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An old friend waiting

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Sunday, November 18, 2012

I have a Spark friend heavy on my mind & heart as I have not heard from her in a number of days, as well as some of my family heavy on my mind & heart, so I just decided to go take a little walk. Riding my horse is very therapeutic but not something I like to do when home alone, so I opted for a walk.

I know that a fault of mine is that I want to try to help everyone, and try to fix things, sometimes without regard or detriment to my own self. But sometimes I just can't help everyone or fix everything, and I am just not sure what I am suppose to do. What kind of advice to offer. What kind of action to take. When to say when. Sometimes you say and do all the wrong things for the right reasons. I find it difficult to not help someone, especially friends and family, but I had to realize that sometimes I am just a crutch, an enabler, only prolonging the inevitable. And even last night, I had to practice tough love, and it was a very hard thing for me to do.

I read a quote on a blog before I left on my walk, a Mark Twain I believe. Something to the affect of don't make others your priority when you are just their option. I tend to do that a lot. I focus on everyone's troubles, neglecting things at hand that need tending to. All I can do is pray and hope that some day the answers will be revealed to me.

So I decided to go down my little hiking trail, get some fresh air, clear my head a little maybe. Maybe something will come to me. This is the path that I mowed with a pushmower this summer for exercise, before it got so insanely hot and then dry from drought. I have not been on it since probably June or July. I took a number of pictures but only one has arrived in my email box so far.

I was pleasantly surprised and very pleased to see that the little walking trail was still there, still passable, still visible - like it had just been patiently waiting for me to return. You know, like an old friend that you haven't seen for years when life takes you down this path and that path, but when you are reunited, it is like you were never apart? In fact, it wasn't really until I said out loud, “There you are, just like an old friend waiting for me to come back” that I realized, maybe that was my answer. That maybe this time, I just need to be an old friend and sit here patiently waiting. I don't need to do anything, except be here.

We can apply that to our weight loss efforts and SPARK also. Sometimes we get derailed, sometimes things don't go as planned. Sometimes it seems so unfair that others are farther ahead of where we thought we should be. So whether our weight loss efforts take a back seat or a wrong turn or just get stalled out in the slow lane, our weight loss efforts and Spark are like an old friend, always here waiting for us to come back to it, to pick up where we left off, as if we had never left.


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CM_GARDNER78 1/18/2013 12:49AM

    That is a GREAT idea!! Sometimes feels impossible to do...but I agree with you! I think that's probably what we should be doing instead of trying to FIX stuff for everyone else! And, if we were able to fix stuff for everyone else, they wouldn't have their own journey...would they?? :-) Great blog!

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FIRECOM 12/26/2012 9:43AM

    Wonderful story and so well written. Twain is a favorite of mine as well.

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DESERTFLOWERG 12/26/2012 12:40AM

    lovely

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SMOKINGUN 12/25/2012 10:53PM

    Thanks for a very interesting insight into what I do. Have to think more about the priority vs the option in anothers life. We can't solve all those problems, need to keep our path straight and maintained.
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1BEACHWALKER 12/25/2012 2:17AM

    emoticon This deserved a popular blog award!! emoticon
I know the feeling all too well! Love that quote, never heard it before!! Mark Twain is my husband's distant relative according to our genealogy research, so they are always special to us!
Walks to me are always a good way to feel better and to reflect on life! Good for you! Keep looking after yourself first and the rest will follow! emoticon

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SANDYLH1 12/18/2012 4:57PM

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JUDYAASH 12/4/2012 1:23PM

    Thank you for a beautiful, heartfelt blog. I will never forget it.

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MARYJEANSL 11/30/2012 10:17AM

  Thank you for the Mark Twain quote. I hadn't heard it before, but it is really relevant to me...so many times I have thought people were my friends, only to find out I was wrong. Now I am much better at just accepting that this is how it is and letting it go. Your path is lovely...wish I had such a nice place to walk closer to where I live.

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FITNHEALTHYKAL 11/20/2012 9:30AM

    emoticon Very insightful. Tis true that we tend to make others a priority over ourselves. It is a woman's way.

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JUSGETTENBY42 11/19/2012 11:41PM

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JAMER123 11/19/2012 10:49PM

    emoticon emoticon Great blog. I enjoyed the pictures as well.

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CICELY360 11/19/2012 10:22PM

  Good blog

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/19/2012 7:52PM

    I love my walking path too and going on it helps to clear my head and relieve stress.

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TATTER3 11/19/2012 7:48PM

    Enjoyed this!

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ONLYTEMPORARY 11/19/2012 7:14PM

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TERRIJ7 11/19/2012 6:50PM

    Wise advice about making others your priority when you are only their option~ that gives me something to think about~

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JUMPINJULIE 11/19/2012 6:43PM

    I love your blog. Sometimes it is well worth the wait.

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PATRICIAANN46 11/19/2012 6:23PM

  emoticon ed your blog. What you said is so very true. emoticon

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PEGGYO 11/19/2012 5:22PM

    so true

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ALIDOSHA 11/19/2012 5:19PM

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DIANNEMT 11/19/2012 4:15PM

    Very good point.

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SJKENT1 11/19/2012 3:07PM

    Thanks for sharing your insight. Walking for me, is a great way to get fresh air in my body and mind.

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EATVEGAN 11/19/2012 2:34PM

    This is a lovely blog. You've put things in almost poetic form. As for the quote, I have often thought I had close friends, only to discover to them, I am an acquaintance. It hurt for a long time because it happened fairly often. Then I realized it is partly me. I don't want to live in anyone's pocket, and I tend to be a friend from a greater distance than many people hold their best friends. I have just accepted it.

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KARRENLYNN 11/19/2012 2:17PM

    I like the picture of your trail, very beautiful. I also tend to want to fix everything for everyone and it's hard to realize that sometimes you can't or shouldn't do anything but stand back and wait.

I also find it hard sometimes not to compare my progress to someone else's. I just broke a plateau this morning, it was so unexpected and exciting. Very frustrating before, but I diligently kept exercising (but changed up my activities), did some tweaking on my eating choices and most of all didn't quit. I'm so glad now that I didn't use that plateau as an excuse to give up.

Keep enjoying your walking trail and think about all the progress you've made already.

Happy Thanksgiving you and your family.

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FARIS71 11/19/2012 1:42PM

    What a great analogy. And that Mark Twain quote was priceless!

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BLUE42DOWN 11/19/2012 1:37PM

    Very wise. What a beautiful way to see that trail, too.

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PCASEY7 11/19/2012 12:24PM

    Great blog!

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FAVORITEAUNT84 11/19/2012 11:52AM

    Amazing photo. Admitting that you're an enabler is a huge step.

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NEWCHINELO 11/19/2012 11:46AM

    Thanks!

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BEINGTHEFABMRSK 11/19/2012 11:04AM

    Great Blog! Beautifully said!
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NEWTINK 11/19/2012 11:01AM

    I am not sure if you were reading my blog but that is a quote I use and have come to live by .. it isnt easy but sometimes we have to put us first ... You are doing excellent emoticon .. emoticon

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LAURIE5658 11/19/2012 10:52AM

    What a great blog and thank you!

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JOANNHUNT 11/19/2012 9:36AM

    emoticon blog and so true. We all try to be there for family and friends and end being in the way. emoticon for sharing your amazing thoughts. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MIMIDOT 11/19/2012 9:26AM

    Great blog! Thank you for sharing. You gave me something to think about. Take care of yourself and keep sparking.

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ILIKETOZUMBA 11/19/2012 9:13AM

    Amen!

Great blog. :)

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NEWMOM20121 11/19/2012 8:30AM

    Thank you for sharing.

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KBRADFORD88 11/19/2012 8:15AM

    As a fellow recovering fixer, I wish you the best as you try to walk this journey.

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KANOE10 11/19/2012 8:14AM

    That is a great blog. That is a very nice analogy with Spark always being there for you as it your old walking trail.
It is hard to know what to do with helping others., I also want to rescue people..and it is hard because that does not always work..Tough love can be needed..but it is hard.

I hope the walk helped you feel better.

You are so right about weight loss getting derailed or feeling unfair at times. We have no choice but to keep walking on that path and getting support from Spark.

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REGILIEH 11/19/2012 7:28AM

    I really enjoyed your blog! Excellent insight!

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PENOWOK 11/19/2012 7:15AM

    I can sure relate!

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