I was reading Nikki's blog today, and it made me think about my "wedding dress story".
More than 10 years ago I had to buy my wedding dress way bigger than my actual size because it was post pregnancy
and I was gaining 4 pounds per months (thanks crazy hormones)....so sad...especially because I could only find my size in those two stores in Paris that did carry larger sizes, I didn't have many choices in my price range (or just in my size). The dresses I liked didn't exist in sizes bigger than 10 or 12. I looked like a big meringue in that dress....I really didn't like it, even if it didn't look so bad on the photos but...I was soooo frustrated...too much lace, too much volume...just not me at all...my older daughter picked my dress and her dress to match also with the baby's dress, I think she got inspired by Barbie or something...she said she wanted a princess dress, and she was so happy to be involved!...anyway...I was glad she was 5 at that time and was interested by wedding dresses, because I really didn't like anything in those stores!
My husband did ask me to get married long before the children were born (the first two) and I did say yes on the spot to the idea, but I didn't feel like really doing it...for many reasons. First my best friend who was supposed to be my "maid of honor" died in an accident. And I had a hard time to picture my wedding without her. My husband also knew her for many years, he understood. Plus, even if I was not obese before the kids, I was never happy with my weight/figure and wanted to look great in a dress... I had mixed feelings about my body image even at that time. Now I think it was stupid, I could have looked really good in a size 12/14...but I can't change the past...
After my first child I became obese and it was a no no. But my husband is really stubborn (and clever), and after the second baby he plaid the card "it would really please my grandma" since I loved her so much...and she was getting sick...I finally said yes to actually do it....finally.
In France many people have children and never get married, or get married after they have their children...it is "less formal" compare to the US I think. Here all my American friends got married before their children were born...they are always surprised when I tell them we got married with two of our children, even if we already knew each other for almost thirteen years at that time!.... Here people get married fast, sometimes after dating six months or one year...it's just a different culture.
So when hubby told me last February that we should renew our wows for our anniversary and do something fun, I had to admit I was thinking about it too...and I bought a cheap (but lovely) dress on sale ....(size 16, I was very optimistic! but I knew I was also going to start my diet at some point, and finally I did a few months later, in August)....we are now waiting for our friends to come visit us to do a little ceremony in May or June....in Vegas, do something hilarious (with Elvis, or something really exotic/silly) and then take pictures at the beautiful Red Rock Park.
Right now I'm a size 22...long way to go to reach 16! in my case to go from 24/26 to 22 it took me 33 pounds and 3 months!....and since I'm in plateau since my injury...I do not know how long it will take me to lose enough (I need probably a loss of 60 pounds) to go to a size 18...and I might need to buy an other dress if it can not be altered that much anyway....how well...will see! but it's not a real wedding, it's just to do something special and make memories/photos with our friends and all our children together... I will donate the dress(es) to Goodwill after, so at least even if I can not use the one I got now, something good will come of it...and just being able to buy a nice dress that didn't look like a meringue was already a great thing...and such a good goal for my diet...