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The De -Cluttering, Is Going ok, So Far Day 9


Saturday, November 24, 2012

Well its day, 9 of the, de - cluttering, is going ok, so far this, on this quest, & job to, get my Flat, all lovely &, clean to just, how i want, it to be, 1nce i have finally, finally finished this, as well as, buying some more, new Furniture for, each of the, Rooms i shall, also buy some. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Nice scented Candles, to make my, Flat seem loved, & lived in, 2 as since, Relationships between Myself, & My Ex, Boyfriend broke down, i have been, using my Bedroom, (soon to be, a Dining Room,) as a Living, Room cum Kitchen, cum Dining Room, for exactly a, Month. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Yes for 4, whole weeks i, used/lived, in my Bedroom, (soon to be, a Dining Room,) as i could, bear to set, foot (walk, into/use,) my living Room, as that is, the last place, that my Ex, Boyfriend & Myself, were almost intimate, (He laid on, top of Me, which hurt my,. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Insides which left me, in total agony,) for which he, has never ever, apologised/said, sorry for doing, what so ever, so that is, how i have, been sleeping/, living etc cos, of what had, happened between the, Ex & Myself, its a shame, cos i want, to go back, into the Living, Room but i, cant. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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FATHINSN 11/26/2012 7:28AM

    You are into day nine of decluttering, WOOHOO!

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SHOES17 11/26/2012 5:14AM

    Sometimes I find clutter comes in various forms. Just as we clean and redecorate our living space, we have to clean and redecorate our spiritual self. Today is our beginning of a journey that is timeless and endless.

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JEWELMOTI 11/25/2012 1:03PM

    One step at a time!

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GINA180847 11/25/2012 9:55AM

    Sure admire how supportive a lot of these responses are. What a great bunch of people Sparkers are. As for you Honey, listen, respond and be all you can be. Life is too short to waste and we are all so loved that it would be a shame to disappoint all those wonderful people on Spark.

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PROVERBS31JULIA 11/24/2012 11:41PM

    Wow, I know I am also needing to declutter both insides and outsides!

Here's a really cool link to a saying I read recently:

"Life Becomes Easier When You Learn To Accept An Apology You Never Got"

http://sayingimages.com
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it's a process, but glad you are making progress on your journey!!

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GOSPELCLOWN 11/24/2012 7:33PM

    The decluttering sounds like a good move!

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JESSICABOOTY 11/24/2012 5:28PM

    I have to agree with 1state of denial on this one. Physical clutter cleaning is one thing but I think you've got a lot of psychological de-cluttering to do also. It's hard work and you'll want to throw it out the window but it must be done or you won't ever have true inner peace.

It took me several years - I sold the house and moved several states away. And then I had to do the inner work anyway. It was worth it because as a result I created a new me that I loved very much.

This year my second husband and I celebrated 20 yrs. of marriage. I went through a lot but it was worth it.

You can do this, I know.
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1STATEOFDENIAL 11/24/2012 4:41PM

    If you haven't done so yet, please find a therapist to talk to. They can help you work through the memories, fears, and unrest from your inability to let go of this relationship. They can give you tools to face the memories and take back the space. It's important to know that it is impossible for him to ever correct anything wrong that happened between you two - it is for you to accept, forgive, and forget. That takes time and a lot of effort, and working with a therapist will give you the ability to do so. You will also work on self-respect so that you can help prevent such things from happening and taking over your life again.

It's time for you to take responsibility and control over your life, and it's not something easily done alone. You're starting the process by cleaning up, but you need help to deal with the feelings and memories.

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LYNNA1968 11/24/2012 3:24PM

    great job decluttering your home, did you get that? YOUR HOME. Now, take that same time & energy and declutter your mind!!!.
If you can pick up some plants, life of any kind brings a smile! I agree with rearranging the furniture a different look would help

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ALEXSGIRL1 11/24/2012 2:57PM

    sorry you need to realize that he is gone and can't hurt you. you can't let him ruin your whole life please don't be afraid of living get help talk to someone. For years I was afraid of sleeping with my bedroom door closed because an x of mine hid in a closet when his new girlfriend started dating someone else. He killed her 8 year old son when he was discovered by him. then he waited in the closet and killed her boyfriend and her. Years of life ruined because i was too afraid to talk to someone do not let this happen to you please get help you deserve to get your life back.

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JESSICABOOTY 11/24/2012 2:19PM

    Think Beth150 and DR1939 have some of the best ideas. Give them a shot and keep tossing out the past.
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BETH150 11/24/2012 1:31PM

    In my past I have had rooms that has negative "mojo" in them due to what happened in them. Even with no $$ you can shift that energy by rearranging your furniture, pictures etc around. If you do have a few bucks, you can go to almost any paint place (lowes, walmarts etc) and buy just 8 ozs of paint (they call them their samples) for about 4.00. It can be enough to paint 1 wall or around a few windows.
Change the vibes in that room and reclaim it as YOURS :)

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GARDENSFORLIFE 11/24/2012 1:09PM

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GOLFLADY11 11/24/2012 12:59PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon Get out and walk. Hug yourself! Love yourself! Move on!!!!! Life is very short and there are rainbows ahead!!!

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DIANER2014 11/24/2012 10:48AM

    Great job on the progress you've made! Keep up the awesome job! emoticon

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NPA4LOSS 11/24/2012 10:33AM

    You are going to get there. It may take time but you are making good choices. emoticon on all the progress you are making. emoticon

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DR1939 11/24/2012 9:58AM

    Glad you are decluttering the house, now you need to work on getting rid of the bad feelings about this relationship. Please consider talking to a counselor. It's beginning to sound like there were some abuse issues involved.

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 11/24/2012 9:41AM

    focus on the positive..it will be like a new room when you get finished!!

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PATTYKLAVER 11/24/2012 9:30AM

    Maybe one day the wounds will heal. I am hoping that they at least fade fast for you. Meanwhile, you're doing great at the de-cluttering. Keep up the good work.

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