them last year). The first one, Ellen, had been told she was cancer-free at her last 3-month checkup, and then last week was informed that it was back in several locations and they started chemotherapy immediately. As of today, we still don’t know how far it has spread and are waiting to be updated. Then on Thursday I received a text from the other friend, Pam, letting me know that she was at the Mayo Clinic and was going in for surgery the next morning to have an abscess in her brain removed and a biopsy to follow. The results will be in tomorrow. There is a possibility it is an infection which will require a month at home on an antibiotic IV. If cancer is spotted, doctors will determine the best course of action. Her husband also told me that one of the tumors in her lung has grown a little. This will not be addressed until a determination is made on the brain issue. In the past six months I have lost my Godmother, my dad, and my parents’ best friends (who have been in my life longer than I can remember). The thought that I could lose one or both of these friends was something I just couldn’t wrap my thoughts around and I about crumbled.

I called the man I have discussed in my past few blogs, who comforted me as much as could over the phone; and then called my mom. A soon as a hung up from talking with my mom, the phone rang and it was my Spark Friend Judi. Her call couldn’t have come at a better time and I am so grateful for that call. Talk about knowing when you are needed.
Other news is that the man and I have decided that it is best for us to be friends. There always seemed to be a little something missing although we couldn’t quite put a finger on what it was. I am beginning to believe that it is because he wants a woman who will be dependent on him and who he can take care (or one that needs saving). I am definitely not that woman. I like having a man in my life but have always been an independent soul. I do believe that he was brought into my life for a very important reason, and that was to get through the initial stages of the loss of my dad. I had been trying to hold up everyone around me and needed somewhere to decompress. That place was with him, where I could be pampered and be able to let out my emotions. We still do a lot of chatting online, have very long phone conversations and are now giving each other dating advice. He will always be an important part of my life and I will always be grateful that he was brought into it.

I have gone out to dinner with another man and we are planning on another date soon. He lives closer to me and plans on sticking around the area for a long time to come. We are taking it slow, taking time to get to know each other through phone conversations and will be spending more time together – just the two of us. A big part of this is the fact that he is raising his two grandsons, who have traveled a rough road. We don’t want to introduce another person into their lives unless we know there is a chance I will be there for a long time. They have experienced too much loss in their lives and need to be given top priority. I have seen people rush into a relationship where children are involved, the children get attached and when the relationship doesn’t work, they are left broken-hearted. I won’t do this to two young boys (ages 10 and 12). I also need to take things slow for myself and my youngest son, who is with me every other week. My sons, thankfully, have had a much better go of things in their lives and I am so grateful for that.

Boy this dating thing is something – full of fun and anxiety all at the same time.

I am asking that anyone who reads this please pray for Ellen, Pam and all who are battling cancer.
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  • LEXIE63
    Sorry I didn't get to read this through sooner. It was certainly quite a week for you. It sounds like you have a very good friend in that man, plus the chance of something more with the new one, given time to find out one way or the other.
    Will certainly pray for your friends. So much to deal with. :-(
    Take care of yourself Honey!
    Lex xxx
    1924 days ago
    sending healing thoughts for your dear friends....
    1930 days ago
    Sending prayers and blessings to your friends Pam and Ellen. Also for you, that you may find joy and happiness.
    Have a wonderful day and may next week prove to be better!
    1931 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    Sorry to hear about your two friends, will keep them in my prayers. You sure have one full work schedule for December. Imagine that the photos with Santa will pick up soon, and the time will go by quick. It will be nice having the extra money for the heating bill, as I remember how cold winter was in northern Mn. growing up. It gets cold here but not as cold as you folks up north.
    1933 days ago
  • MARTY728
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    1933 days ago
    hope ur friends are fine....n goodluck to u...
    1933 days ago
    I know your friends are going through a very difficult time. Times like these force me to heavenwards to seek the help of the only person who can make a difference. Jesus. Praying for your friends.
    1933 days ago
  • KOMAL53
    Being a Cancer survivor myself I know exactly how difficult it must be for them!!Praying for them and sending them my Best Wishes for a speedy recovery.I think that it was wise of you to shift gears and agree on friendship instead of a relationship--I don't you are cut out to be a so called typical helpless female!!Do these still exist??On the new relationship front you are doing the right thing--take your time to really get to know each other well before committing yourselves to each other.Let's hope you get some really good news about your friends by Christmas.Take Care and God Bless!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1933 days ago
    Will do. emoticon -- Lou
    1934 days ago
    Well, it certainly sounds like you've been keeping busy! emoticon Working 28 days in a row? Yuck!

    On a more somber note, I am sorry to hear about your friends. I will be hoping for the best.

    1934 days ago
    It simply has been a trying year for you. I"m often told that life provides what you can handle and you, my Dear, are an incredibly strong and caring person.

    I wish you didn't face so many trials and tests, but we both know that you will persevere.

    You and yours remain in my thoughts.

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    1934 days ago
    Prayers offered for all concerned.
    1934 days ago
    1934 days ago
    I'm very sorry to hear about Pam and Ellen and I will pray for them. This cancer is just so widespread! It seems there is always someone I know who knows someone that has it and I see it in the obituaries all the time.
    You have had a lot of hurdles in your life at recent! I hope you will have peace in your life as Christmas looms closer!
    1934 days ago
    Prayers and hugs Leanne.
    1934 days ago
    I'm so sorry to hear about your friends. I will definitely be keeping them (and you) in my thoughts.

    I'm glad you've found a friend who was there for you during a difficult time. When I was reading that he needs a woman who is dependent, my first thought was, that's not you! :)

    Good luck with the new man in your life!
    1934 days ago
  • 0309COOKIE
    I will keep Ellen and Pam in my prayers.
    1934 days ago
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