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Tuesday, November 27, 2012

(I'll warn you up front that you might not like this post. Feel free to walk away right now. I won't be offended, honest.)

The scale goes up.
The scale goes down.
But it mostly goes down.

And it will do that if you are trusting in the right process and are committed to making the change in your life.

Perhaps you are having difficulty losing weight. That is not an uncommon situation. Ask yourself these three questions:

1. Do you have a reasonable and thoughtful net calorie target to hit?

If you are using something like to arrive at this value, I think the answer is going to be yes. The calculator here is good. Now I've posted an exhaustive post on how I arrive at my net calorie target value so I won't rehash that here. I'm not always successful hitting that but I try to get close. Sometimes I'm a little below that target for the day. If it is around 100 calories short at the end of the day, I don't sweat that.

If you don't have that net calorie target, you're going to have difficultly losing weight. How do you know how much to eat? You can't go off of feel, I believe, because if you're like me, you've been overeating for years, maybe decades. It takes less than 5 minutes of your life to figure out that number. Take the time.

2. Are you being honest and exact in your food tracking?

So you have a net calorie target. Great. Are you being honest with yourself in what you are eating? Are you being careful to get as close an estimate on your food intake as possible? Notice there's an implied "You are tracking your food." here - you can't analyze what you don't measure. We are terrible estimators. Studies show that we are horribly bad at guessing how many calories or how much fat or carbs or sodium is in a given plate of food. Take the time to measure things out. It doesn't even take 5 minutes. Soon enough you'll be really good at measuring things.

And more importantly, are you being honest? Maybe you had 6 cookies today and are embarrassed by this. You need to track it anyway. You are not alone here. Changing habits is hard. Want to feel like you are not alone? I've blown it before and done boneheaded things like stop on the way home from work and get a big soft pretzel and two - not one, but two - bags of licorice and eaten it all on the way home. Not proud of that but it is reality. Track that food. You'll never learn from the mistakes you make and try to sweep under the rug.

3. Are you trusting the process to work?

It's easy to get frustrated because of unrealistic expectations. It's easy to get frustrated when you feel like you are not progressing at the rate you think you should. Stop that nonsense. Either you trust that the process will work or you don't. Look - giving up is what you've done before, I bet. I know I have. You have to give it time.

Remember something - you didn't put this weight on overnight. Why would you think it's going to come off overnight? That's just silly. Don't be silly. Be committed.

If you can answer "yes" to these three questions, great! Keep on doing what you're doing!

If you answered "no" to one or more of these, you've got a decision to make.

Is this going to be the time things are different or is this just another halfhearted attempt to lose the weight?

I'm going to meddle a bit here. You might not like this part. I warned you... there's still time to walk away.

Do you recognize that your obesity is killing you? KILLING you. It is putting stress and strain on your body. It is clogging your arteries. It results in diabetes. It results in heart attacks and emergency heart surgery. It results in blood clots. It results in excess wear and tear on the joints and bones. It is diminishing your life. YOUR LIFE, folks.

Do you care?

Have you given up? Why? Why would you give up on something that can absolutely be accomplished?

Look, there are kids right now in Memphis, Tennessee at St. Jude's who want more than anything to live. Through no fault of their own they find themselves at death's door. Doctors and researchers are doing everything they can to find a cure to save these kids. And the sad fact is that some of them won't make it despite the extraordinary efforts being taken. They are doing whatever it takes to save a life. Fighting diseases that are difficult to fight. Fighting diseases that are difficult to cure.

And there you sit. Shoving that donut in your mouth and having a pity party about how it is too hard. How you don't have the willpower. How you can't do it.


(I told you you might not like this part.)

Look, you can change your life - CHANGE YOUR LIFE! - today. You have the ability to do this. You have the ability to improve your health. A tiny percentage of you might - MIGHT - have a legitimate medical condition that is causing your obesity. The rest of you - including me - are this way because of choices made. Take ownership of your obesity and your life. Take responsibility for your actions.

Stop it now. You can change right now. RIGHT NOW.

The question is... do you even want to?

Look, I'd love to be able to make that decision for you. I'd love to be able to keep you on the straight and narrow. It's just not possible. You've got to do it yourself.

Unlike those darling precious kids in Memphis, you and I can change our lives simply by having the commitment to do so. By "keeping calm and carrying on", as the saying goes. By caring about ourselves more than about that crap food we're shoving in our mouth.

Why wouldn't you want to be healthier? Why wouldn't you be committed to do it?

Maybe you think you aren't strong enough.

That's ridiculous. You're strong. Stronger than you think.

Is weight loss hard? Yes, absolutely. But you know what? It is something you can do.

You can change your life starting today.

The question is... will you?

You might not like my posts. You might think I'm being an opinionated jerk. Honestly, I think I'm dead on about this. I don't shoot from the hip much. And this post is written as a reminder to me primarily and to you if you happen to read it. You might not like that I don't coddle you much in my posts. Tough. You need to hear it straight just as *I* need to hear it straight. I'm trying to encourage you to save your life. If you're offended or frustrated by what I write, ask yourself "why?".

Make it a great day!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
BLUEJEAN99 11/29/2012 1:51AM


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BENNYTINNY 11/29/2012 12:58AM

    Thank you, I needed that.

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_LINDA 11/28/2012 11:55PM

    Well said Matt and true! I am a weigh, measure and track every little morsel that goes into my mouth kind of gal. That is what I attribute not only to my successful weight loss despite many health problems and surgeries, but also to successful MAINTENANCE -even when unable to exercise. Tracking Works. If done properly and consistently. Yes indeed.
It can't be sugar coated. Its all or nothing.
You go Matt!
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GODS_TEMPLE 11/28/2012 11:31PM

    That's exactly how I feel about splurging during the holidays. If I can't stick to my calories during 'special' days, I feel like I will never lose this weight. There are too many 'special occasions' to cheat on.

Thanks for the timely reminder.

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NEWTINK 11/28/2012 11:18PM

    Thank you for being honest ... emoticon

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ROCKYCPA 11/28/2012 10:13PM

    Thank you for sharing - it is good to be honest with yourself about what you are eating!

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CRANRANA 11/28/2012 10:02PM

  I think of it as a dose of "tough love". So many aspects of weight loss is mental conditioning. To get the result you long for, you have to do the mental work along with the physical. Your blog is the dose of reality I need.

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CHRIS3874 11/28/2012 9:30PM

    too true - how many of us are truly honest with ourselves (ME included).

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    You are RIGHT ON with this post. It's the conversation we all need to have with ourselves. Great post!

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JALITH 11/28/2012 9:06PM

    this is one good honest post! I like it! Thank-you.

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KARRENLYNN 11/28/2012 8:35PM

    emoticon You're right. It's our choice to treat ourselves well and stay healthy or not. We are gifted with good health, it's our responsibility to maintain it or get it back.

have a great week,

Karen emoticon

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LYNNA1968 11/28/2012 7:54PM

    well said!

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MISSB8604 11/28/2012 6:05PM

    THANK YOU for this.

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SBZERINGUE 11/28/2012 5:35PM

    Well, Matt, you don't know me, but you wrote this blog just for me. I was just telling my husband this morning that I am just so sick of trying so hard. I don't even want "bad foods," I just don't want to have to keep thinking about it. That is so lazy of me. How could I care so little about my life? Thanks for putting it in perspective. You mentioned those kids in Memphis...I am the Aunt of two of those kids that did not make it. How could I go through that with my family and NOT work my butt off? So, thanks for the kick (in the butt) start!

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DIANNEMT 11/28/2012 5:21PM

    Absolutely right--and you cannot tell this to anyone. THEY have to make the decision. I am trying to model the right behavior for those I love--that is the best I can do....

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SPEEDY143 11/28/2012 4:59PM

    We are such children about food... I agree it's time to be honest and adult like about what is and isn't important to each one of us and then grow up and get on with it emoticon for sharing emoticon

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FANGFACEKITTY 11/28/2012 3:11PM

    Agree, you are dead on about this. Being healthy is our choice, we either do it or we don't. No excuses.

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WORLDSERIES11 11/28/2012 2:46PM

    Sometimes the "truth" hurts, but we need to hear it none the less!
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SPECIALGURL7 11/28/2012 2:39PM

    We need to hear this every once in a while. Thanks.

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DALID414 11/28/2012 2:29PM

    Thanks for the tough love Matt

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NEWCHINELO 11/28/2012 1:48PM

    On point!just what I needed today to remind me to never give up even when I made terrible mistakes.I am incharge of my body.thanks!

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HEARTS116 11/28/2012 1:26PM


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BLUE42DOWN 11/28/2012 1:06PM

    I really liked your term "net calorie target".

I hope your blog is seen (and heard) by as many as it can help.

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ALIDOSHA 11/28/2012 12:38PM

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JUDYAASH 11/28/2012 12:06PM

    Great blog! Keep right on kicking my a**

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CHUBERASER 11/28/2012 11:31AM

    Your words ring soooo true! Thanks for the jolt...I needed it.


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SHOAPIE 11/28/2012 11:27AM


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PROVERBS31JULIA 11/28/2012 11:06AM

    I'm guilty of it too... know I need to hear it from myself so why should I be bugged about you saying it!!



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MARYJEANSL 11/28/2012 10:56AM

  It is a great day indeed!

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NEENASONS 11/28/2012 10:42AM

  In other words.. Get busy Living or get Busy dying. I 'm a big believer in tough love. You have to want it for yourself , decide and take ACTION. No other way around it.

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GEORGIA122 11/28/2012 10:41AM

  You have stated the truth. Most of us, who are overweight or obese, sometimes like to fool ourselves that we really aren't that heavy. When you are not honest with yourself how can you be honest about anything else. Like you said, we need to start being honest with ourselves so we can stop hurting ourselves with food. emoticon

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BARB5970 11/28/2012 10:29AM

    Now that's the peep talk I really needed. I am my biggest obstacle. I have so much trouble tracking my food. I find it easy if it's an apple here and an egg there, but when my meals are made up of multiple items like a chicken stir fry it's overwhelming to have to break down every ingrediant. Many things go into the sauce, and it's at that point, I give up on tracking. Is this an excuse. I suppose it is, and as you point out, the kids in the hospital would to anything and everything to cure their illness. I need to change my attitude if I want result, because up until now... not much weight loss is happening. Thanks for the straight forward, no nonesense, kick in the butt.

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MY1FAN 11/28/2012 10:24AM

    Well said.

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GOOSIEMOON 11/28/2012 10:09AM

    Thanks for the tough love and encouragement.

Have a great day!

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GRAMPIAN 11/28/2012 10:01AM

  Sound advice.

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VOLLEYGIRL77 11/28/2012 9:53AM

    Tough love is definitelely the way to go!

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WALLINMW 11/28/2012 9:43AM

  Keep pushing!

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WALLINMW 11/28/2012 9:42AM

  Great blog. Thanks for sharing. You are spot on!

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BABAOF4 11/28/2012 9:15AM

  So true! On my mirror is a note , " You are looking at the only problem you will have today!" So it is up to me. Thanks for the much needed wake-up!

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SLIMMERJESSE 11/28/2012 9:00AM

    Great blog. I'm voting for it. Thanks!

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DJSHIP46 11/28/2012 8:58AM

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CELIAMINER 11/28/2012 8:58AM

    I admit I was skeptical when I started with SP coming up on two years ago, since I'd tried all the diets, was menopausal, and had "fat" genes (my description of the size of my family members). But I tried the process and found it really worked! Now, six months into maintenance (80 pounds GONE!), I still track, I still weigh daily, and I still measure. It works for me.

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NEWMOM20121 11/28/2012 8:52AM

    Well said. Dead on and what people need to hear.

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CICELY360 11/28/2012 8:42AM

  good blog

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PENOWOK 11/28/2012 8:18AM

    Exactly right...If it's gonna be, it's up to ME!

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MIMIDOT 11/28/2012 7:52AM

    So glad I continued reading. You are right on! Told it as it is, and we all needed to hear it. Thank you for sharing, and have a great day.

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JANEMARIE77 11/28/2012 7:23AM

    you got it

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LIFETIMER54 11/28/2012 7:12AM

  Mark you didn't offend me in the least if anything your truly an inspiration. emoticon from the bottom of my heart.... emoticon

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