Monday, November 19, 2012
Less emotional today . . . no temptation to cry . . . spent a lovely day with family. My stepmother has one of her sons and one of her grandsons living with her. She has two other sons, one came down today with his wife, daughter, daughter-in-law, and grandsons. So we had a wonderful relaxed day - true turkey day style with spaghetti (since I don't like it, it was easy to enjoy the PEOPLE and not make it about the food). My son was not feeling up to spending an entire day in crowded house with small kids (3 & 5) running around, so I got there around 10 and just got home around 8:30 and he stayed at home and did some things he wanted to do. Helen's granddaughter (mom of the 2 boys) is really good about her kids' food and because of that, the dessert was apple slices - which works for ME. I love these people dearly and would have them as friends even if they were not family now. My sister-in-law is also a teacher and is nearing retirement. It was just a really relaxed and healing day.
Thursday will be another good day with the other son visiting and also a nephew of Helen's coming for dinner because his wife is a resort chef and has to work on Thanksgiving. The menu will be more traditional and we'll have the turkey, lots of veggies and all the trappings. I have a plan and am sure that I will do well then too. Helen and I both like a lot of different veggies so that is what I will fill up on and it will help with the other foods too because they will limit the temptation to gobble like a MAJOR turkey.
I am thinking that maybe the mood yesterday and since last week had more to do with the stresses at my job and the pain of the tension that curls around my neck, shoulders, and head. Sometimes I don't realize I am in PAIN until it starts to ease up. I took a muscle relaxer last night and felt a little better this morning and the relaxed day with loved ones helped to ease the stress some more.
As for the question about anniversaries of some event - THANKSGIVING is a SPECIAL time of year for me and my favorite holiday so all of the emotions and all of the losses do catch up, but maybe BEING REALLY PREPARED for OCTOBER this year, postponed the emotional roller coaster until I was NOT really paying attention. I know that the shadowed emotions that reside in MY BODY instead of my head and heart solely can strike when I am not looking.
Everyone make a HEALTHY PLAN for Thanksgiving - YOUR PLAN - YOUR CHOICES - YOU DECIDE so that when you follow it or even if you don't follow it perfectly, you will feel more successful. I am not advocating any particular approach - ALL of them work, and all of them do NOT work - UNLESS they are right for YOU. Whatever you do, take the time to be TRULY grateful. Stop and say THANK YOU. Be NICE to yourself and remember that WHATEVER you choose to put into your plan is OKAY. You may choose to eat whatever you want in whatever amount you want - and THAT is okay. You may choose to avoid certain favorites, have no dessert, eat some of everything but keep portion sizes small, or any of a dozen other things. ALL ARE OKAY and SO ARE YOU REGARDLESS of how well you follow the plan, what your choices are, and whether you experience a weight loss, gain or stay the same.
Just be grateful and thankful and ENJOY the people, the love and the blessings you are experiencing.