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Not Gonna Relax -- Gonna Beat the Odds


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Sunday, November 18, 2012

I've had a few interesting comments made to me recently.
1. "Oh, come on, it's the holidays. You can relax a little now."
2. "So? What's the problem? " (At a buffet meal, when asked why I passed on eating the flank steak and I said because it was covered in creamy sauce)
3. "I'm going to drop off a piece of a dessert I made. You can eat it or throw it out. "

The first two comments, I simply looked at the persons with my best "Seriously?" expression and the subject was dropped. With the friend who told me she was bringing by a dessert for me, I asked her "Why would you do that? It's just going to make me feel bad." When she asked what I meant, I explained I would feel bad throwing out her dessert that I no doubt would want to eat and I'd feel worse if I ate it. She immediately said, "Ok. I won't bring it over, then. "

I have a lot of support from the people in my life, but not always a lot of understanding of the odds I face. They figure since I am now at my goal range, I can go back to eating "normally." They don't get that normal eating isn't my strong suit. Or the strong suit of lots of us, for that matter. And they really don't get how much the odds are against me to maintain my weight loss. When I tell them the most optimistic percentage I've seen that people can maintain their weight loss is 20%, they are astonished. When I tell them I've seen that percentage cited as low as 5%, they gasp.

And gasp they should. Whether my chances are 20% or 5%, those aren't great odds, so I am very grateful for all the knowledge and information I have gained here at SP from members and articles. For example, there has been a lot of discussion about the study on behaviors of successful maintainers. I'm doing my best to copy as many of those behaviors as I can. Behaviors like:
-Tracking food daily
- Burning a minimum of 2000 calories per week in exercise
- Weighing daily
- Keeping eating out to a minimum

You know what behavior isn't on that list? Relaxing! So, no I'm not going to relax this holiday season, eat like the average, clueless American and gain weight that I fought so hard to lose. Those last 10 lbs were killers to get rid of and I want them to stay gone. And no, I'm not going to make stupid choices like the flank steak with the mystery sauce. I was already stuck at an all day work retreat. There was no point in making myself more miserable by wondering how many calories I just consumed.

These are such early days for my maintenance. I reached my original goal September 1st and then decided to lose a bit more which I accomplished at the end of October. I'm still figuring out what my calorie range is! I'm not saying I am stressing about maintaining this weight. I'm not. I love being at this weight and how good I feel. I'm just being very careful as I add more calories. I know this is going to be a lifetime effort.

I'm thinking of maintaining as a new hobby or maybe a second job. One I am passionate about and that brings me amazing benefits like increased fitness, improved health and some really cute clothes.

Not something I am going to take for granted or get lazy about. So don't mind me if I don't relax about eating, exercising or my weight. I am beyond happy with my decisions and the results they bring.
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SUPERSYLPH 6/23/2013 11:37AM

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ELAINE725 4/3/2013 4:36PM

    Way to go! Keep up the GREAT work!!!

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SHIELDAC 1/28/2013 9:56AM

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SNOOPYANJ 1/13/2013 2:33PM

    Thanks so much for putting yourself out there & sharing!

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1954MARG 1/13/2013 9:02AM

  Well done. Maintenance is about deciding what your new habits for life are, weight loss is the first stage.

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ONSLOPIERRE 1/8/2013 9:39PM

  Thanks for your comments! I gained 40 pounds back of my original 70 pounds lost....because of listening to all of those people who said I needed to relax, not be perfect all the time, etc.

I am back on the wagon, and I am determined this time to get back to where I felt good about myself and was healthy.

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223DAISY 1/3/2013 3:35PM

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FLUTTER-BY)L( 12/30/2012 1:22AM

    Way to go. I think it is hard to be blunt with friends. However it helps them help us. If they want the best for us they will help. If not then they don't have our best interest at heart anyway.

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MCFITZ2 12/24/2012 3:46PM

    You and do it and more importantly, you WILL do it. emoticon

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AGAPEJOY 12/24/2012 1:10AM

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WRITINGDIVA1 12/23/2012 4:20PM

    Good for you on 1) reaching your goal and 2) demonstrating the need to maintain the weight loss once you reach it. And of course, good for you for confronting your (possibly unwittingly) saboteurs. When we make changes, people love for us to become the "old" person we once were. Good for you for embracing the new you and sticking up for her!
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AMANDEES76 12/21/2012 11:06AM

    AWESOME way to put that. Sometimes we have to educate those that aren't on this journey because all they see is the outside of it. You are doing great and I'm sure you will succeed at maintaining.

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YICHE12 12/20/2012 9:58PM

    Keep up the great work! emoticon

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ARUSHING2 12/19/2012 11:34PM

  Great quest that you are on. Thanks for sharing your story with us. Very good blog. Happy Holidays - take care and enjoy.

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MONAMAC1 12/19/2012 4:49PM

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LESCANTOONOW 12/19/2012 10:11AM

  Hi! WILLOWBROOK5,

I LOVE THE WAY YOU THINK! YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL ATTITUDE ABOUT WHAT YOU SHOULD DO TO HELP YOU YOURSELF LOSE WEIGHT, AND KEEP IT OFF! KEEP UP THE FANTASTIC JOB YOU ARE DOING!

ALL THE BEST TO YOU,
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YBOKANE 12/19/2012 9:58AM

  Congratulations on your weight loss. I am just over half where I would like to be and I know that keeping it off will be the hardest part of this journey for me. You had an excellent post - one I need to remind myself of all daily now and in the future. Keep up good work.

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SRULISHAFFREN 12/19/2012 1:20AM

  What a fantastic post! Thank you for sharing, it was really the kind of motivational kick in the pants I needed right now!

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SJKENT1 12/18/2012 6:49PM

    Diligence will win this battle.

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MISSCALFO 12/18/2012 11:24AM

    Thank you for sharing! I need to stick to my guns too... Some people still don't care even when you tell them all this and I have to realize that these people maybe just don't want to see me succeed. So thank you so much for staying dedicated, this will help me too! :) emoticon

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TULAA3 12/18/2012 11:18AM

    Thanks for posting! Not many make it to where you are, and so it's nice to hear what it's like from that side. Be strong, you can keep it up!

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MIZINFO2003 12/17/2012 8:33PM

  I think your attitude is wonderful!

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PORTIAWILLIS 12/17/2012 3:03PM

    Thanks for the input. I have lost 100lbs 20lbs at a time and usually gain it and more back with etch diet. I had not heard those stastics about maintaining my loss but sure is true for me. I have every intention that this time will be different. With spark people I am learning so much more about myself and being more open about my problems. You can only hide for so long. I'm tire of hiding from myself and others. It is time to take control of my life and not let others control me.

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222NICHOLE 12/17/2012 11:41AM

    emoticon Thanks for this post. It helps me remember that I can and should stand up to people and stick with my goals rather than let them convince me that one little thing won't be that bad. You are a great example. Thank you.

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HEYGIRLG 12/17/2012 12:54AM

  Good for you! You are an example all of us need to follow.

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MICHELLE_391 12/16/2012 11:01PM

    emoticon and emoticon !!!

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TKRYSTINA 12/16/2012 6:34PM

  emoticon emoticon I really like your blog.

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MOREPOUNDS 12/16/2012 3:53PM

    Keep up the good work your doing!

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CYDNEYLEECH 12/16/2012 3:38PM

    I understand how you feel. When I reach my goal weight, everyone will know that it is is because of a life change, not simply a one time diet.

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LYNNIERN 12/16/2012 1:12PM

    Excellent, excellent blog, thanks for the four tips to get through not only the holiday season but every day!!

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KEEP ON YOUR GOAL, WE'RE ALL BEHIND YOU, GOOD WORK!

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WINEALITTLE 12/16/2012 9:30AM

    Admirable perspective and determination. Keep going strong! emoticon

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FROMNDTOGA 12/15/2012 5:43PM

    Good for you for sticking to your guns on the Spark People plan.
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GBSLIM 12/15/2012 5:03PM

    Congratulations on reaching your goal! And for having your blog featured in the "Community Highlight".
This is a very informative blog. I think the behaviors of successful maintainers you mentioned are good for all those trying to lose pounds.
Thanks for sharing.
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ANGELN325 12/15/2012 4:49PM

    WTG! You are so right. It's one of the hardest challenges. My dad's side of the family has the obesity gene, but my Mom's side does not. It's very hard when I'm there because they get to eat "normal" and I can not. This Christmas my game plan is to eat very slowly so that when they ask if I want "this' or "that", I can point to my plate and respond, "I'm good. Thanks." Or "Ya...I was going to try that later."
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DALID414 12/15/2012 3:59PM

    I don't plan on telaxing either. It's what got me in this mess in the first place.

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HOLLYM48 12/15/2012 3:24PM

    For me it isn't about achieving weight loss, it is about achieving a different lifestyle along the way. Once the weight is gone, unless you have gone thru this and still going thru it people just don't understand. They may think those few extra pounds just don't matter but to me, they matter. I want to be the best that I can be for me and for my family. It doesn't mean I won't enjoy the splurge every once in awhile, but that is all it is, once in a blue moon. We work too hard and have learned to much to ever go back down the road again. Good for you for sticking up for yourself. Don't we all wish we could eat anything anytime we want, but most people can't. We just learn to eat different and I for one am so happy that I have.!!!!!!
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PINKIE78 12/15/2012 3:15PM

    Awesome! I agree with you. Thanks for your inspiration and wisdom. Congrats on getting to where you are and working hard to stay there. Folks around me don't seem to "get it" with the desserts this time of year. I am grateful for one understanding friend who, upon seeing that someone had given me a box of candy, encouraged me to get rid of it saying, "You don't need that." That encouragement was an awesome gift.

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MSEMILY88 12/15/2012 9:24AM

    Bravo! During the holiday season it can be so hard to stick to healthy eating habits. Many times people mean well but they just don't get it. You are an inspiration. Keep up the good work emoticon

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JIBBIE49 12/15/2012 9:15AM

    emoticon Great to see you blog featured in the Spark Mail.

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FLORNH 12/15/2012 8:07AM

    Fantastic Blog! And so true!

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CONCHA77 12/15/2012 7:47AM

    Your blog caught my eye this morning and I am glad it did. Thanks for sharing!

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NANETTEWARN 12/15/2012 7:45AM

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JULESMARIETTE 12/15/2012 6:59AM

  I feel the same, like it's my new hobby. I know I will have to count calories the rest of my life in order to maintain. Thanks for sharing. It's nice to know there is someone else who feels the same. emoticon

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LEANMEAN2 12/15/2012 6:32AM

    Thanks for sharing

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