Saturday, November 17, 2012
I have been pondering this theme for the last few days just trying to find one, just one memory that was good for this holiday. It has not been easy and I don't think I will come up with one holiday that I would like to relive completely, but perhaps more of just simple snid-bits of the parts that I remember making me really happy.
I know while growing up each and every thanksgiving was the exact same. My parents always bought a HUGE turkey, the biggest one they could find which was usually between 18 to 25lbs. The meal was the exact same every single year, Turkey of course the main show with real mashed potatoes, corn, green beans, turkey gravy, out of the bag dinner rolls, turkey gravy, stuffing with the gizzards, olives, pickles and canned jellied cranberries. Oh of course my mother made real pumpkin pies every single year from our garden. No one was allowed to help her except for dad and that was very little....She always wanted all of the credit of making such a feast. Then before sitting down to eat we had to all stand behind the table all together and have our picture taken in front of this feast that was placed before us(oh we HAD to dress in our Sunday best for most of the day as well). Afterwards we. Meaning my mother and myself cleaned up and did the dishes and such. Then it was 7up with cranberry juice as a “cocktail”. I remember in the morning we would watch the parades on TV and in the evening it was usually what ever family special was on, I mostly remember it begin ET. Our day was never concluded with out a fight or two between me and mother or mother and grandma(her mom).
As an adult for the most part I haven't made thanksgiving meal but a handful of times in the last 17yrs. When I first moved to TX and was engaged to DH at the time we went to his families for Thanksgiving and was totally different, I cant seem to recall the minute details anymore but all I know is that everyone was allowed to pitch in, there was no high levels of tension. Then the year I was pregnant with DD I tried making Thanksgiving out of a box that United Grocery store was selling, well lets just say it was a disaster...lol. Not only from the fact that all the food to look at made me feel sick, I didnt cook very well at the time either. The next Thanksgiving I truly remember is when DD was a little over two and DS was 9 months and I did a whole layout like what my mother would have done and got pictures of the kids with the food, but for some reason that just didn't feel like “our” holiday but rather a reminder on how mine were growing up.
Then there was the first Thanksgiving that we went to as my family with my mother, dad, sister, and brother when we first moved back to WI . Still mother was the same way not wanting any help of any kind. She just did it her usual way and as always she found someone to harass all evening long, my grandmother. Also a fight between myself and my mother over something so little that she blew up over, and all I was trying to do was help. After that I really haven't done a true thanksgiving meal as such. I have prepared Turkey and dressing and cranberries and ham and homemade dinner rolls but just no on a particular day, for one I haven't had a kitchen big enough for me to prepare such a huge meal and two I just felt horribly remembering all of my “thanksgiving” days. So our day doesnt surround around the meal but instead on other family things. We may watch the parade together in the morning and then football in the afternoon and what ever movies we may like in the evening....its a day of togetherness and NOT about the food dished.