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the visit was very emotional

Thursday, November 15, 2012

Good Morning: I just came back 2 days ago and I had to spend up till now just getting over it. My elderly friend was a mess emotionally. She says she prays daily not to wake up. she is extremely depressed, has a hard time breathing and walking. I tried to help on any occasion that I could see or feel she needed me. She is a VERY, stubborn woman. She still drives and had the leaves raked before I got there. She talks baby talk now which I was surprised. Her voice is very high and child like. She is regressing and dressing up all her stuff animals with clothes. It was overwhelming at times. She would not let me take her out to lunch. She shakes and all she talked about was how she wanted to die and God gave her a horrible life. emoticon DH is up in Detroit coming home soon. He is feeling over confidence and he can get snotty if I do not call him on it. Other friend in NY who has Hep C from a blood transfusion. I had lunch with her- I did not recognize her she has lost so much weight her face is sunken in. She looks like a size 1. She is trying to get into a trial for new drugs for HEP C. I am glad I went but I was so depressed leaving. I may not see these people alive again.
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1MANKNEY 11/18/2012 12:16PM

    I always think it is better to go see people who are ill while they are alive and can appreciate your visit than to wait and go to the funeral. Good for you for taking the time and effort to do this. emoticon

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PRAIRIECROCUS 11/17/2012 11:14PM

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MERRYMARY42 11/16/2012 4:46PM

    so glad you are home, I just can't seem to get back on track since my trip to Iowa, so busy, (busy work) and have trouble finding the time for Sparks, sounds like you need a trip to the gym, hoping home is more relaxing, did you see much from Sandy while you were in NY?
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BARCLE 11/16/2012 2:37AM

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MJ7DM33 11/15/2012 5:18PM

  Yes, a workout sounds like a great idea! emoticon

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DR1939 11/15/2012 2:02PM

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DIANNEMT 11/15/2012 12:53PM

    Ir is so hard to see friends failing. But you have been there for them so you are doing the right things. Get a great workout--burn off some of the stress.

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SUNSET09 11/15/2012 11:06AM

  The important thing is that you have been there for them and the fellowship is welcoming. It can always be a trying time and we try to hold on as long as we can. Continue to pray for their and your health and strength to endure. Prayfully, we live long enough, we can live a healthy life. They know that they are loved! Go and work off of that stress! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BARBANNA 11/15/2012 11:03AM

    Sorry you have had to endure so much grief. I hear the same stories when I visits patients in a nursing home. It often takes me a day or two to emotionally transfer the grief to something like exercise. I tend to hold on to it as if I think I can make it go away. You did the best thing possible and that is listen. Sometimes the pitty party is worse when someone else is listening. I don't questiion these people have lots of problems but the attitude they have toward them is faulty.

Keep your chin up and be positive!

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1CRAZYDOG 11/15/2012 10:22AM

    OH my. HUGS! I'd need a good workout too with the stress!

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HEALTHY-SPARK 11/15/2012 10:19AM

    Yikes. Sounds like you had a tough visit. It is sad to watch someone deteriorate in front of our eyes (recently saw this with my grandmother). I am sure that she appreciated your visit. Hope you have a good workout and great day today.

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