Wednesday, November 14, 2012
well--i met my girlfriend yesterday--it was such a lovely time. i actually had breakfast with two of my dearest friends. the first--ardene--is my dearest friend in all the world. i can't begin to describe her, but she is one of the most loving and mentally clever people i have ever known. in the last 6 years she has given up a great deal to care for first her aging dad who slowly died of parkinsons, and now her mother who has alzheimers. add this to being a constantly involved and endlessly loving grandmother to a large group of grandkids, she also runs the household where all the neighborhood kids congregate for icecream and bike riding excursions. children are drawn to her like a magnet and i can see why. we often have long periods of time where we don't see each other, but we both know the other is "out there" so when we reconnect its like no time has passed.
the other person is my friend marianne--we have become as close to sisters as two people can be. we share so much between us, and our time together feels so easy and natural. ardene and marianne met when ardene moved into her new house. she needed some painting done and marianne was looking for work, so she helped ardene paint the house. they became fast friends during this time--they have a lot in common. so marianne and i went to the park with the dogs and then met ardene for late breakfast. i had eaten some yogurt and half a piece of cranberry bread at 5, and we met at 10 and i had oatmeal and toast. no protein, but the idea of oatmeal just sounded really good. we visited until noon, so i just called it my lunch and had protein for my 3 pm snack.
ardene told us that the time for a nursing home is fast approaching. she had promised her dad she would care for her mom until she no longer was able to recognize family members and her actions became a safety risk. she is nearly there now. we arranged to meet next tuesday and i am thinking i will just set aside tuesday mornings for my friend since she is going to need support now. and marianne has free time then too, so the both of us can rally around this dear person and walk alongside her in this journey. this transition is going to be terribly hard for her--she know it has to happen, but its not going to be easy. i feel like i now have a chance to be the kind of friend to her that she has been to so many people in the past. knowing her has made me a better person in so many ways--and now i can pay her back for that.
in other news--sharon's Christmas card is done--and printed--ready to send out. my printer gave me fits, but its all done now. here is the card: all the elements in the picture are very personal to sharon--they tell a story about what has been going on in her life this year. when i do cards for people i let them dictate exactly how they want the card and i just act as a conduit for their ideas. sharon always depicts her dogs as people--that is what they are to her. the one with the wings and halo is little bruno, who just recently passed away. the other two are bette and willow, her two clumber spaniels. the little sock monkey is significant in a way i haven't heard about yet--she has promised to tell me the story.