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The Scale

Sunday, November 18, 2012

That darned old scale!!! Just when we think we have it all figured out and we can predict its every movement, every bob and weave; from clear out of nowhere it throws a curve ball, high and tight. Sometimes we stand and stare at it, often with a modicum of contempt, daring it to inch higher. We become angry. Some of us have even been known to hurl epithets at the darned thing and threaten to throw it out the window. How dare it show us gaining weight?

When I was really young I never really grasped the concept of the first commandment: “Thou shalt not have strange gods before me.” None of my friends had altars with four headed dragons who spouted fire. None of their parents dressed in tribal robes, shaking shrunken heads on the front lawn!!! It had no meaning. Then, I met The Scale. I weigh on Saturday morning. I have a hard time sleeping Friday night. I start reviewing everything that went into my mouth the previous week and even some foods I simply lusted after in my mind and heart. Will the scale know? I always position it in the exact same place and wear the same clothes and weigh in at almost exactly the same time each week. After all a controlled environment works best, correct? I approach the scale with reverence and respect. As I enter its holy sanctuary I’ve often wondered if I should have candles burning. My lower lip trembles as I ascend the steps one at a time. Is it me or does the scale glow? Is it me, or do I hear a faint rumbling and a low deep chuckle? That can’t be lightening outside the bathroom window is it? There is that moment, as the scale cycles though, that all of time stands still. I look down waiting, heart in my throat. Then it renders its verdict. Maybe that choir in the hallway is singing “O Happy Day,” or is that the sound of a funeral dirge moving closer and closer that I hear? My existence hinges on that digital readout. My self-esteem hangs on that weekly evaluation.

Maybe you’re laughing right now. “Oh John,” you say. “You have such a way with words but you’re exaggerating.” Really, I’m exaggerating? Query me this dearest ones. If that’s the case and I’m following some flight of frenzy why is it we have those insidious little weight tickers? Why do we define ourselves as having lost or having gained? Why are the most popular blogs on any weight loss sites the ones that have the good old “Before and After” pictures or the details of how someone lost a ton of weight? What about the healthy people who aren’t stick thin? We live in a world that emphasizes what should be rather than what is. Are you happy, are you healthy, are you adopting different nutritional strategies? Are you bouncing to the gym or in the family room and down the street more than you used to? Then my friend, you are a success. You are move your “is” towards your “should be.” Did you ever stop to think that such a large number of amazing, wonderful and loving, caring people converge on the same web site each day by chance? Scale be damned, you’re amazing and you grow more amazing each day and I am glad you are part of my life even if it’s only in a virtual fashion.
I wrote this blog to support my Spark Friend JENNYBOYKIN. She’s going through the same stuff you and I do and she’s a bit discouraged. I feel all of these things from time to time and I’ll hazard a guess so do you. The good news is we are here to love and support each other and to me, that is worth a lot.

I had a 1.4 pound gain last week. You still love me don’t ya?

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SPARKLISE 11/23/2012 6:24AM

    I can totally relate to the scale "God".
But you siad it better than I ever could. emoticon

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SNOWANGELDIVA 11/22/2012 11:48AM

    "I’ve often wondered if I should have candles burning." I gut laughed, not of disrespect, but, familiarity. I was becoming a devote follower of The Scale and I sought daily it's blessed opinion. It was an emotional disaster.
I'm grounded to once a week to keep things in perspective, but, not my main focus.

I love your encouraging words and humour.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/20/2012 10:33PM

    I should weight more actually but have decided not to be a slave to the scale. I am going to judge my health by how I feel.

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TERESAKLE 11/20/2012 1:53PM

  I should'nt laugh at your 1.4 but you make it so darn funny! Hope this week the scale will be leaning to the lighter side.


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HLPRATT 11/20/2012 11:52AM

    You know I never really understood the scale. Sometimes I'm bad and it doesn't reflect it. Sometimes I'm good and the scale doesn't agree. I just know I can't put too much stock in it. I've just got to hang in there doing what I know to be right and it will all come out in the end

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WORKINGSTIFF 11/20/2012 10:02AM

    Honestly, I bought a digital scale, but never use it. There are too many variables and uncontrolable factors that go into that number, especially if you're a woman.

I don't think it's healthy mentally to be obsessed and consumed by "a number."

There are people who will read this and think, "Well, she's in denial." No, not really--a number I pay more attention to is the number of minutes I spend working out each week. Another number I pay attention to is my blood pressure. My cholesteral numbers. The number of hours of sleep I get each night. My pant size. How many times do I laugh really hard in a day?

All of these numbers give a truer indication of overall health, not just that number on the scale. How would one explain an anorexic? Starving to death, literally, but hey! that number is great!

Scales have their place, true, but don't give them more room than they deserve in life.

And one of the most important numbers? How many loved ones, how many good friends are in my life? How many people do I touch in a meaningful way every day?

Of course, you are still loved! Take care!

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JLLOVETT 11/19/2012 3:40PM

    I so needed to read this today - my scale hasn't budged in two weeks!!!!
Thanks for your inspiration!!! And yes, we still love ya!

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LYNMEINDERS 11/19/2012 2:33AM

    Brilliant points John...we do all go through exactly what you have written....and we allow that darn scale to rule us....ugh

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CRYSTALJEM 11/18/2012 11:49PM

    Excellent points. Thanks. CJ

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NASFKAB 11/18/2012 10:10PM


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NAYKNITS 11/18/2012 9:31PM

    emoticon I needed this today!

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REGILIEH 11/18/2012 8:43PM

    ABSOLUTELY!!! You are loved by multitudes!!! Whatever your size but for your own good we do wish you to be healthy! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MOBYCARP 11/18/2012 8:37PM

    Even in maintenance, I wrestle with controlling my attitude toward the scale. Yes, I want the weight to move sideways. Yes, I'm controlling it in a range from 160-163. But somehow, a movement from 162 to 161 feels like a Good Thing and a movement from 161 to 162 feels like a Bad Thing. Go figure.

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TRISTAROSE 11/18/2012 7:10PM

    For Sure!


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CARTOONB 11/18/2012 6:29PM

    Your scale glows too?!?!? Does it laugh maniacally? Or is that just mine? I do weigh myself every day, but I don't let the scale determine how I feel about myself or the mood I'll be in. I'm trying to teach it that is just a tool to help keep me where I am happy and healthy. It can learn, right?

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/18/2012 6:28PM

    I'm overloaded on Sparking this weekend, having spent it with old friends I was meeting for the first time in person. Spark really is about all you said, and you are preaching to the choir here.

It's funny, but to offer hope to those who are coming in for the first time, we offer our success stories. Hopefully the in-between Sparker also sees the "tough time" blogs and finds encouragement. We ARE wonderful, just for not giving up. Even when we slip up, even when we gain. This is one great community! emoticon

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JENNYBOYKIN 11/18/2012 5:00PM


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SHERIO5 11/18/2012 4:27PM

    Timely.... emoticon emoticon

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JENAE954 11/18/2012 3:49PM

  Love ya?
Of course no matter what!

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BLUEROSE73 11/18/2012 2:01PM

    definitely. And I fully understand your struggle with the scale. I'm sure we all do

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LOOKY-LOU 11/18/2012 12:36PM

    Yup, still love you! And REALLY REALLY needed your words this morning.

Thank you!


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BOOKAPHILE 11/18/2012 12:25PM

    Yes, of course!

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SIMPLY-4-ME 11/18/2012 11:25AM

    Always. emoticon

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DEBRITA01 11/18/2012 11:03AM

    Sure do. Someone once told me "the scale is a fickle lover" true. emoticon

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SLIMLEAF 11/18/2012 10:59AM

    Oh, yes, John! Yes, I do!

Thank you SO much for your blog today. I gained nearly 4lb in just a matter of days last week - so unfair after it took me weeks to lose 1.75lb, with very careful weighing, measuring and tracking of everything I ate. That's why I knew you weren't exaggerating when you wrote about your self-esteem being determined by the number on the scale on a Saturday morning. My self=esteem and motivation have taken a major nose-dive this week when my efforts seem to have been in vain.

But instead you reminded us that we're much more important and, indeed, valuable than our body weight. Hard to take in, but true nonetheless. Feel free to remind me of it as often as you like!

*BIG HUG* from a grateful English friend.

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ALLISON145 11/18/2012 10:53AM

  Always, John. :-)


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LIFEISPURRFECT 11/18/2012 10:46AM

    You are a mind reader. You have such a way with words and putting pen to paper. Thank you so much for verbalizing what I have been struggling with for the past few months. Yes, we are amazing and will continue to be amazing.

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INBRAZILFORNOW 11/18/2012 10:37AM

    I grow more amazing each day... words to get me through! Thanks for posting this!

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LANEYPUDDLESMOM 11/18/2012 10:36AM

    I must say John. I simply love Thank you so much for this today. I simply needed it!!! I Thank God for people like you..a person who has a way with words that can make your spirit soar. I Thank you for making me laugh as I took this "trip to your scale with you..I could see it all happening as if I were right with you. Thank God you were dressed. I appreciate that!!! lol. It is true..all of it..every last funny word..Thank you for making my day a bit brighter..Imogene aka LaneyPuddlesMom emoticon

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HDHAWK 11/18/2012 10:34AM

    I sure do John! I only lost .2 and I know exactly why. It isn't the fault of the scale.

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