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MY BROTHER AND SMOKING

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

My brother is on hospice now and has round the clock care. He is so weak he can't hold the phone to talk so the nurse held the phone to his ear and I talked to him, prayed for him and told him I loved him. He said "I love you too Irene. I didn't understand what he said but the nurse told me what he said. She is so sweet and I bragged on her care of him.

I have had some real difficult days but believe Sunday was the worse.

Monty, a good friend from Spark, suddenly fell ill awhile back and he went fast also. He later confessed to all of his friends on Spark that he smoked and it destroyed him.

My brother quit smoking five years ago but he said it still affected him.

No I am not preaching but want to beg you that if you do smoke, please quit.
I lost a sister from smoking also. She had a heart attack and then had cancer which spread all over. When I was very young many years ago it was the in thing to do and if you didn't smoke you were called chicken. I am glad God delivered me from it over 50 years ago.

SO PLEASE, PLEASE IF YOU SMOKE STOP. That would be a part of your healthy life style.

With love and caring.

Irene

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  • v DADDYS_GIRL6
    Thanks for sharing that painful truth, Irene!
    1362 days ago
  • v BOBBIENORTHERN1
    Irene, I used to smoke 4 packs a day but quit on October 7 1991 at 7PM and have never felt better since quitting. Smoking will kill you.

    I am so sorry you have to go through this.

    You are cared for so much and there are so many that I believe feel your pain and I grieve with and for you. emoticon m emoticon
    1369 days ago
  • v CUSH1932
    emoticon You are in my prayers.
    1370 days ago
  • v BELLAMEMAW
    You are so right. Smoking does SO much damage to the body; damage that we aren't even aware of. It just destroys healthy cells and eats away at joints. I, too, lost my wonderful Dad to lung cancer (COPD and pnuemonia ultimately killed him). It's a horrible death to suffer. I've heard people my age (50s) say "well I'm going to die of something anyway, why not lung cancer?" like it's a joke. If you've watched someone go through the death process due to lung cancer you'd stop smoking, I'm sure.

    TODAY'S CHOICES EFFECTs TOMORROWS HEALTH - I can't say it enough. Thank you for the loving and caring reminder. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers during this hard time of loss. Pat
    1370 days ago
  • v SEWINGMAMACDS
    Irene - that nurse is a blessing. Praying for you during this difficult time.
    1371 days ago
  • v PIXIE-LICIOUS
    Irene, I have been praying for your brother. It sounds like he has a caring nurse, and that is a blessing.

    I have never smoked, but my hubby smoked for many years. He is in the process of quitting now. He used to smoke a pack a day, but now he's only smoking a couple of cigarettes a day. Its progress. Hopefully it won't be much longer before he is completely free of that addiction. I'm proud of him for trying. We all know that bad habits are hard to break.
    1371 days ago
  • v SUNNYWBL
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    1371 days ago
  • v NDTEACHER1
    It's a hard habit to break. I know from experience. My son is a heavy, heavy smoker and it scares me because he is killing himself by all the things he does to his body. I will pray for your peace, Irene and how wonderful you brother could say that to you. Take care.
    1372 days ago
  • v HAPPYMOM8
    DEAR IRENE--YOUR BLOG MAKES ME FEEL SO SAD . SAD THAT YOUR BROTHER IS SUFFERING BUT EQUALLY SAD FOR YOU THAT YOU CAN'T BE WITH HIM AT THIS TIME. YOU CAN BE HAPPY HE IS GETTING GOOD CARE AND THAT HE KNOWS YOU ARE WITH HIM IN SPIRIT.

    I HAVE SEEN SO MANY FRIENDS AND RELATIVES SMOKE AND DIE TOO SOON ! WHEN I SEE SOMEONE SMOKING I WANT TO SCREAM AT THEM!
    ESPECIALLY THE YOUNG FOLKS.

    I HOPE YOU CAN FEEL THE LOVE SENT YOUR WAY.
    PAT
    1372 days ago
  • v LKWQUILTER
    My dh and I quit smoking over 10 yrs ago and yes, it is a nasty habit and bad for you. Our oldest had a heart attack at 33 in August 2002 and we quit smoking in September 2002. It sure opened my eyes. Praying for your brother and family. (((HUGS)))
    1372 days ago
  • v KAYDE53
    Smoking can lead to devastating consequences, but it is a very hard habit to break, much like eating for the people who do it. I watched my dad try to quit for years, 3 or 4 times, only to start again; but finally he conquered it!! He had smoke since he was in his teens and he was probably in his 70's when he finally quit.
    1372 days ago
  • v YELLOW09RED
    Good evening Irene,
    CVRONEK said a wonderful thing "Hospice nurses are true angels". She is right.
    God bless your brother at this time. Prayers for him to.
    Hugs & Love,
    Debbie
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    1372 days ago
  • v NELLIEC
    My father was a chain smoker for many years. When he died he had several heart attacks in a row, and the nurse at the nursing home bluntly said he smoked himself to death. I had to agree.
    1372 days ago
  • v LMMIMI
    It is so difficult to be so far away, but wonderful that he has good and kind nurses.

    Seeing so many young people smoking really makes me sad. I am so thankful that I stopped smoking over 50 years ago. My children were the ones resonsible for that decision.

    Sending prayers. emoticon
    1372 days ago
  • v RAINBOWMF
    Irene I am sending you love and support in this time of need.
    I know you have many who are praying for you. Be strong, your brother is in good care now and his passing will be peaceful.

    Love Mary
    1372 days ago
  • v GGMFAY
    Probably all of us have seen how controlling the power of smoking is in being a habit. My daughter's former father-in-law had severe emphysema yet repeatedly removed his oxygen for a cigarette!! Our son-in-law gave up smoking when he had emergency bypass surgery when he was in his early 40s. His Dad died in his 40s as he was packing for a vacation.

    Lung cancer seems to develope quickly. Even the lung cancer not associated with smoking. We have lost several friends in recent months who did not have the smoking factor personally or in their surroundings. I do often ponder how "the Poor" can afford to support this vice!!

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    1372 days ago
  • v SADIEDOLORES
    IRENE, MY LATE HUSBAND USED TO SMOKE AND QUIT 41 YEARS AGO WHEN WE WERE SAVED, SO I'M NOT SURE IF HIS HEART ATTACK WAS CAUSED FROM THAT, HE WAS IN A WHEEL CHAIR WITH A BROKEN HIP AND GAINED SO MUCH WEIGHT I THINK IT WAS HARD ON HIS HEART, HE WEIGHED 297 LBS. WHEN HE DIED, BUT WHOEVER DOES SMOKE IT'S JUST A NASTY HABIT AND EXPENSIVE, PRAISE THE LORD I NEVER SMOKED.
    IRENE WHAT IS YOUR BROTHERS NAME?
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    1372 days ago
  • v MOM2GEO_JR
    Yes, it is so true. Our bodies are temples of God, and sometimes we destroy them. My late husband was a smoker, and I know that had a lot to do with all his problems, but he was one to not admit it.

    Hoping like you, that people who read this blog, if they smoke that they will make a New Year's resolution to quit.

    Hugs and prayers coming your way, I know that this is a very hard time for you, and Hospice was so wonderful in my DH's last days, I couldn't have made it without them. I still get support letters from them and it will be 7 months Dec. 1st.

    God Bless you Irene, and we are here for you.

    Marsha
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    1372 days ago
  • v CAROLYN0107
    I'm glad you've been able to chat some with your brother. Also that he has a good hospice nurse.
    I'm glad too that I never ever tried smoking. My parents did not smoke nor did my grandparents. That probably helped keep me from it. My brother smoked but I'm not sure if he does now. I know his wife still does.
    1372 days ago
  • v PURPLELVR7
    Amen
    smoke is bad for you and everyone else
    1372 days ago
  • v PENNI68
    Irene,
    I lost my mother to lung cancer as well at 59 yrs. old. I quit smoking myself about 6 years ago a year after she passed. I am still devastated by her loss, there is not a day that goes by that I don't miss her terribly, she was my best friend. I understand the pain your going through and I am sending many hugs and prayers to you and your brother at this difficult time.
    Cancer is a terrible thing that takes so many from us far too often.

    Much love,
    Penny
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    1372 days ago
  • v CVRONEK
    Praying for you, Irene and your dear brother.

    Hubby smokes and I see it taking a toll on him, but the drinking at the time was worse and he did stop when he had his traumatic brain injury.....that was because he was drinking.
    I am grateful, that that has stopped, but doubt that the other will ever happen.

    I also have a son, that smokes. He works in a smoking environment, making cigarette manufacturing machines! He mainly smokes when he is there, surrounded, by others smoking. Ugh. I pray for him. I do believe there is hope.

    Hospice nurses are true angels. He is blessed to have such a good one and blessed to have you. emoticon
    1372 days ago
  • v MRE1956
    "Chicken"? GRRRRRRRR! Why, oh WHY do people still continue to bully via peer-pressure tactics wrt undesirable, risky behavior? Has this world NOT learned ANYTHING?

    I am so sorry about what you're dealing with, especially at this time of year - I will keep you and your family in my best thoughts...... emoticon
    1372 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/27/2012 6:25:40 AM
  • v PEANUT4ME
    Irene, I commented on our chat line on our team about not seeing you last night. I thought perhaps it was because of your brother.
    I, too, lost my best life long friend due to her smoking. She had lung cancer which then spread to her bones and she lasted just one month after having been diagnosed with it. We had all tried to get her to stop smoking to no avail. A person has to want to stop themselves, it is a choice to smoke or not.
    I'm glad your brother is getting such good care in his last days and I pray for a peaceful passing for him.
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    1372 days ago
  • v DEBBYNATION
    Sending a comfort hug to you Irene. I lost my Mom to lung cancer in 96 & my Dad to final heart attack in '86. Watching them suffer was hard. I will never smoke although I grew up with it in our home. My Mom told me in her last days, 'Don't you ever blame God for me being terminal - I chose to smoke'! She accepted responsibility for smoking & it was the thing to do back in the 50's & 60's. :(
    1372 days ago
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