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I'll take the "Jeri" or the "Tricia", thankyouverymuch

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

If you don't know who Jeri Ryan and Tricia Helfer are, here are some photos:

Jeri Ryan

Tricia Helfer

I am a fan of Star Trek: Voyager and Battlestar Galactica, and whenever these women first come on the screen in any episode, I think, "Man, I want to look like that."

Yet, I never will. I shouldn't find that upsetting, but I do. In still photographs, I have the consolation of knowing they are probably photoshopped. On TV, they're not. These women really look like that. Talk about hitting the genetic jackpot.

I don't think I'm a superficial person who only cares about looks. I don't wear any makeup or style my hair, and I spend next to nothing on clothes. So why does it bother me so much that I can never look like these women, no matter how hard I try?

I read a blog entry today about self-compassion - loving ourselves as we are. I'm pretty good at this when it comes to what's on the inside. I think I am a decent person.

But what do I do about loving the "outside of the package"? Do I focus on the things I like about my packaging (my body) or do I say to myself, "I like how strong I am - it doesn't matter how I compare to anyone else" and leave it at that? I am not sure.

I don't want my daughter to feel this way as she grows up, so I better figure it out.

Edit: Related blog: Self-Compassion by SP Coach Nancy

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BOILHAM 11/22/2012 8:43AM

    I am a guy. I think I was 50 or so before I accepted my body for what it is. I envy guys with great hair, and great muscular bodies, too. In myy generation it was Steve Reeves or those Charles Atlas ads on the back of the comic books.
So, being thin all my life, I started weight training around age 30, just to improve what I had, knowing I'd never look muscular. Now at 65, I have to adapt my diet to not gain waist weight, a natural thing for guys my age. Our waist just wants to grow.
I just had to learn to accept my genetics for what they are, and do the best I can with what I had. And yes, I tend to be vain, and want to look my best as well as feel it.
My DW has genetics like the two ladies you mentioned, even now at the same age of 65 she has an hourglass figure. So she inspires me to stay in shape as well. That helps.

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BROOKLYN_BORN 11/22/2012 8:11AM

    I had to check out Jeri’s vital statistics. She’s 5’8” and weighs anywhere from 120-125 lbs. Yeah, I’d take that. Measurements: 36-25-36 - just about what I dreamed of back in the day of “Look at Me, I’m Sandra Dee” but “Gidget” was shorter.

Everybody’s waist was smaller back then. Hips, we can work on. But those boobs? Sorry, kid. We were missing when those genes were distributed. Jeri’s cup size is either a C or D. The only way for us to get that would cost about $4,000 (or so I’m told).

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