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Just STOP being so mean.

Monday, November 19, 2012

So. This post requires some back-story of some sort.

I have a really mean grandma. That sounds horrible to say, I know. But really. This woman has made me hate myself from the time I was six. That sounds like an exaggeration, but it isn't. Not even a little. She has always made me feel really fat and ugly. Combine that with the fact that she's told me she (honestly.) thinks I'm going to hell because I have my ears pierced, wear jeans, and cut my hair, and it's a recipe for minor Anna-disaster. End back-story.

I've been actively trying to lose weight since July. I've lost a fair amount of weight, and gone down 2 pant sizes. I still have a long way to go, but at this point, it's pretty evident that I've lost quite a bit of weight.

I ran into her at the store today. She said, "Oh, your dad said you'd lost quite a bit of weight. Well, I can't tell, but you just keep at that."

It sounds harmless, and even typing it, I feel petty. But holy mother, that hurt. It hurts. I'm currently hurting.

If nothing else, I suppose it serves as good motivation to work out...

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    Hey! Just randomly checking out blogs and looking for some new motivation buddies. :)

    A couple of things:

    First, two pants sizes IS A BIG DEAL. And what she said WASN'T NICE. She may not have meant to be be mean, but that doesn't mean she succeeded. It's totally understandable that it hurt your feelings-- but maybe telling us about it is the first step to let those words go. You are beautiful and apparantly doing an amazing job at reaching your goals.

    Second, I love your background. :)
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    1431 days ago
    Baby make me want to keep an eye on how to be a better gran'ma!!! Hold your head up. I grew up in the same environment...and what I wish is that I could erase all the words I heard. I learned to emotionally walk away from the negatives...I hope you can! Keep Sparkin'! (BTW...think what your parent went through growing up with her).
    1431 days ago
  • MARYBETH4884
    Your grandmother is probably truly unhappy with her life, so she turns that pain away from herself and unfortunately focuses it on you. You are the important one to see and feel the difference in yourself. If you are feeling good with your progress then be happy. You are going to have to live with yourself longer than anyone else. I hope you have a support system of other family and friends who do love and support you unconditionally. Then there is all of us here who really understand your journey. emoticon
    1432 days ago
    I am so sorry that your grandmother is like that but that is HER problem. Some people seem to LIKE being critical of others and judging them. She will have to answer for doing that when she stands before the ONLY one that has the RIGHT to judge us. Please pop over to my Sparkpage and read my blog from yesterday. It deals with the same thing.

    You are doing emoticon emoticon and don't ever let anyone discourage you! What others think or say is not what matters. What matters is that we are doing things to make ourselves better and others need to take care of the issues that they have in their OWN lives!


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    1432 days ago
    I have a complicated relationship with my family too. I am thinking in your case, grandma is the one who's wrong. Hopefully you have other people in your life to look to for sincere love. I am so lucky to have a nice husband and kids and a nice mom and sister. I usually think I have a nice dad, but it's complicated. I'm going to quit acting like everything's okay with him and just accept that it is what it is and probably won't change.
    1432 days ago
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