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Hi mom. Here's your new grandson.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Intense emotions are my binge triggers usually. Extreme happiness, anger, sadness, etc. Sometimes I can resist them... others I end up saying eff it.

So yesterday my mom texts me a photo of a baby. My mom is the social butterfly of the small town she lives in. She knows everyone. Most everyone loves her. People stop by to visit. I figured someone I didn't know all that well stopped by to show off their child. Well I guess I was right in a way.

My sister (not the one who left me with her children... the other one) had her baby. We knew she was pregnant. We knew she was due in early Dec. However she failed to tell mom and dad, or myself that she went to the hospital on Tuesday in an emergency situation and gave birth to her son (cord around the neck, she was hemorrhaging).

Here is what she did do. She dropped her daughters off to mom and dad on Saturday afternoon so her two daughters could stay the night there. She didn't say a word to them about this baby having been born on the 13th. She just showed up Sunday afternoon with the little guy and said oh yeah.. here's your new grandson.
Nice huh.

Her boyfriend has decided he doesn't like my parents (or me by proxy, because I love and respect my parents, and I am usually there for them), and he didn't think any of us deserved to know anything about her or her children. Unless of course we wanted to watch them so they could have a kid free evening. And my sister, being so smitten by his never employed, always playing video games sex appeal agreed with him.

Can I just divorce my family? When will the drama end. When my mom texted me this photo M, the kids and I were en route from Michigan (visiting M's family for Thanksgiving). When we stopped to use the restroom, I went into the gas station and bought a bag of Reeces Pieces. I poured a handful in my hand and popped most of them in my mouth. I picked up the bag for 2nd's..... and put it down. No use in making myself fat just because I'm ticked off at my sister. Where's the logic in that?!?!?

To top it all off... my parents don't drink. So I can't bring a bottle of wine to Thanksgiving dinner to crawl into and avoid the insanity that is my family. And M's family. In one room. All day.

So this week is going to be stressful. I know this in advance. I need to plan to avoid any binges.

My house is free of pretty much anything unhealthy (except for some Halloween candy, but I don't even like half of it. There will be plenty to over eat on at my mom's house. I'm going to have one sweet desert (in small portions), and any time I feel the need to binge... eat a vegetable or fruit. That is it. My genius game plan. And no... I don't like ranch dressing or any veggie dips. So it will be a naked fruit or veggie, and it will be tracked on my app b/c that is part of this week's challenge.

So there. Take that binge eating monster. I'm not going to let you keep making me fat. How do you like them apples?

Weekly Fitness Battleplan:
Monday: Pilates
Tuesday: Cardio Dance
Wednesday: Yoga
Thursday: Jog or Cardio Dance
Friday: Pilates
Saturday: Jog or Cardio Dance, walking in the parade in the evening
Sunday: Rest

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  • AGK3112
    congrats on the new and your sister. It is nice that you did take yourself easy during all these time. About next week just plan ahead and you will be fine
    1433 days ago
    1434 days ago
    Will you please tell your sisters to stop breeding.

    Sorry if that came out harsh. I was just kidding. Kinda. But they are your sisters, so I'll be nice and say Congrats.

    I'll be thinking of you. Remember that your girls need at least one stable person in the family. XOXOXO
    1436 days ago
  • CARA_FIT37
    Good job for putting down the Reese pieces! I love those little guys and they are so hard to stop eating!

    I hope everything goes well for you this week. Try to not let it get to you. You can do this! emoticon
    1437 days ago
    You are awesome!!! (Your sisters.. not so much. lol)
    We can do this!!! We can do this! We can do this!!
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    1437 days ago
    Sounds like a great plan. Such a stressful time of year for so many reasons and so food toxic.

    Take time to Spark and be Sparked.

    You can do it.

    Also, listsen to the song: I Need a Silent Night byAmy Grant

    Such a beautiful song and a reminder to take time to remember what is really important. Family is important...loonies and all! Don't let them drag you down!

    1437 days ago
    1438 days ago
    Wow. Just wow. He doesn't like the family so they have no need to know anything? Except, of course, when he wants free babysitting? And your parents don't have a problem with that?

    I'd want to divorce them as well...after beating some sense into everyone.

    Don't let their craziness - and the craziness they choose to accept - be your problem. You can't help what your sister or her boyfriend do and you can't help how your parents choose to react or not. Don't punish yourself for things that are completely not yours to own. Your family are all adults now and need to own their own problems.

    Here's an SP Friend's blog with some good advice as you head to your family Thanksgiving :

    1438 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/19/2012 2:15:23 PM
    You can do this, you can stay strong!! Your family sounds as crazy as mine. My stress day is Christmas when we're all together. At least I can drink there so it makes it easier to handle all the drama. Try to have a Happy Thanksgiving!!
    1438 days ago
    wow that's really crazy family drama. Seriously? Baby born and she doesn't even tell anyone??? You'd think at very least she'd want help! Sheesh. I'm sorry your family is going through all that, but glad you decided it's not worth getting fat because of your sister. :)
    1438 days ago
    Tis the season for family drama! During weeks like this, I try to list 5 things everyday that I'm grateful for. It's nice to focus on the positive things and see the bigger picture when everybody around you is causing needless drama. It sounds like your sister is a bit of a user and she likes to get everybody in an uproar (why else in the world would you do this kind of behavior?). You can choose to give her the reaction she's looking for, or you can not reinforce her need for drama with your attention. Enjoy the time you'll be spending with your parents and try to have a happy holiday in spite of the crazyness!
    1438 days ago
    hehe YAY! kick that binge eating monster in the head! emoticon

    Families can be very challenging. I know mine is. I have been triggered to binge all this week but have had enough self control to not even start. Right now I am fully focused on the positive and not letting anyone ruin my holiday. Yes, I am annoyed with them but why should I let that bother me?

    That is sad your sister did that to you guys and that there is all that tension because of her boyfriend. Dont let her issues be your issues. She chose her life. All you can do is be there for her when and if it falls apart.

    Good luck this week!

    1438 days ago
    That sounds like a good Thanksgiving strategy. Can I suggest something else? How about planning a non-food activity that might help you relieve stress? You could play games with the kids (Thanksgiving charades, do a scavenger hunt, etc.). Or you could bring a CD of your favorite music to play in the background so you can get up and dance with your girls if you want to. I think having some activity besides food would probably help you deal with the stress and potential emotional eating.

    I am lucky that we're doing T-day with Greg's family this year. They have it at his grandparent's house, which is huge, so I can walk away from the food whenever I want into another room.

    Your sister sounds like a jerk. I hope she comes to her senses soon. When my older sister had her first baby, she wouldn't let us go to the hospital or anything either. We basically were all on edge, waiting for news from her and she took her sweet time to let us know what happened. But for her 2nd kid, she let us be much more involved. I love my little nephews!
    1438 days ago
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