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A Cage

Monday, November 26, 2012

Aragorn: What do you fear, my lady?
Eowyn: A cage. To stay behind bars until use and old age accept them and all chance of valor has gone beyond recall or desire.
- LOTR; Two Towers

This quote has been ringing through my mind all week long. I thought I would share my thoughts with you on it. It might not seem like it has anything to do with weight loss. But to me... it does.

In my case the cage refers to my body. The bars are fat. Layers upon layers of fat that prevent me from living my life. From running with my children. From wearing a swim suit with pride. From dancing carefree and full of happiness because I'm too worried about how much my butt it jiggling. That prevents me from being proud of myself, and enjoying this short life while I can.

I fear being accustomed to my fat. To a point I can no longer use my legs. I fear old age making me accustomed to my fat. I fear lack of use confining me to a bed or chair. I fear being out of breath walking up a few flights of stairs, because I let myself stay caged by fat.

The valor in this quote refers to my enjoying life. I fear the fat caging me from enjoying life. From enjoying my children and the various activities they do. From feeling attractive, or even (ghasp) sexy. I fear giving up, letting the cage of fat win. Losing any desire to become healthier because it just doesn't feel like a goal I can meet. After all if I am confined to a bed, it would be all that much more difficult to exercise than right now while I am healthy enough to get up and get out there. I fear being beat down by the world and my low self esteem due to this cage of fat.

I fear being caged. Do you?

Fear is a great motivator.


So I chose to use this fear. I chose to make eating right and exercise priority. I chose not to let myself be caged until use and old age accept it, and all chance of valor has gone beyond recall or desire. I will live my life the way I want to live it, and break out of this cage.

Weekly nutrition:
Track. Track. Track.

Weekly fitness:
Monday: Pilates
Tuesday: Jogging or Cardio Dance
Wednesday: Yoga
Thursday Jogging or Cardio Dance
Friday: Pilates
Saturday: Jogging or Cardio Dance

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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
IYA_EKUNDAYO 11/30/2012 11:06PM

    I agree with Pookasluahg.
I believe that tarot card is the 8 of swords. Her eyes are blindfolded, her hand are loosely tied, the swords surround her, but do not enclose around her fully. If she would remove the bindings on her hands and the blind fold on her eyes she would be able to see the way out... just step forward
The card suggests feeling restricted
being fenced in by obstacle
staying in a limited situation
feeling trapped by circumstances
experiencing few options
being blind to freedom
feeling persecuted

feeling confused being unsure which way to turn
feeling at a loss
lacking direction
feeling overwhelmed
floundering around
needing guidance and clarity
not understanding what is happening

feeling powerless
waiting for outside rescue
doubting anything you do will help
avoiding responsibility
looking for a white knight
feeling victimized
accepting inaction

Very much how all of us feel at one point or another (especially on this weight loss journey).... but all we have to do is realize we have the power to free our self Bob Marley sang:

"Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery;
None but ourselves can free our minds."

"Redemption Song"

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RUSSELL_40 11/30/2012 5:34PM

    For me I fear dying, since I have a heart problem. Much harder to forget, but it happens when I go all Cookie Monster.

Hopefully these fears are enough to motivate you. Fear of something, is almost the same as the desire for the opposite, except that desire doesn't motivate us as much it seems. Yes, I desire to be healthier, but I FEAR

Sadly, this is what works the best. FEAR. So if you are going to do it properly, I would make a suggestion to post this in your kitchen, and read it daily, instead of here in this blog, where it will be on page 2, and forgotten in a week or 2.

Fear can't beat ice cream, if the ice cream is in sight, and your fears aren't.. I hope you figure out something. It would be nice to hear you with a positive attitude, and positive things happening to you.

Whatever happens weight wise, you should still be proud of yourself though. I am going to go listen to some 80's YouTube videos, and dance my jiggly butt off. Be kind to youself.

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JCARDINAL 11/27/2012 6:26PM

    Great blog!! I love the quote and picture. I agree fear is very motivating! emoticon

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 11/27/2012 9:03AM

To change one's life: Start immediately. Do it flamboyantly. No exceptions.

~William James

Keep Sparking. Keep doing. You are awesome!

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RYDERB 11/27/2012 8:55AM

    Great quote! Great picture! Great blog!!! I love Amanda's story about learned helplessness too . I'm glad you're going to take control of your fear and use it to push you forward and make the most of each new day. Sara's right, you are FABULOUS! We will figure this thing out. We WILL get this DONE!
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CARA_FIT37 11/27/2012 8:21AM

    I absolutely love Eowyn! She is probably my favorite LOTRs character. I understand where you are coming from. There are days where I think to myself...hey, things aren't that bad, you could probably live our your life where you are. But I know that is not true!

You must remember the end of the story where she takes charge and makes herself useful, whether the boys like it or not! emoticon

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SARASMILING 11/27/2012 8:10AM

    First, that BIGDOG18 cracks me up. He's like a photo bomber. I see his emoticon everywhere. lol!

Second, you are fabulous! Love the quote, love the blog. You are so on target. We WILL get there eventually. :) We'll keep trudging along and figure out the secret eventually too. We WILL do this! We WILL get there!
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DOGSTARDADDY 11/26/2012 6:05PM

    I think you're doing a pretty good job of combating that fear.

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FANGFACEKITTY 11/26/2012 1:36PM

    For each of us our motivation comes from somewhere different, somewhere unique to our own selves and situations. Fear can be a powerful motivator and is just as legitimate as any other. Find what will motivate you and embrace it; as FDR said famously "the only thing we have to fear is fear itself". Only be afraid of allowing the fear to win.

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POOKASLUAGH 11/26/2012 1:12PM

    There's this one tarot card in a specific deck that I like, where there's a man imprisoned in a cage made of swords. His head his hanging low, defeated, but the irony of the card is that he is thin enough to fit through the bars of the cage if he chose, but he is so defeated and blind to his situation that he doesn't look up and see that escape would be easy. He has the power to escape, but doesn't. This card means a lot to me, and your post reminds me of that. It reminds me of the things we learned in psych classes in college about learned helplessness. One of my teachers brought in a live chicken and held its head down on the table. After a minute, she lifted her hand, no longer holding the chicken down, but still, the chicken didn't move. It had struggled against her, and given up, and now, it was only laying there from learned helplessness. That was a really powerful lesson for me. And I think it DOES appy to weight loss, just like you say.

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