Sunday, November 25, 2012
About five years ago my father had oral cancer. He had to have a spot on his tongue removed. Before he even got out of the hospital he had a fresh pack of Kools in his overnight bag. I was so disappointed that he would even think about smoking another cig after that scare. His doctor even told him if he continued to smoke the cancer could come back and would be worse.
His wife has been a chain smoker all her life ( 3 to 4 packs a day). She has COPD and a bunch of other health problems now. Even after all the advice from doctors to quit, she has not. I think after seeing what has happened with his wife and himself that, that, was enough to make him not quit but to dramatically cut down. I think he maybe smokes a couple cigs a day now. Which is not good but definitely better.
My dad is watching his wife slowly kill herself with smoking now. She is unable to do anything. The only thing she can do is sit and watch t.v. well, unless she goes and gets her steroid shot, then she will go out and party, aka, get drunk and smoke. Yes I know it makes no sense. When I last spoke to my dad on Thanksgiving. He told me that he had to take her to the hospital because she couldn't catch her breath. She hasn't been breathing right for the last couple of days and it's not getting better.
When he was here yesterday he told me that she only has 28% of her lung to use. Only 28% of her lung is working and guess what, she is still smoking. He said she can only smoke like 4 cigs a day now but that she just will not quit. I think reality is kinda sinking in that one day he might wake up to a dead body or worse watch her suffocate because she can't breathe anymore. Either way it goes it's very disturbing. She is only 55. So sad.
On top of it all he has a sister that is addicted to morphine. She frequently falls asleep with lit cigs and there are burn marks all over the floor and furniture where she lives he said. He has recently put her in rehab. His mother, father, and other sister are deceased.
I don't know really what to think at this point. All I can do is worry. I wish I could take this stress away from my father. It is more than sad to me it's tragic.