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Friday, November 23, 2012

Well, yesterday was yesterday. I normally look forward to holidays. I love my dad, uncles, cousins. My sister can be really iffy, sometimes fine - sometimes horrific. My dad's wife on the other hand . . . we'll get to that.

Day started off good. I walked both dogs together, something I never do as they like to go at different paces. We had a great time, Gypsy even loped/jogged a bit. It was funny!

I cooked, I really did. Made a Spaghetti squash dish out of the Spark people cookbook. Tweaked it a bit but it turned out great. I've never done Spaghetti squash before but I can guarantee it will become a winter staple!

Anyway, got to Dad's at 3. He and the wife were already at it. She is mean to him, nasty to us, and and just rude. She goes through stages where she "acts" like she wants to be friendly, she's not in one of those modes right now. Right now my son is the devil, my hubby is stupid, and I'm the worst person on the planet (except for my dad and sister).

I stayed in calorie and portion through dinner. I was sticking with my dad and cousin. When she just started in. Let's just say, normally we sit around and drink and gab until midnight or 1am. We were to last one's to leave yesterday and I couldn't take it by 8pm. I was so upset and frustrated with her, dad popped a bottle of Merlot an I was glad to finish it.

Then I got home and felt guilty for leaving him like that (yes I know, adult and he CHOOSES to live with it). That I snarfed a big piece of apple pie. Not my finest hour. So, I was over yesterday by wine and pie. Oh well.

So I'm hoping Christmas goes better. I know what to eat and who to avoid!

Warm Wags everyone!
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MERRY_XMAS 12/2/2012 2:58AM

    There is always some annoying idiot in the family... As I always say:
"I only care about the opinion of people I respect and admire. If I don't respect someone, why should I care if he approves me and my choices?"

I'm sure you feel bad for your dad, but it's his choice and you should not feel miserable because of that.
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JUSTME29 11/26/2012 8:57PM

    I read that as "who to eat and what to avoid". I had to re-read. Then I thought, well - either way it works pretty well. The plus side is that you were at their house and could leave, if she had come to your house and acted that way it would've been even worse.

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LOSER05 11/26/2012 7:41AM

    by chance what is your dads wife first name because it sounds just like the one my dad was married to, she was the female of satin emoticon

my dad passed like 5 years ago. we found out she is a closet DRUNK. god we all HATED her..

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CATHYGETSFIT 11/25/2012 11:48PM

    Ugh! I think people like that exist to make everyone around them miserable! I can say that I nearly hated my dad's 3rd wife. She wasn't mean like yours, instead she was sneaky and said crap behind your back. I know it's hard to leave your dad with her but like you said, he chooses to be with her. If he really didn't like it he'd either say something or get out of the situation. As much as he may dislike the way she behaves he is still with her. It' understandable that you went over but you've learned your lesson from it and hopefully will be better able to control yourself next time. The good thing is that it was one day and can get right back on track. Sorry your Thanksgiving wasn't better. Maybe you should ask her why she is such a b!7ch to everyone! emoticon Maybe you better not though... emoticon

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A-NEW-TARA 11/25/2012 4:40PM

    It is amazing how one person can take what should be a good day and ruin it for everybody. I am glad that you have your wonderful husband to return home with and unwind. Have a wonderful Sunday!
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WICKEDMELISSA 11/25/2012 3:25PM

   
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WICKEDMELISSA 11/25/2012 3:25PM

    Awe Kitty sorry about your Dads wife. I know the feeling it has become very hard to spend the holidays with my 85 y/o mother. Thanks to my sister and our bestie Kathy I made it through dinner.
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GMO_JEN 11/25/2012 9:43AM

    Sorry the holiday was so rough. I think, even when someone is an adult, you can't exactly turn off that caring part which makes it really hard. One day is just one day, and today is a clean slate. Hope today is far less stressful!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 11/25/2012 12:42AM

    Sorry your holiday wasn't that great :( *hugs*

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JAXMOMMY 11/24/2012 5:06PM

    Sorry you have the wicked step-mother! But, yes, your dad made his choice. It is not all that hard to get out of a marriage these days. Hey, one or 2 days out of 365 will not ruin you, so OK! I can just imagine pretty Gypsy loping along her sisersister and Taz yelling, c'mon speed it up you big goof! Ah, sibling rivalry! Treat the evil step mom with kindness. It will kill her I promise!

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MICHELLE_391 11/24/2012 11:36AM

    Awwww, Kitty. I'm sorry your dad's wife is such a bitter pill. I hope you enjoyed some aspect of the day - other than the wine and pie. Not that I don't want you to have enjoyed that treat, but I hope there was more to your joy than that!

((((Hugs)))) I'm so thankful for YOU!

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FLEURGARDEN 11/24/2012 9:12AM

    So sorry... but I can relate. I had a nice Thanksgiving this year because I spent it with friends instead of family so I could avoid my sister and her drama. Maybe next year someone else could host Thanksgiving and your dad could leave her by the side of the road or something and not bring her.

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1EMMA2011 11/23/2012 11:46PM

    Good for you for knowing who the trouble makers are, the takers. Good for you for having a plan for next time!

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DISAPPEARING1 11/23/2012 10:46PM

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I'm so sorry! It'so miserable having to spend time with people like especially on a nice long holiday weekend. Hope today was better!
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TWEETYKC00 11/23/2012 7:58PM

    WE all have at least one of those relatives, I can understand. It can be a matter of finding another way to deal without swallowing it with a bunch of food. Hugs.

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BEAR8MM 11/23/2012 7:32PM

    Come to my house for Christmas, I'm usually pretty quiet. If we break out any decent merlot, though, all bets are off!

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EVER-HOPEFUL 11/23/2012 6:46PM

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CIPHER1971 11/23/2012 5:42PM

    Sorry you had bad bits of your day, may Christmas be everything you wish for

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2BDYNAMIC 11/23/2012 5:24PM

    Yep! For sure, sometimes family scenes SUCK!! ........ Mine included on his and her side ............... Drama at every turn........... (war zone) ............ We finally smartened up and "sit it out' and let them have their food fights by themselves ....... (not kidding) ................ Actually, I think yu did pretty well to have that piece of pie and polish off the wine! .............. (It coulda been way worse) ................ emoticon

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JUMPINJULIE 11/23/2012 5:05PM

    I'm sorry. I know christmas will be better.

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WARRIORGIRL121 11/23/2012 4:37PM

    Awww, Kitty - I'm so sorry to hear that. Thanksgiving - and really any day with family gatherings - should NOT be like that. I think some people are so unhappy with themselves or dealing with issues they've had for years, that they just unloose all their anger and bitterness at everyone around them... particularly those close to them. I'm sorry your Dad has to deal with that. I know how you feel as I've had my own family issues to deal with through the years too. At some point, you realize that no matter how much you try to control yourself and behave well, some people are just determined to NOT be at peace wtih you no matter what you do. Try to focus on the good parts of the day - the family you enjoyed time with, the pets, the food - yes even the pie and the wine... and then just shake the rest of it off. Let it roll off your shoulders like rain. YOur Dad's wife is probably not giving any of it a second thought (in terms of anything bothering her) - don't give away YOUR POWER to her by allowing her to ruin your day or your memories... and certainly NOT one more day! Love you sweetie... will keep you and your family in prayer. Hugs, Karen

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ANDY_54 11/23/2012 4:18PM

    Aw, wish you had a better Thanksgiving. But all in all, I think you did pretty well for the drama! And you still got some exercise in with the dogs, too. It happened, but like you said today's another day--I say learn what or who to avoid (like you've already done) and do it, if you can. emoticon

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ANATASHIKI 11/23/2012 4:01PM

    sorry you weren't over in a merrier way emoticon .

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LIVINGFREE19 11/23/2012 3:50PM

    Sorry you had to deal with her.
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1CRAZYDOG 11/23/2012 3:36PM

    Sorry things were so disappointing! **SIGH* But you're right, today is a new day.

HUGS

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TAZINITE 11/23/2012 3:16PM

    It was thanksgiving and it was okay. Hey I am sorry to say this. I smiled because I remember how hard it was for me to be there for my folks. It is so good to know that I am not alone in this family thing. The apple pie was healthy in some respects and the Merlot was good for the soul. Don't beat your self up. Be glad that you were there for dad. And he probably went to bed or turned on the tv real loud. Well we hope so.

On a lighter note your 2 dogs look so much like our Moca. She is so full of mischief. Won't play the other dogs unless it is dark and she can sneak up on them. Only wants me to herself. Barks oh she loves to bark and it is loud. Grumpy if things are not her way. On a funny side she does better walking if I take Bandit with her. Oh and she loves to roll bigger Bandit when we go to a certain park. Will do it again and again if I let her. Not! Know it is dinner time 5 minutes before and if I don't get it. She barks to remind me. And mole digging and running. She is a character. yet she is very aloof and snooty lots of times.

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BEARGODDESS 11/23/2012 2:02PM

    Ahhh, the days of family drama holidays! I remember hosting years and years of those too! I tried everything: more alcohol, less alcohol, no alcohol, games, movies, funny T.V. shows.........nothing ever worked......the vitriol bled through everything and I'm SOO glad that it's just Dave and I now without the drama. He (your dad) IS a grown-up and he'll decide whether to stay around the.....wife.....or not. Under the circumstances, I think a little Merlot and pie were warranted.
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LESLIELENORE 11/23/2012 1:38PM

    I wish you could just silence her for an evening so you could enjoy your family. My mom and my brother were pretty cranky last night, but they kept their bad moods mostly quiet until after dinner so I got to enjoy the meal.

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MDKM80 11/23/2012 1:20PM

    Sorry your Thanksgiving was ruined by your dad's wife! It's terrible how some people can treat others!!!!!! I hope today is better for you though! *hugs*

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NIKKICOLE83 11/23/2012 1:14PM

    That sucks but as you said, he chose her so he has to deal with that but you don't have to put up with her attitude. It is okay that you went over a little bit. It is just one day and you can get right back on track today. Wine and pie seem so totally worth it!

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