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My Guy's Tribute

Friday, November 16, 2012

Tal is the type of person that people liked…just because.
As I met with his many friends, I heard many stories of how he touched their lives. It was so heart-warming and comforting to me to have confirmed what I already knew: Tal was a pretty cool guy!

I could hear laughter during the visitations yesterday; roaring laughter, at times, from both old and newer friends. And I heard a few stories where his quick reflexes and quicker mind saved a few people’s lives. Some I had heard from Tal, but most were ones that he had down-played his part or I hadn’t heard yet. That’s the kind of person he was; willing to do what he could to improve the lives of those he loved and thinking nothing of it.

Many people thought he was shy. He might not have talked a lot when he had conversations but that’s because he was a private person. Crowds weren’t his thing, but he did like being around people. You could often find him on the edge of a crowd having a great conversation with a select few. And then he wasn’t shy. He could talk up a storm if you let him.

He loved nature and the great outdoors. When we chose the house to buy, he insisted on having more than half an acre. He might have grumbled about all the work that came with so much yard, but he always felt so accomplished when it was done.

He loved seeing:
- A garage full of winter wood
- The whole yard mowed, since it was all done by body power
- The rhododendron, “Rhody”, in full bloom for 2 weeks a year
- The door yard plowed out after a big snow storm

He enjoyed sitting in our screen tent in the woods of the back yard. Listening to the nature and feeling a cool breeze on a hot summer day is how he liked to wind down after a hard, hot day at work. Air-conditioners were nice, but he would rather be outside.

He was the only person who helped me get over my phobia of flying bugs, just so I could spend time outdoors with him. That’s just the kind of man he was.

He loved his children and often thought about them. He kept pictures of them throughout the house. He also kept a photo of his father on the toolbox in the garage so he could see Marven every day. He talked about his sister at least once every other day. “We should email Tina soon, maybe on the weekend”, he would often say.

He had a few favourite songs. “Freedom” by Colin James was his most favourite. “Here For A Good Time” by Trooper was another one … that was his philosophy in life. And over the years, he even came to consider a couple of “Duran Duran” songs his favourites too. “Skin Divers” meant a lot to him and “Come Undone” was our song. I’m pretty sure I helped in those choices.:-D

For all the vehicles and engines he’s worked on over the years, he wasn’t an antique car kind-of-guy, though he did have some favourites. He loved the green Jeep we drove for several years. The Jeep might have been rusty, but the sound of a roaring engine and a rumble from the exhaust always put a smile on his face.

There were a lot of people and situations and things that brought a smile to his face. And when he laughed, it was genuine and came from the heart.

You told me once not to cry for you when you died. OK, so that didn’t happen.

So when I cry during the next little while, please remember that there IS laughter mixed in.

And in the months and years to come, the laughter will increase and the crying will subside.

I love you, Talbot.

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    My god Jo you have a way with words. Absolutely beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. MUch love to you honey. Keep on taking good care of yourself.
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    1944 days ago
    A beautiful tribute. He was a special guy.
    1948 days ago
  • LINDAF49
    Precious, honoring and healing ..What a GUY He was and will ever be in your heart, in your eyes and in your tears and laughter. Gentle hugs ...May your mentoring of how to greive serve us all well in our times of need.. You have been a blessing to my heart today because you could share your Guy with us.
    1949 days ago
    Oh, Jo! C'est touchant! Tu avais parlé de cet hommage plus tôt et tu disais que tu ne serais pas capable de le recopier (pour le moment) ... Ça a dû te prendre beaucoup de courage pour le faire hier.

    Dans notre correspondance, avant son décès, tu avais parlé peu de ton amoureux, mais je savais déjà que c'était un homme vraiment extraordinaire et que c'était l'amour de ta vie. Merci d'avoir partagé avec nous un autre morceau de ce qu'il était pour toi. Je suis heureuse pour toi que tu puisses l'avoir connu et avoir partagé ta vie pendant plusieurs années avec lui. C'est un grand cadeau de l'existence. C'est vraiment désolant qu'il soit parti si vite et si jeune.

    Je pense à toi souvent. Que ta vie soit à nouveau remplie de paix intérieure et de joie de vivre. Prends bien soin de toi.

    Gros hug,
    1949 days ago
    Jo...after reading that, anything I could say would be incredibly inadequate. Your words are simple but moving. I think I would have liked Tal. I would have liked the challenge of drawing him out or being one of the few on the outskirts he liked to talk to. I'm so glad for the time you did have him in your life. You were very blessed! XO Mo
    1950 days ago
    How nice Jo. Love that there is laughter mixed in. You are an amazing woman!!
    1950 days ago
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