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Thursday, November 15, 2012

Dr. Phil says all the the time " their perception is their reality" . To make a change of a lifetime . You have to change your perception of reality plain and simple. Oh god I use to think I could be some sexy super model. Blonde hair, blue eyes, legs from hell. I had dreams of the day when I would walk into a room and every head would turn as I floated across the room in the most delicious of stilettos. My hair would flow in the wind . I wouldnt only be thin I would have that perfect hour glass shape.

*ok now get up the floor and stop laughing hard .. gesshhh

I would try and try and well as soon as i beat myself up enough , I resign back to the couch with a whole range of assorted " you are fine just the way you are " foods. You know Lay's , little debbie , milky way, oh and wonderful gallons of coke.
Yep didnt see anything wrong with the world after that .. Right?

Now reality can bite you in the tail or you can learn from your fantasy. So attach how bad my fantasy was . First I have very short auburn hair , it is not likely ever going to be blonde or flow any where. Blue eyes really mine are hazel for god sake. Legs from hell , well after loosing eighty plus pounds they sure arent chop liver with all the walking I have done. Delicious Stilettos well pumps are not a good thing for my feet so I am sure that stilettos are never going to be an option but at 5'9 do I really want to be another six inches taller any way. Thin, there is a limit to the madness . My body is not designed to be thin , it is designed to weigh healthy between 165 and 180. So thin is out I will never be less than 150 at the low end and honestly I dont want to be that .

When I stopped living in the Neverland dreams I came to the reality that What i want is to be me in a healthier and yes a smaller body. But that came with a lot soul searching , tears and honesty. When you set goals make them realistic to you and your body. I am the only one who determine what is my reality and I am so glad that I have turned my perception to a point that it has hopes of being my reality. Reality is much better when your Neverland is actually obtainable.

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    You know - I think my neverland dreams have kept me from seeing the progress I HAVE made... I still envision success as weighing in the 120's - being stick thin. I have lost 85 lbs and everyone tells me how great I look - yada, yada, yada... I have not ever really believed them - I want to shake them and say, "yes - but I'm not THIN yet..." Then I saw a photo of me from behind at church - my husband pointed me out in the photo and I argued with him that it couldn't be me - cause I was not that slender. he laughed and said - see the reading glasses on your head - that IS you...
    And it was me. In my mind, if I am not Twiggy, then I am still a whale... Weird.
    So here's to success - to us making real solid progress - becoming healthier, stronger, fitter and smaller. Here's hoping that we both embrace reality - not just grudgingly - but with joy...
    1770 days ago
    emoticon I can so relate to this, I spent my first 30 years wanted to look and be someone that I can never be. The last 12 yrs I have come to the slow realization that my body is what it is and it's never going look like a super model or a beauty queen. I'm just working toward have a healthy weight and I think I will be just fine with that!
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    1771 days ago
    SUCH a great post! I look at the media pictures we are always innundated with (right now a SP advertiser is White House Black Market and staring at me from the side bar is a beautiful woman with long flowing blond hair and a beautiful suit on that wouldn't even fit one of my legs) and quite frankly, I DON'T want to be like that...but I also have a lot of trouble actually visualizing my goal without that kind of input.

    Hah, I guess really I just want to be 18 again and completely oblivious to my a healthy athletic way! :-P

    Have a great weekend!
    1775 days ago
    Yeah I think my goal is still a little bit in Neverland. It's hard to imagine where I want to be because I've always been big, but I'm trying to aim for something realistic.
    1775 days ago
    Very True. Thank you for the reminder! emoticon
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